I just don't know where else to vent about this so sorry :rolleyes:
I live in a VERY rural town in the middle of Utah (the middle of nowhere). I grew up in the 2nd largest CITY in Utah, lived there my whole life. It is quite different to live in a rural town after living in a city your whole life. Russ and Savanna are the only REAL family I have in town, his parents are complete a**holes and they live 4 miles away from us. They are just BARELY starting to actually be grandparents to Savanna, but my MIL (Russ' stepmom) is a complete biotch and doesn't like me (can't say I like her too much either). Anyway.....we don't get along, and all of my family (who I am VERY close to) lives at least 2 hours, some upwards of 4 hours away. I really don't get to get out of town all that often to see my family, maybe once every few months. EVERYTIME I plan a trip to go see family, my dh has a complete tantrum about it....he says I go out of town ALL the time, and we don't have the money for gas, I just want to be away from him, etc. etc. etc. (he doesn't ever want to go WITH me of course)
Well this weekend is my grandma's 90th birthday party, my mom and her brothers and sisters planned a party for her and everyone is going to be there, my grandpa (who is almost 94), aunts, uncles, cousins, brothers, sisters, neices, nephews, etc. and also my sister had a baby on March 30th who I have yet to meet (my sister and I are VERY close) so I was planning a 2 for 1 weekend, go up and go to the birthday party and meet my new neice. Well apparently that is too much to ask of my dh. He has known about this since February, and I have told him I was going no matter what. He has been an a**hole to me for the last 2 days, to the point that I started bawling last night. He just doesn't get it, he is not very close with his family, his mom died when he was young, and his dad pretty much just gave up on all 5 of his kids when his wife died. They had a terrible childhood. So he doesn't get it that I am super super close to my family and that I miss them living so far away from them....not to mention that the last time my sister had a baby, I lived a mile away from her, so was able to be there all the time.
I was planning on leaving tonight after work, so I would get up there late tonight, and I would be leaving Sunday morning. He thinks I should wait and go up tomorrow morning, meaning I wouldn't get there until late morning, just in time to go to my grandma's party, meaning all the time I'll get to spend with my new neice is a few hours if that (my sis and baby aren't going to the party, she's too young to be around all those people). He says I just make excuses to go up north. I said um....my grandma is turning 90....he said people have birthdays all the time.....JERK. Then I said, also my sister just had a baby who I have yet to meet....he said yea it's her 5th baby I'm sure you'll meet her eventually....REALLY?!! Oh my hell.
sorry this is so long, I just had to yell a little. I still don't feel better about it though