Anyone else have a hitter, Jack hits when he's mad, but also at other times, playing, just because, I am really at my wits end, we have done time outs, bedroom time, holding his hands down, talking to him, telling him he's hurting mommy, daddy, the dog etc., I have spanked a few times, but I HATE to hit because he's hitting. Sometimes he has "that look in his eye" and I know it's coming. Just not sure where to go from here. He's been super testy lately, doing the opposite of everything I ask. I try to engage him in activities, we paint, play, go outside almost every day, he cuts paper, plays in beans and rice, playdough, I work with children with autism and have been trying to implement everything with precise consistency as I would encourage my parents to do, but nothing's working and it is seriously making me crazy, my DH has him while I'm at work and he listens a little better to him, but he's getting hit too. His language is great, lots of words, 5 to 6 word sentences. So I don't think it's language frustrations. He really has a hard time when I tell him no. Maybe it's just him being almost 3. But doing what I do, I know how important early intervention is and am wondering if there is something underlying. My ped brushed it off as him being 2 and told me to be consistent (I am), I guess I'm wondering if I should have him evaluated, or if I am just over reacting. Maybe I'll try a reward chart but don't know if he's too young?
Thanks for any and all advice