I am at my wits end! When did my 2 year old son adopt the sleeping habits of a newborn?!?!?! GAH!
Sorry ladies, this will be long.
Back when Eli was still in a crib, bedtime was pretty easy. Lay him down at bedtime with a sippy of milk, a soother, and a blankie, and he'd drift off to sleep. Sometimes he would lay awake talking to himself for 20 minutes or so, but he'd eventually go to sleep without any fuss.
In November, he learned how to climb out of his crib. The minute he was done his milk, he'd hop out of the crib and open his bedroom door. We'd have to sit by his door and field all his escapee attempts. Put him back in his crib (he couldn't get back in) and leave the room. He'd be out of his crib again by the time we closed the bedroom door!
Within a week or two, we bought a toddler bed. We'd put him to bed, sit beside his bed for a couple minutes, help him settle down after his milk was gone, then quietly leave the room and hope he'd go to sleep. It was the same story as the week before. We'd end up spending 2 hours sitting by his bedroom door sending him back to bed every 35 seconds. He would stay in bed if we stayed in the room, but it was still taking him over an hour to fall asleep! (I don't know about you, but I don't have a spare 2 hours at 8 pm! I have things that need to get done!)
We decided to move his bed downstairs to his sisters room, because we thought maybe he just didn't want to go to sleep alone. It took some getting used to (about 3 weeks) but the time it took him to fall asleep was shorter and eventually, we could put them both to bed, lie with them for 15 minutes, the leave the room and they'd go to sleep. (With the occasional escape, once every few days)
Things were continuing on like this since about January until around last week. Eli is back to taking over 2 hours to fall asleep, he FREAKS out when it's bedtime, and he won't even lie down in his bed. He keeps asking for more milk (last night he had 30 oz!) and just gets out of bed and wanders around the room, keeping his sister up. He's opening the door every 2 minutes.If you go in to lie with him, he only stays lying down with you for 5 minutes, then he sits up and refuses to lie down!
Obviously.....he is not ready for bed?!?!?! Do I really have to give up his nap????? He is sleeping anywhere from 9-10 hours at night, with a 2 hour nap during the day. He used to not fight his nap or bedtime, now he is fighting BOTH. The past week I am forcing him to take his nap, and it takes 45 minutes just to get him down. Add that to the 2 hours at night, and I am wasting 3 hours a day on fruitless efforts!
Obviously he'd be ready for bed at 8 pm if he hadn't napped. But I don't think he can make it thorough the day without the nap, no matter how much he fights it! He'd meltdown by 3 pm, I'm sure of it. Then he'd fall asleep until 5 pm and not go to bed until midnight.
Any advice? What do I do with this psycho kid? We are doing a bedtime routine - we brush teeth, sit together and read stories (at least 6!) then the kids lie down and I sing them a few songs while Eli is having his milk. Then I usually stay for another 10 minutes, then leave them to go to bed.
Are your kids still napping? My DD napped until she was 3, and I felt even that was hard to give up. I know all kids are different, but Eli is such a handful, I still NEED that nap from him!
Last night he didn't go down until 10:15 pm (we started bedtime at 7:50 pm) and he had 30 oz of milk before going down. Mega thirsty because it is dry?? Then he was up FOUR times in the night!!!!!!! Each time we have to take him back down to bed and sometimes even get him more milk.
Also, he is in a toddler bed. We are considering getting a twin instead (my DD went straight to a twin, but I was trying to save space by putting Eli in a toddler bed, since the rooms are small and they are sharing, plus all the toys are in the room too!) A twin might help because we could actually lie with him properly.
Going insane. And sleep deprived!
ETA: I feel like I can't even reason with him either. He still is barely talking, and I'm not sure his comprehension level is where it should be. I feel like I can't even say, "No more! It's bedtime!" because he doesn't even know what I mean!