Ever since i worked all week last week... after spending 6 weeks at home... after a month of only working 2 days a week..... Ellie has been having some terrible twos moments. like spends half the day either throwing a fit or sitting in time-out. She won't eat foods that i know she likes, refuses to wait even 2 seconds for something... like she throws a fit by the time i stand up to get what she asked for... and has been testing her limits more than ever before.
its probably just a phase where she's learning what she can do and what we will do to respond, combined with occasional missed naps and schedule changes.
She's been really good for all her sitters though, like, lays herself down for naps when she WILL NOT do that for me.
i am having moments where i wonder if i've been spoiling her too much, or been inconsistant with my responses, wonder if having less of a routine or a routine that it not typical for kids her age is making her misbehave, but i'm pretty sure thats not the root problem, at the same time,i HATE explaining her misbehavior with the phrase "she's 2" but thats kind of what it is. she's learning her limits and consequences. and its driving me batty.
SO... to keep myself sane... anyone have any ideas? i wish i could look forward to certain times to wind down and not have to deal with her, i'd love to go to a fitness class or something, but i feel guilty enough leaving her while i work (which is a pretty inconsistant schedule) and having to take care of Bubba instead of giving her attention, so i dont want to spend more time away from her, but if i need it to keep from losing my temper several times a day, then its being thoughtful instead of selfish... right? The other thing is that DH has enough trouble when i take a shower and he has to take care of the kids, much less when i work for a few hrs when he's off work, so i don't want to dump them on him a run off, but he's a parent too... and he has firefighter classes several nights a week on top of work, so thats fair... right? Mentally i know its a good choice for me to get out of the house without the kids, but the actual logistics of leaving them with DH gets tough (insert whining and getting house dirty then leaving it for me to clean up) because by the time i go through that, it seems like less stress just to stay home instead of go unwind.