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Hi January 10 mommies! I have a Feb/Mar 10 baby who just turned a year and I am very new to this whole weaning thing when it comes to bfing. My son was already on total formula by now so I just switched him from formula to whole milk and that was that.
I guess I'm just curious of you mamas who are still bfing how often they are nursing and for how long, how much whole milk they drink in one day, and if they they self-weaned some themselves or if you weaned them some, etc.
Anyway, I just want a picture of what it might be like for us in a few months!

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Your boys are so cute! I nursed both of my boys up until a bit after they were a year old. At that point I started offering milk in their cup at meal time and still nursing them whenever they wanted, but both were eating a lot of solids and had already cut down to nursing 4-5 times a day by the time they were 11 months so after introducing cow's milk my busy guys both got the idea that it was pretty nice to have milk on the go and gradually started nursing less and less during the day. The last nursing session to let go for DS1 was first thing in the morning since that was our snuggle time. He would come to bed with me in the morning and nurse for a little while and maybe doze again before getting up for the day. DS2 on the other hand, since DS1 is up and running first thing, never got into that habit. Our snuggle time is in the evening. DH puts DS1 to bed and DS2 liked to nurse and snuggle then, but since it was the last of our nursing times by about 13 months he was getting frustrated there wasn't much for him so I started offering him a cup and a snuggle and that's what we do now. I have heard about other kids who didn't want to wean and mom was ready and others who completely wean themselves and mom wasn't ready so every child is different. Both of my boys are pretty easy going so I let them take the lead on it.

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My son is almost 14 months, and I started the weaning process at 12 months. I figured he was ready because he was only nursing at nap/bed times and never showed any interest during the day anymore. I started by stopping the nursing before his morning nap because it was always the shortest and he didn't need it to sleep. I did that for a month, then this month I have stopped nursing before bedtime, again because it was the shotest and he had no trouble sleeping without it. My plan is to continue doing that until he doesn't nurse at all (fingers crossed I'll be done before the end of May). I have had some issues with this though. He'll only nurse on the left side, so not only am I lopsided, but my right side is still producing a very small amount that I have to express every once in a while. He also has no interest in cows milk, so it's a daily struggle to try to get him to get enough dairy. Lucky he eats a lot of yogurt, but I'm still trying to figure out what the key is to getting him to make the switch to cows milk. I think any way you do it, you'll have struggles, but so long as it's a very slow process and stress-free for you and your son, you should be fine.

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I have a different situation. When I found out I was pregnant I started cutting back on nursing to only nap and bedtimes, he didn't seem to notice much a slowly I've cut out his nap nursing, though he occasionally still does. He still nurses for sure at bedtime but sometimes at his morning nap too. I have NO milk left at this point, not even a little so I'm hoping he'll stop on his own soon but the lack of milk so far doesn't seem to bother him at all Lol
I started offering whole milk at 1 and a few weeks later, really pushing it (when I found out I was pregnant). He really didn't start drinking enough that I was comfortable with until the last month or so. He'll drink at least 2 full sippy cups of milk now, sometimes he'll have a little of a 3rd. At this point I'm not offering and I'll discourage and try to redirect him if it's not bedtime, but if he absolutely won't take his morning nap until he nurses I'll still nurse him.

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Thanks guys! My nurser is actually a girl, but it's a bath pic so you can't really tell. Smile

I just recently cut out her night feeding as she doesn't get much out of it. So now she nurses three times a day - once in the morning, once around lunch, and once in the afternoon. My issue is DH and I want to get away for our 5th anniversary in June and while I don't need her to be totally weaned by then, I do need her (and my boobs) to be able to live w/o it for 2-3 days. But part of me really doesn't want to try to wean her because I love it too much! So since she will be around 15 months by then, I wanted to see what my situation might look like.
She does drink whole milk, but on a good day it's one small sippy cup full total.

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That gives you quite some time to get her nursing less (maybe just once or twice a day) and drinking milk more. Is pumping an option for you? I would think that it wouldn't be crazy to take the pump with you and pump once or twice a day while you're on vacation so you don't get too full, and pump some bottles or cups for her to have while you're gone. That way you don't have to totally give it up if you're not ready.

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If I wasn't around I have no doubt Josiah *could* go without nursing at this point but again I have no milk anyways so he just does it for comfort. He probably wouldn't like it but I don't think it'd be impossible for someone else to get him to sleep without nursing him either. He'll be 15 months on Sunday

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I am still nursing my twin boys (14.5mo), with no plans on weaning any time soon, but I do worry about weaning them. Smile I nursed my other two to 14mo and 18mo, and just slowly dropped feedings, one every week or two. They were not huge fans of cows milk, so we added a little ovaltine to sweeten it up (plus my dd needed the extra calories, and it has lots of vitamins). The nap and bedtime feedings were the hardest to cut out. The bedtime feedings we eventually eliminated by dh putting the child to bed.

With the twins.. well, Wyatt is totally booby addicted, he asks to nurse frequently (by ask I mean, climb in my lap and whine and cry and yank on my shirt lol). Abram does it a fair amount too, but less, as he is my busy body. But when one is playing and one is nursing, the other sees and decides he would like some too. I am starting to refuse some nursings, if they have nursed in the last hour or two, I give them a sippy cup instead. My older kids did much better at sippy cups than these boys. We have tried more than a few cups, and the ones they like best are the Nuby straw cups. I had heard that bf babies often do well with a straw cup, but never used them before, but since they were drinking like less than 2oz a day from sippies, we had to do something. Smile

Weaning was always so emotional for me.. I already dread this nursing relationship being all done, especially since they may be my last. Sad

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My daughter self weaned at 23 months (I was 5 months pregnant!). We started giving cow's milk at 13 months...and over time, we decreased her nursing sessions as she lost interest. From 18-23 months, she only nursed in the morning (which got me an extra hour to sleep! LOL). It was such an easy and natural process! It was my plan for my son...but now we'll be throwing a newbon into the mix and he doesn't seem interested in weaning...so we'll see what happens!

We went away for a week when she was 14 months old for our honeymoon. I didn't pump at all while I was gone. I was never engorged or uncomfortable and when we came home, we happily picked up where we left off. She was only nursing 1-2 times a day anyway...so I don't think there was much milk being produced. If I was you, I'd take the pump, in case you do get engorged...but I wouldn't worry too much about it! Smile

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Cool thanks! She is drinking a bit more whole milk now and last night I got *really* engorged so it's obvious that she's nursing less.
I will take the pump, definitely, because I don't want my supply to tank while I'm gone.
I would be happy to keep the morning nursing session until she is 18 months or so.

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"tori729" wrote:

Thanks guys! My nurser is actually a girl, but it's a bath pic so you can't really tell. Smile

I just recently cut out her night feeding as she doesn't get much out of it. So now she nurses three times a day - once in the morning, once around lunch, and once in the afternoon. My issue is DH and I want to get away for our 5th anniversary in June and while I don't need her to be totally weaned by then, I do need her (and my boobs) to be able to live w/o it for 2-3 days. But part of me really doesn't want to try to wean her because I love it too much! So since she will be around 15 months by then, I wanted to see what my situation might look like.
She does drink whole milk, but on a good day it's one small sippy cup full total.

I have just done this!!! Dh had a business trip to Paris and I tagged along as we haven't been away without kids in over 12 yrs. I had lots of anxiety leaving dd 1yr 1month at the time and was bf 2-3 times/day. She was on table food and just introduced to milk at the time as well. My parents stayed at our house for the 9 days and i tood a hand pump along.. pumping and dumping 1-2 x/day. Everything went REAL well!!! Dd managed just fine on whole milk and water for fluids and when I got home she was thrilled and wanted to bf. My supply dipped only slightly but leveled out pretty quickly once I was back. It was like i had never left. With me out of sight she never fussed to bf. Once I was back though she welcomed it ans wanted it back to normal. HTH Let me know if you have any questions.