Disapointing OB Appt :/

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Mommyin0406080912's picture
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Disapointing OB Appt :/

35wk appt

No weight gain

Baby is about 4lbs

Still head down, way down

1.5cm dilated

50% effaced

Sad part, no more induction for me on the 8th! Effective Jan 1st our hospital has a new malpractive policy where you can not have an elective induction which I understand why. From now on for induction you must be 40 weeks or have a medical problem on a list and 2 drs must sign off on it. My dr is so sorry and feels for me.

The part that is upsetting is because we wanted to do the induction just incase my body won't have the baby natural and I need a c-section. I had the hernia surgery and you just never know.

Jan 3rd she said she will strip my membranes untill I cry. If I come in in pain and upset and crying and my body is changing and I am at least 3cm she can admit me.

Ok I need to try and get her out after 37weeks on my own! I am taking 2 epo pills by mouth at night and 2 capsules inserted. MY ob said good! But what else?

Sorry so long just kinda venting! Thank you ladies Smile

turtnjay's picture
Joined: 02/24/09
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Glad that everything is healthy and fine, even though you got news that disappointed you.

But I kinda don't get why you want her out at 37 weeks. Well, I should say, I do...but if she's not ready, why push it?

Also, I'm not sure you even need to worry, your others came early and you're already dialated and effaced so you know you're body is doing what it knows to do. You'll probably go just fine at your usual early time, you know. But, honestly, if she bakes more, it's better for her and her development so really it's a win-win...you have more time to prep and she has more time as a bun in the oven. Wink

I'm quite sure I won't be going any earlier than my c/s date at 39w3d so I have just set myself up to enjoy the countdown, prep time, uncomfortable and sleepless nights but also more time for me to enjoy the kicks, the hiccups and the bonding we are getting.

Mommyin0406080912's picture
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After I wrote this hubby and I talked about it. I was just upset because you get so excited and to be let down stinks!

The reason we were talking early induction was because of the surgery. The risk of a c-section goes up because of where the mesh and hernia are. So my ob thought if we were to go early and the baby would still be small I might not have to do a c-section. It scares me to death. Who will help me? I have 4 kids running around? My mom won't help we have no family. Hubby goes to school all day and works nights it's nuts.

I am at peace with it now, when she comes she comes! If I have to have a c-section thats what will happen. Hubby will be able to take a week off work but he can not miss any school. So we will see what happens.

turtnjay's picture
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I'm glad you're feeling better about it. (hugs) It is very hard to have a date and then be told its not going to happen. I read that babies gain an ounce a day so even she waits, say to 38 weeks, she'd only be about 6 lbs on the size estimate you got today, that's still pretty small.

I'm sure if you did have a C/s, your DH would be able to make arrangements. By then end of week 1 I usually feel very good. I'm back to light exercise by week 2. I know people are different but try not to fret about that. If it happens, it'll all work out. But really, I think you're going to do perfectly and I think she'll come vaginally...you're a pro!

Mommyin0406080912's picture
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Thank you Christina for the kind wordds Smile I feel better about it today. I am just going to enjoy the rest of my pregnancy and what it throws at me Smile

Your right about the weight. My ob said this will be my smallest baby other than my 32 week preemie, 2 were 8lbs 3oz and 1 was 8lbs 14oz. She is guessing 7.5lbs. The ultrasound can be wrong by a pound so she could really be almost 5lbs.

My hubby said were not going to worry about if she comes natural or by c-section just take it day by day. MY next appt isn;t until Jan 3rd so we will see! And the the baby can't come from Dec 15th to Jan 3rd since my ob is out of town and I only want her!

lesleynka's picture
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I'm sorry you are so disappointed Ashly. I completely understand why changing the date is such a let down for you. Sad

But I say have faith! You will manage. Things will work themselves out.

Jenn0113's picture
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I totally understand your disappointment. My csection was moved from 12/26 to 12/27 and even just a day later made me upset for a while. Its just nice to be able to plan and then when things change all the uncertainty is stressful.

I'm in the "its 37 weeks, lets get her out" boat now. I really want to VBAC but the looming csection date is like a reminder that I may not do it. I know my Dh and my OB will be pressuring me to go to the csection and neither fully understand how much I want to try to VBAC. So I am praying hard every day that today is the day so I can try on my own without the added pressure of a surgery.