I don't even know how to feel right now.....vent starting.
A friend of mine surprised me with a baby shower two weekends ago and it was great. She put sooo much effort into it that it was way beyond anything I would have ever expected...I didnt't even want a baby shower since this is not my first child but hey it was a great surprise and I had a great time. Problem is, she failed to let my husband know about it because she thought he would ruin the surprise. He was pretty upset when he found out because he had contacted her over a month ago to ask her to plan a surprise for me but then she took the lead, organized the whole thing without telling him and was very selective of who she invited. She mostly invited my high school friends but did not even invite my mother and all my friends know my mom pretty well so that was kind of an insult to my mom too.
Now I have a cousin that none of my friends like much that is apparently planning another one for mostly my family and friends that weren't invited to the first ones and my friends are totally blowing it out of proportion. They think she is trying to compete with my other friends baby shower. They didnt want to tell me about it but I've already gotten several texts/emails/calls about it. At first I thought there was really no point of her doing another one but then I found out that it is my mother who has asked her to help her plan one and invite my family, DH family and other friends. My cousin just let my high school friends know just in case they wanted to attend but by no means were they expected to bring another gift. Now I am "not supposed to know" about all this but its upsetting that soo much is happening behind my back. I do feel as if my cousin and mom mean well because we are a close knit family....even my DH family is really really really close to some of my family members. When I was having my son, my mom hosted the shower at her place and over 50 people showed up (family and friends). I could understand that my friend wouldn't want all those people at her place but does she have a right to be soo upset that others would like to spoil me? Everyone should have just listened when I said that I did NOT want a baby shower for this baby and we wouldnt be having all these problems....