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I know it's a little early for this question....

but I just want to ask because I was just reading a story about a bus driver from Detroit that tried kicking a mother off the bus for nursing her 2 week old baby.

Anyway, on to the question, Do you plan on bottle feeding, Breasfeeding, Formula feeding, pumping...etc?

What are your plans on feeding your baby those first few months?

I plan on EBF again. My first was formula fed, and not by choice, and I hated every minute of it. My second I demanded that he be EBF at the hospital and he nursed a half hour after he was born and nursed till he was 14 months old and self weened. This one I plan on EBF for about the same amount of time. Nursing, for me, is so much easier and convenient. I always use a nursing cover unless I am home and I always find a corner that is out of the way so I'm not nursing in front of people. I'm just a private person and like that bond of nursing to be between me and babe.

Lets keep this civil and not turn it into a debate. No matter what you choose you are an awesome mom! BF or formula fed doesn't matter. What matters is you are taking care of your baby!

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I bf my 1st for 3 months & then went back to work.

With my 2nd my goal was 6 months & I went 7. I was lucky though. I was finishing up my degree & not working. I had scheduled all my classes so I would be able to nurse in between & I didn't live that far from campus. No bottle needed.

I'm not really sure how long this time around will go....don't think I'll set a time, but I do plan to bf. I will introduce baby to bottle (for my milk) when I have to go back to work so that will make things tricky. I only get the 12 wks so I'm hoping I can work until the very end so I can stay home w/ baby as long as possible.

I will pump while at work to keep supply going & inventory up, but I just hope that baby doesn't get spoiled by the ease of the bottle & get lazy on the breast. If so, I will just have to continue to pump & feed through bottle.

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I plan to bf and give a bottle of bm. With ds I got him on the bottle at a week old so that when I took him to daycare it wouldn't be a challenge. We had a very successful nursing relationship and I am looking forward to that again. However, I am not looking forward to pumping at work again...oh well.

I was able to bf/pump til ds was 7 months. However, I had a large enough frozen stash that he was on straight bm until, 9 months.

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To be honest I don't know. I know that I at least want to pump and feed through a bottle, but I haven't decided on actual breast feeding yet.

I don't know why I'm hesitant, I don't have strong opinions one way or the other besides knowing that the best milk for a newborn is from the mother. But something just weirds me out at the thought of actual breastfeeding. I know, I'm weird...

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Not sure how long but I really want to BF as I know it gives the lil bb the best nutrient and we get to bond. However I most likely will need to head straight back to work so I am not sure how it will all work out. Sad I wish I could be a stay at home mommy at least till the baby is 6 months but I do not think financially we will be able to afford it :(..Boo

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"verdouxkai" wrote:

To be honest I don't know. I know that I at least want to pump and feed through a bottle, but I haven't decided on actual breast feeding yet.

I don't know why I'm hesitant, I don't have strong opinions one way or the other besides knowing that the best milk for a newborn is from the mother. But something just weirds me out at the thought of actual breastfeeding. I know, I'm weird...

I was a little weirded out about it while pregnant with #2. I never have liked my boobs played with, it's even really hard to let DH play with them while making love. But I did it anyway and it oddly enough didn't bug me. By the end I was ready to be done and have my boobs back but I LOVED every minute of the experience and even shed a few tears when DS stopped nursing. My sister never nursed because she couldn't stand the thought of something eating from her boobs. Yes it is a weird feeling at first, even after the not so comfortable part is over with. I would give it a shot and if you don't like it then find what works for you. Smile

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Formula for me. I'll be going back on my bipolar meds in around 2 weeks (the worry was deformities in the 1st trimester) and my meds will be upped even more after the baby is born (the chances of PPD for unmedicated bipolar women is 75%). The meds will definitely be getting into my bm and the effect on baby is unknown. My former OB--I dumped her a few days ago, in part because of her attitude towards my situation--made it very clear that she disapproved my decision.

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"verdouxkai" wrote:

To be honest I don't know. I know that I at least want to pump and feed through a bottle, but I haven't decided on actual breast feeding yet.

I don't know why I'm hesitant, I don't have strong opinions one way or the other besides knowing that the best milk for a newborn is from the mother. But something just weirds me out at the thought of actual breastfeeding. I know, I'm weird...

This is me to the tee. I think its just because I was never brought up around bf'ing. Everyone in my family formula fed and that just seemed the norm for me. DH wants me to bf so i told him that I may try to pump and feed through a bottle. Little bean will be doing daycare so he/she will need to know what a bottle is. I am still up in the air though. I still have 6 more months to decide Biggrin lol

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I will BF all the way. Nathan didn't have to have any formula...I BF and pumped for when I was at work. I actually had such a huge pumped stash that I ended up donating over 100 bags of BM. My goal was to BF for 1 year....but I easily surpassed that and Nathan weaned at 2 yrs old.

I LOVED breast feeding and am looking forward to doing it again. I always joked that I would be a wet nurse if that was still common practice. I just really enjoyed that bonding time together. Perhaps it had something to do with the fact that for the first 5 months of Nathan's life...breastfeeding was practically the only time Nathan wasn't screaming with colic.

Amanda....I was weirded out by the idea of BF before Nathan came along too....probably because of my huge sexual connection with my breasts...but it was a total non-issue once I started. It just instantly seemed so natural to feed my son that way. It's also SUPER convenient.

I remember a time we were at the airport with our 3 month old son when a flight was cancelled and we had to spend an extra 12 hrs at the airport. This could have been a huge issue if I was formula feeding, but because I was breastfeeding it was so easy.

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"kridda_88" wrote:

I was a little weirded out about it while pregnant with #2. I never have liked my boobs played with, it's even really hard to let DH play with them while making love. But I did it anyway and it oddly enough didn't bug me. By the end I was ready to be done and have my boobs back but I LOVED every minute of the experience and even shed a few tears when DS stopped nursing. My sister never nursed because she couldn't stand the thought of something eating from her boobs. Yes it is a weird feeling at first, even after the not so comfortable part is over with. I would give it a shot and if you don't like it then find what works for you. Smile

I'm glad to see I'm not alone! I'm the same way...DH knows I have to "warm up" to feel comfortable with bb play. I've always been of the mind that I'll try anything once...so I'll probably attempt to BF and see if I like it OK. But I am not going to put any crazy pressure on myself or anything. We'll see how it goes!

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"AmberBella" wrote:

Perhaps it had something to do with the fact that for the first 5 months of Nathan's life...breastfeeding was practically the only time Nathan wasn't screaming with colic.

This is definitely one of the HUGE benefits of nursing. It kind of becomes true that you = a human pacifier, but sometimes that is SO much better. And yes, so much more convenient.

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I don't really care what baby eats as long as he's eating and healthy.

I BF'd my first 3 for about 6 months each and then went to formula.

With DS#4 I BF'd for 1week and then he had to be readmitted due to extremely high bili levels that were not going down (21, and that is near dangerously high). The doc said formula could help expel the cells but I was being a butthead and too EBF minded to think about it. I was stupid and now I know that.

I ended up pumping for about 2 more months but it seemed that and supplementing was giving him too many tummy troubled so I went to exclusively formula. I felt insanely guilty and like those who are so pro-BF were looking at me differently. Once I got over that, I just didn't care. My baby was thriving and healthy and that's all that mattered.

I have never had that 'dreamy beautiful BF bond'. I'm not sure if it exists for me. It's painful, and it's kind of difficult to get the right positions and latch, and it can be downright enbarassing when you're out and baby comes off and you spray everywhere. But I digress....

I do plan on trying to BF again. I hope it works but it's more from a financial aspect than anything else.

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I was wierded out before my first was born too-but then it was so natural. My first was bf for 14 months when he self weaned--I was pg and my milk changed and decreased for him I think. I should have introduced a bottle earlier with him though because I could never leave him with anyone for more than 2 hours because he would never take a bottle, though we tried EBM in bottles and he wouldn't do it.

my 2nd was EBF until 10 months, but i introduced bottles of BM earlier and she would take them. She didn't get her first teeth until 10 months and then became a biter! She would draw blood and leave scabs on my poor bb's! So I gave her bottles of bm until a year and then moved to milk.

My 3rd was EBF until 14 months as well, when I was just done and I think he was done too, so I weaned him--he also took bottles if he was made to because I introduced them early enough that he didn't refuse them.

I am REALLY looking forward to bfing the new one--I loved the experience and for me, there is nothing sweeter in the world than bfing a newborn who makes the sweetest squeaks and sighs, and greedy gulps as they nurse Smile LOL I guess I'm one of those who loves it! Biggrin

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Holly, now that i've done it I love it! Yes it took till he was a few months old before I really realized I enjoyed it, it just wasn't an immediate love for me. It grew on me. I couldn't imagine doing anything else now and am SO looking forward to nursing this one. I was just weirded out at first with #2 and a litle afterward due to the strange sensation of feeling my milk coming out. I could always feel my milk draining, every single suck I felt the milk move through my ducts.

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I get the same way as both Krista & Holly. Sometimes I think about it too long & I start to analyze it too much for my own good. lol.

I am one of those people though that tries to remember that we humans are still technically animals (which could be a whole other debate in itself) that are built to care for our young. After the alien feeling of the baby moving all around inside you at 8 months, weird has already been experienced. Smile

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DD was EBF until she self-weaned at 13 months. I went back to work when she was 4 months old and we started bottles of EBM at 4 weeks. It was actually great because DH would come home from work, we'd make and eat dinner, I would BF DD and then go to bed (at 6:30pm). DH would take the shift from then until about midnight or 1am, feeding her a bottle around 9:30-10pm, so I got more sleep in a row! I am very lucky that my workplace has a great mom's room with hospital grade pumps mounted on the wall (we bring our own attachments), a mini-fridge, storage drawers and a special hot water tank to wash the pumping supplies.

BF was initially very difficult. We used a nipple shield for about 4-5 months. Nursing took about 1/2 hour in the beginning because of the shield. I was so guilty about having to leave DD to go to work I put crazy demands on myself to provide her with BM. I often pumped 5x a day (3x at work and 2x at home). This time I plan to BF, but not go crazy about it. If I need to supplement with a little formula than so be it. But I did love the quiet time of BF and the snuggling. I loved gazing into DD's eyes after a feeding, and it was so easy to do the middle of the night feedings. I got great at nursing while laying down. I am looking forward to it again.

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With Nicholas we BFed for about 8.5 months but I had to supplement with formula. With this baby my goal is 6 months (like last time) and I will keep going as long as I can. It's hard having to pump at work and that dropped my supply a lot. I also gave 1 bottle of formula at night from day 4 on (also like Rourke, Nicholas had jaundice and his bililevels were close to being admitted to the hospital because I was so insistent on only breastfeeding). The bottle at night after the jaundice went away was mostly for my sanity. I had PPD and needed some time away from baby.

The plan is to try and EBF for the first 2-3 weeks (build supply) and then start pumping so DH can feed baby with a bottle occasionally. No matter what baby will be drinking from a bottle starting in March when I go back to work so he/she will need to get used to it. If baby does have jaundice I will start using formula and pumping from day 1 so that baby does not get dehydrated or have to get admitted.

For those that are unsure about breastfeeding....you have to WANT to do it. It hurts. Bad (for me) for the first 2 weeks. Without being so strong minded and insistent on breastfeeding, I wouldn't have stuck with it just from sheer pain. It really is worth it in the long run and you should get it in your mind now that is what you WANT to do. I've seen a few IRL friends that said they will "try" and it never worked out for them. IMO breastfeeding is a sacrifice- sleep, time, etc. but it is one of the best ones you can make for your baby. This is in no way to offend anyone that bottle feeds.

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"nmpiche" wrote:

BF was initially very difficult. We used a nipple shield for about 4-5 months. Nursing took about 1/2 hour in the beginning because of the shield.

Oh man I can only hope bf will take 30 minutes. Nicholas would eat every 2 hours (start to start) but it would take him 1.5 hours to eat!!! He was a lazy eater and would keep falling asleep. I spent so much time on the couch the first few months. We also had to use a nipple shield the first 4 months.

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Yeah...Nathan nursed for 45 minutes every 2 hours (start to start). It's pretty normal for them to nurse for a long time at the beginning. . I didn't mind...just built camp on the couch for a long time. Not sure how I'll manage this time around with 4 yr old to take care of as well....but I'm sure we'll work it out.

You don't have much milk and they don't suck very hard. In a few months it will be 15 minutes and done....then in a few more, 5 minutes and done.

I didn't find the pain too bad...but I had a great lactation consultant to help me out. There really shouldn't be a lot of pain...soreness for the first several weeks definitely, but not really pain. There can be a lot of frustration at first though. Lots of worry about is baby getting enough. It's tough when you can't see what's going in, but it can be measured by a lactation consultant...or really anyone with a good baby scale. I'm resolved to worry much less about everything this time around!

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Angela- I so agree with the last part. You have to want to do it. It is hard. And you do feel like you're chained to baby for the first few weeks. And pumping too, talk about feeling like a cow. I'm really hoping the jaundice isn't bad this time. But I know now that I will supplement if there is the slightest bit of yellow. Being readmitted was horrible.

Amber- I think the pain is different for everyone. I have seen tons of women and most agree, it is painful for the first 2 weeks. Pain is relative for each person and after BFing 4 children I can tell you for me, it hurts.

I saw many LC's with DS#4 and all said his latch was perfect and our position was perfect. Well, perfect...why am I getting blisters? Oh, because most women do. That's painful when they first latch. And there was nothing to do about it but deal and cry.

I have heard people say 'if you're doing it right, there shouldn't be pain'. But I think that's hooey.this is not something most women are used to and if you have sensitive skin or sensitive nipples, forget it...it's going to hurt.