I think my husband is developing a complex...

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clio's picture
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I think my husband is developing a complex...

So my husband and I are trying our damnedest to get him to feel Jonah's (that's the baby's name, by the way) kicks from the outside. He's felt them around three times, but that was just a matter of really lucky timing. I've felt him more, and keep calling my husband over to quickly put his hand on my tummy, but the baby then immediately stops moving. So we're trying to find ways to make him kick. But nothing is working; he doesn't respond to sugar, cold liquids, caffeine, not even the Real Housewives of New Jersey. He moves when he wants to move, and this never seems to be for his father.

Earlier this evening, however, my husband came home and when he began to talk, the baby began to move. Who knows if the boy was really responding to my husband's voice; it could totally have been a coincidence. But this inspired us both and he began to talk to my belly in an effort to get the boy to kick. Still, nothing was happening. In a last ditch attempt, my husband put his mouth right up to my belly. I was lying on my left side; my husband spoke into my right side by my hip. And, for some reason, he felt that talking like Darth Vader was the way to finally reach the boy. "JONAAAAH...JONAAAAH...JONAAAAH" he said in a deep, deep voice. All of a sudden, I felt this really heavy sensation all along the left side of my belly, where it rested on the couch. I wondered what on earth it was at first. But then I realized: the poor boy had moved like lightening to get as far away from his father's booming voice as possible!

I started to laugh, and laugh, and laugh, while my husband walked around the living room saying, "I DID NOT do that! I DID NOT do that! That was NOT my fault!" He then went to talk to the cat instead, I guess to prove that he is not, in fact, a scary man.

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Too funny!!

If it makes you both feel any better, DS#4 and this one, DS#5, were/are the exact same way! Always stopping when I call DH over, sudden movements when they are around they nothing and the seeming 'running away'!

You're DH will be happy to know DS#4 is completely head over heels in love with his daddy. When daddy is around, I hardly exist! Smile

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"turtnjay" wrote:

Too funny!!

If it makes you both feel any better, DS#4 and this one, DS#5, were/are the exact same way! Always stopping when I call DH over, sudden movements when they are around they nothing and the seeming 'running away'!

You're DH will be happy to know DS#4 is completely head over heels in love with his daddy. When daddy is around, I hardly exist! Smile

Well, that's good to know...I think. Though I'm not certain how I'll feel when both my son and my cat only have eyes for my husband. Then I'll be the one with the complex.

Jonah hadn't yet moved this morning, so I asked my husband if he wanted to yell at him some more to get him going...

Poor kid. He'll probably be petrified of Star Wars movies for the rest of his life, and never really understand why.

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Your DH is so funny. Sounds a lot like mine trying to feel the baby move. My DH actually took a flashlight to my belly because he read somewhere that it can cause the baby to move in the opposite direction. It didn't seem to work but I made him stop after a short while anyway because I was worried it was bordering on harrassment. My poor kid has enough to deal with all of DH's poking and prodding, and the occasional cat jumping right on top of my stomach unexpectantly (the latter not feeling too great for me either).

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Christina~ That actually does work, just wait until you're farther along. I swear, you'll feel so guilty! We did it with DS#4 and I didn't think it would work (we had tried before and it didn't). But that time it did. He balled up on the side away from the light. I was near tears and DH started rubbing my belly and apologizing to DS for being so mean. We swore we would never do it again.

Eva~ I had a bit of a time with it but then realized it gave me a great break! Biggrin Of course, when he's sad or hurt, he always wants mommy.

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Someone on another forum I lurk on posted that she hadn't felt the baby move yet. Another person said that what she does is take an alarm clock, set it, and hold it against her belly when it goes off, thus startling the baby and making it move. The first poster thought that this was a great idea. I was horrified--poor baby! The flashlight seems quite tame in comparison.

Eva~ I had a bit of a time with it but then realized it gave me a great break! Of course, when he's sad or hurt, he always wants mommy.

Huh. I hadn't thought of that. Hmmnnn... Now I have to figure out how to cultivate this obsession with Daddy...

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Eva ~ that is so great & funny. lol. Your poor dh has no idea what's coming. Soon he will be relieved when he has a chance for Jonah to go to mommy. lmao...

And yes, the flashlight game!! I did the same thing w/ my 2 dd's & told my SO about it & he seemed appalled, but excited to play it. lol

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Ooh, update! Though I have yet to try this with my husband.

I have a laptop, but sometimes, when I feel like lying down while writing (yes, I'm that lazy), I'll attach a keyboard. I've been noticing that when I put either the keyboard on my tummy, or have it on my lap and have my wrist on my tummy while typing, the baby kicks them!

Now to figure out the logistics of getting my husband to type on the keyboard from the proper position...

Seriously, pregnant women are nuts. Crazy

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**Lurk**

Eva - it's funny that you say that about your keyboard. I used to put the remote to the TV on my belly and Mason would kick it clear off! I guess men really don't want women to have remote - even before they're born!! My DH thought it was hysterical though.

Have fun with it - it's an amazing feeling Smile

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Oh Eva.. I just had to tell you reading this the other day made me laugh and laugh. (much needed) I was on my cell so at the time I couldn't reply. I told my DH about it and he started talking to Landon so sweet and nice.. nothing.. then my DH said Oh well in his regular voice and Landon Kicked at him.. I told DH that his son just kicked him because he just scared him.. DH was so cute... He said no my lil guy is just saying Hi Daddy with love taps.. too cute.. DH was really concerned on what his lil man was thinking lol

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"RoniBoo" wrote:

Oh Eva.. I just had to tell you reading this the other day made me laugh and laugh. (much needed) I was on my cell so at the time I couldn't reply. I told my DH about it and he started talking to Landon so sweet and nice.. nothing.. then my DH said Oh well in his regular voice and Landon Kicked at him.. I told DH that his son just kicked him because he just scared him.. DH was so cute... He said no my lil guy is just saying Hi Daddy with love taps.. too cute.. DH was really concerned on what his lil man was thinking lol

And men like to believe that they're not sensitive. Suckers.

Christina--Kirsteen told me that Siena used to go for her keys (though what she was doing with keys lying across her stomach, I have no idea). I find it so amazing that they are cognizant so early on; I thought all of it was still involuntary muscle spasms and jerks at my stage, but there is no denying his fleeing his daddy and his apparent resentment of my typing.