If one more person...(a serious VENT)

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turtnjay's picture
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If one more person...(a serious VENT)

I swear, I will go postal if one more person says something about this being baby boy #5.

Seriously.

You all know we sent out little packages to announce the gender and have gotten a majority of great, sincere responses back from our families, but some have just been down right annoying.

My mom: I talked to Jason and he didn't seem at all disappointed! Huh? Are you serious? Why would he be disappointed with a healthy, happy baby boy?

His dad: so, are you disappointed it's another boy? Huh?? Seriously!? I can't even express why this makes me so very mad but I'm sure you all understand.

DS#1's GF: " do you know the gender yet? Oh, no, its not another boy, is it? Oh, sorry." Huh??? Seriously?????????? It's the reaction, really.

But all in all it's that lackluster, ho-hum, it's just another boy so it's not that exciting reaction that is annoying the living daylights out of me. Or the fact that people seem to think having a DD will make my life somehow more complete. Get over yourselves people! Not to mention it makes me even more venomously protective of my boys.

Ugh, I just don't get it. A baby is a joyous thing no matter the gender. I didn't choose to get pregnant so I could have a boy or girl. I got pregnant to nurture, love and teach another human being in this world.

Ok, I'm done ranting. I'm sure the hormones and exhaustion from painting all day are exacerbating things but oh well, it's out there.

JuneorJulyBaby?'s picture
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:bigarmhug:

I'm sure if I was having a boy people would be asking "so are you going to try for #3". Some people....... sorry you have to deal with it Sad

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Awww hun, I can only imagine your frustration!!

Like, are they gonna treat him different because he isn't the girl they so hoped you'd have??!! Grrrrrrrr.

xx

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"turtnjay" wrote:

But all in all it's that lackluster, ho-hum, it's just another boy so it's not that exciting reaction that is annoying the living daylights out of me. Or the fact that people seem to think having a DD will make my life somehow more complete. Get over yourselves people! Not to mention it makes me even more venomously protective of my boys.

Ugh, I just don't get it. A baby is a joyous thing no matter the gender. I didn't choose to get pregnant so I could have a boy or girl. I got pregnant to nurture, love and teach another human being in this world. .

:lurk:
I love this!!!
I know I don't have 5 boys but I do understand how you feel. after the initial shock of DS3 being a boy(was told girl for my 12 wk scan nub guess by a tech) I soon go excite to meet him...it sucked because all I heard was"Oh another boy...the grandmothers curse" from my hubbies family and my family thought it was a cruel joke..my sister even told my niece I didn't want him because he was a "boy"...I informed her differently...my sons are all amazing and so beautiful...I wished I could have a few more..I can't as my tubes are tied all I can do now is lurk on the preggo boards and be reminiscent....I am also super protective of my guys...the comments from female strangers in the stores in front of my kiddos can sting..
Have fun wiht your new special guy...I love your take on having another lil guy.:yahoo:
The world could use a few more good men out there!!!

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That is awful! People just dont think before they speak sometime. Grrr. :mad:

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another lurker. I get told all the time that we 'at least have to try for a boy'. Any implications that your babies aren't exactly the babies you want is just rude. Here's a cute xtranormal vid that explores it.

http://www.xtranormal.com/watch/12277129/in-search-of-the-perfect-family

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"turtnjay" wrote:

Ugh, I just don't get it. A baby is a joyous thing no matter the gender. I didn't choose to get pregnant so I could have a boy or girl. I got pregnant to nurture, love and teach another human being in this world.

My thoughts EXACTLY! Do you remember when I posted about my gender reveal announcement? When DH pulled out the blue outfit we got "awwww, anther boy, that's so great" but when he turned it around everyone freaked out and started cheering, CRYING, and hugging each other. :eek: I think I even said "geez, good thing its not a boy for real or we would all have issues, that a jacked up reaction!"

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:bighug:

I haven't dealt with any of it of course, with this being our first, but I just wanted to say I'm sorry you're dealing with all that. Playing devil's advocate, I'm sure that your friends and family don't mean it that way to be intentionally cruel, but they just don't think before they speak - now THAT I can relate to. With all the infertility issues, everyone seemed to want to "help" by offering ridiculous advice...and it used to drive me insane. I just tried to remember that it isn't that someone is trying to hurt me...they think they are helping or being empathetic to what they THINK I'm feeling.

Anyway, I hope you don't let it get you down for too long and enjoy your miracle boys! Biggrin

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I'm sorry you continue to hear this Christina! I understand your frustration & feel the same way you do w/ me working on girl #3.

I love this baby!! The smallest concern of mine (the sex) seems to be the ONLY concern of others....they just don't understand. Maybe just take comfort in their ignorance so you don't let them drive you mad.

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Thanks ladies! I know I can always count on you.

I know everyone will love and adore this baby, no doubt about that. But yeah, so many of you know exactly what I am talking about. I guess it floors me because I would never think of saying anything RE: gender to a mom.

Anyway, thank you again for being such a great group of ladies! I will definitely be checking out that video link, too!

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"JorgieGirl" wrote:

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another lurker. I get told all the time that we 'at least have to try for a boy'. Any implications that your babies aren't exactly the babies you want is just rude. Here's a cute xtranormal vid that explores it.

http://www.xtranormal.com/watch/12277129/in-search-of-the-perfect-family

Ha - I love this.

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"JorgieGirl" wrote:

:lurk:

another lurker. I get told all the time that we 'at least have to try for a boy'. Any implications that your babies aren't exactly the babies you want is just rude. Here's a cute xtranormal vid that explores it.

http://www.xtranormal.com/watch/12277129/in-search-of-the-perfect-family

Love, Love, LOVE it!!! So funny!

JuneorJulyBaby?'s picture
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That video is great!!!!

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People should just keep their $0.02 to themselves about how someone might be feeling or thinking about what gender baby they are having. When we had 2--boy and girl I got so many comments on "how perfect--one of each! you can be done!" Um...Nope! And most of the time, it was complete strangers! When I got pg with my 3rd, I had some members of my family ask why I was having more, I already had one of each! This time, I keep getting--I bet you are hoping for a girl to even things out! Well, sure that would be nice, especially since dd wants a sister so badly, but if its not, heck...I'm not done yet! I will have more chances to give dd a sister.

People and their mouths--definitely not connected to their brains.

Tanylisa's picture
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People can be so rude sometimes! I've had people ask me already that if the next is a boy will I try again for a girl or that they hope it's a girl and usually it's from people I don't know that well!