Let's talk about IT

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turtnjay's picture
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Let's talk about IT

And by IT, I mean SEX!

Seriously, I am so not in the mood these days. I don't even want to be touched! It's completely different than my last pregnancy. I was a horn dog, the entire time...it's ALL I thought about.

Now my DH essentially has to work pretty hard to get me to say yes. Often I just say yes because I feel so guilty.

Anybody else in this boat? Or are you experiencing the opposite?

Joined: 11/20/07
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You are not alone! Unfortunately I am in this boat as well....I just don't feel like doing "IT" these days but feel like I should since he is always ready to go. I would much rather sleep at this point but hey....gotta please the man I guess LOL....Last night I just went straight to bed covered in sweat from working out at the gym so that he wouldn't touch me....he came in the room and asked me if I was going to shower and I said that I was way too tired...so I got away this one time...hi hi hi!

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I'm opposite. I think I'm going to wear my man down. We have always been all over each other, but I sure haven't let up.

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Yeah I'm not in the mood. My MIL told me I have to... damn the word slipped my mind... when you meet in the middle. Geez I can't believe I cannot think of the word. Anyways I told her that I'm newly pregnant so he can wait until I'm ready... but I think I will give in today since it's been a while.

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oh man I am so not in the mood. Im right there with u girls. I dont want to be touched either. Im so nauseas its hard to even kiss and he smokes so when he comes inside from smoking it makes it worse. yuck. He seems to want it more since he knows i dont want it. Last night I gave him but asked him if he could make it quick. He giggled a bit and said he'll take what he can get. Poor guy.

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I'm not really in the mood either but I don't know if it's from this stupid infection making me feel like crap or I'm just not in the mood because of the pregnancy. With my first I was totally not in the mood but we still give in and compromise. With my second there were a few times DH had to tell me he needed a break. lol. With that I thought for sure I was having a girl but nope another boy. I still feel in the mood sometimes but I can't wait to feel better so I can actually feel good enough to do it.

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"sometimes" wrote:

Yeah I'm not in the mood. My MIL told me I have to... damn the word slipped my mind... when you meet in the middle. Geez I can't believe I cannot think of the word. Anyways I told her that I'm newly pregnant so he can wait until I'm ready... but I think I will give in today since it's been a while.

Compromise?

I haven't DTD since the day I got pg. I got sick after that and was sick up until I found out I was pg. Then once I found out I was too scared I would start spotting. I really need an energy drink and someone to watch my DS so I can give my sweet husband a break. If I wasn't so tired 24/7 then I would consider it.

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Duh! Compromise! I swear are the brain farts starting already?!?

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i can't really say that i'm in the mood either...my hubby is the biggest horn dog ever and generally wants to do it constantly, but thankfully he's eased up over the last week.

he had knee surgery a week ago, and between the challenging logistics (ie finding a position that isn't going to re-tear his new ligament) and the super painkillers he's on, his appetite has dropped significantly. last night i tried to...um, take care of him, if you know what i mean....and it was just taking too friggin long so i had to stop. i felt bad for the poor guy...but come on, i can only do that for so long before it gets annoying/uncomfortable. seriously.

mostly i'm just too tired...i don't think it's from being pg though, i think it's just from having to handle the extra load at home without his help....usually he's great about pitching in with cooking, groceries, chores, taking care of DD etc...but right now he can only handle minor tasks, and he can't drive yet, so i'm on the hook for all that stuff....plus things at work have been insanely busy...so i'm pretty exhausted all round.

i think i'm in for it tonight though...he's been pretty grabby since last night, and these huge knockers that i've acquired are not helping my situation.

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Yeah I'm in no mood at all especially since I gave in last night and spotted this morning. Hubby just doesn't understand and it's really starting to tick me off. That all he EVER wants to do and won't get it through his head that I just don't feel like it. I'm so sleepy and just don't feel like it. Then has the balls to get mad at me
For it. I just tell him he has a hand cause until I go to my dr and ask him about the spotting after sex he is cut off completely. It's not worth the risk for me

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count me out! zero interest. i have this ultra evil little wish to develop some normal innocent spotting and be put on pelvic rest.

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So I'm alone in the down for the dirty, eh? Maybe you ladies will pick up in the 2nd trimester.

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"lesleynka" wrote:

So I'm alone in the down for the dirty, eh? Maybe you ladies will pick up in the 2nd trimester.

That's what my DH is hoping for! He said he hopes my sex drive comes back since it kinda got killed after DD

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Im right there with you girl!! Stay away! FAR away!!! lol

-JULI

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Yeah...no. I'm tired and cranky and not looking to do anything that might cause more spotting. Luckily, DH hasn't really been in the mood either. He's had a serious cold (which I am now catching) for the past week, so he's been content to just go to sleep. Haha Nicole about the huge knockers not helping!!!! I'm right there with you - when we told my ILs on Sunday, my MIL said that she had suspected because I have been looking very "buxom" lately. Lol

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it come and goes for me. Usually when I am in the mood its not good timing (IE Nicholas is awake and playing) so the mood usually passes before we can act on it. I am scared in the back of my mind something might happen too. This weekend is a baby free weekend though so hopefully things will pick up in that dept :lovebed:

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I was in the mood up until this week. I am just too tired now. I literally have been going to bed at 9:30 and not getting up until 9:30 the next morning. And most mornings I feel like I could sleep more.. the only reason I wake up is because by that point I really have to pee.

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"Alissa_Sal" wrote:

I'm right there with you - when we told my ILs on Sunday, my MIL said that she had suspected because I have been looking very "buxom" lately. Lol

ROFL

i think that's what's going to end up tipping off my family and co-workers...the girls are just popping out!

well, i think i might actually be off the hook for tonight. DH decided to go for a little walk and it turned into a long one....and now he is cutting the grass...i was going to go out there and yell at him for overdoing it (i mean, if he re-injures his knee then he is foobarred)....but then i realized that the more time he spends outside, the better it is for me...now i can take a pass guilt-free b/c if he wanted to DTD he should have come inside an hour ago....now i can spend the rest of my evening in my pj's, free of groping!!! Yahoo

i'm terrible, i know....

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I was in the mood but too tired last week. This week....nope, not even the slightest bit interested. Sad

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When I was pregnant with DD and with the one I lost at 14 weeks I wanted NOTHING to do with IT. In fact, for 6 months after DD was born I had absolutely no desire. DH gets so grumpy if it's been more than one week. Sometimes I think of it as "watering the plants." Hmm, I wonder why DH is so grumpy, oh, it's been over a week, time to "water the plants." DH stays happy and helps more and I always end up having a good time in the end. This pregnancy I am going crazy for IT. DH has been sick, down visiting his dad in the hospital, and traveling on business. Figures. Grass is always greener. Do you think this means it's a boy this time?

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Nicole- could be...with DS#4 I was insatiable! Another girlfriend was preggo with a boy and the same exact thing while my girlfriend who was preggo with a girl had ZERO desire!

She actually asked me if I was pretending or of I was serious because she could not imagine anything she wanted less!

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I feel a little bad because I haven't been in the mood the last couple weeks, but yesterday morning I woke up after having a particularly hot dream involving David Tennant from Doctor Who, and ended up taking care of myself before I woke the kids up for school. However, I got a little lazy and left my "toy" out, which Mr. Berry found. He said he was mildly annoyed because it'd been a while since we'd done anything, but when I told him that the need arose and he wasn't there, he was OK - I guess he thought I did it while he was in bed next to me? IMO as well, that's kind of bad form.

During the last two pregnancies, I had orgasms in my sleep during the second trimester. I'm REALLY hoping that this pregnancy will mirror the other two, even though it hasn't in any other way.

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"brawlberry" wrote:

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During the last two pregnancies, I had orgasms in my sleep during the second trimester. I'm REALLY hoping that this pregnancy will mirror the other two, even though it hasn't in any other way.

My last pg I had these all the way through and so far so good with this pregnancy too! I'm going on 2 and hoping for more. Makes for an exciting evening/morning LOL

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Maybe it is a different sex? When I was pg with my daughter I didnt really want it that much. When I was pg with my son I was totally horny...only problem was that my husband was deployed! Wink

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"brawlberry" wrote:

During the last two pregnancies, I had orgasms in my sleep during the second trimester. I'm REALLY hoping that this pregnancy will mirror the other two, even though it hasn't in any other way.

ROFL!

I told dh last night that I was cleared to DTD and he said "I thought you were too scared b/c you may spot or something" I said "I am, but still..." and that was that - no more mention of it. Kind of good since I was offering to be nice but still too tired to actually do it.

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"brawlberry" wrote:

During the last two pregnancies, I had orgasms in my sleep during the second trimester. I'm REALLY hoping that this pregnancy will mirror the other two, even though it hasn't in any other way.

And it took you this long to decide to get knocked up again? Lol

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Lol I could have sex every day! I'm like that normally, and during pregnancy it's even worse! I swear I was born with the hormones of a teenage boy... and still have them lol!

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"Alissa_Sal" wrote:

And it took you this long to decide to get knocked up again? Lol

Hell, for years after Thing 2 was born, we said we weren't having anymore. I think I just have a problem with having more than one kid around under the age of 4 or so - preschoolers don't have anything in their noggins besides fruit snacks and apple juice, so it's kind of maddening to be around when you're a very logic-oriented person. It could also be because both the Things had development issues that are just NOW starting to be resolved (in the case of Thing 2, anyways - with Thing 1, I think we're just finally getting used to her quirks), and the thought of throwing a third kid in the mix was insane crazy stupid scary.

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That makes sense. Frankly, my DS was such a colicky baby that for about the first year I was fully prepared for him to be an only child. Even now, I really really wanted to have a baby, and I am still dreading the possibility of another super colicky 2 month old. *Shudder*

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LOVE David Tennant!!!!

I had an organs in my sleep early on in this pregnancy and it annoyed the hell out of me. It would not stop and it just felt...weird...like super intense and oh, TMI, so I'll just say you can have mine, ok?

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You girls want to send some sleep orgasms my way haha. Sex drive it completely gone especially since it caused spotting and I have a feeling the dr is going to be against any action of it happens again.

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arg, i am sooo annoyed!!!!! DH wanted to DTD on tuesday night but he got sidetracked with yardwork so i went to bed, then on wednesday night my brother was in town visiting so no playtime then...last night i offered it to DH but i was half asleep at the time so he said no, we could wait until the weekend...then this morning i gave him a good morning cuddle and all of a sudden he was ready to go. unfortunately, i had to get up and get ready for work. he's off work b/c of his recent knee surgery, so he has all the time in the world and for some reason could not grasp the fact that i had Stuff To Do, so he got all grumpy and wouldn't get out of bed to help me get DD ready for daycare. grrrr!!!!!! so i snarked at him...i mean, really, why should he get to just lay on his @$$ in bed while i'm up running around getting ready for work and getting DD ready too...all just b/c i wouldn't give him the goods at the exact moment that he wanted it. so annoying!!!!!!!!

but i also kinda feel like a SuperBi@tc* b/c last night he made dinner, took out the trash, cleaned up, etc...all while hobbling around on his one good leg...he really is good to me, why am i so crazy right now???

oh right, crazy horomones must be kicking in.

turtnjay's picture
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Men can be funny, if fickle, little creatures. Hopefully he feels bad now, too, and you guys can make up tonight. Wink

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I'm sorry Nicole. Ugh, how frustrating that sounds. You are not alone w/ the hormones. I have been a complete B this entire pregnancy so far. My bf says he can't wait for me to be "normal" again. lol. I freak out about really random stuff & spend a lot of time embarrassed & apologizing.