Need Opinions** 12/29 Update

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Breen31806's picture
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Need Opinions** 12/29 Update

Well I received a text from our birthmom Rebecca and then a call from the agency. Apparently Rebecca has been having pain today and at one point when she got up from the couch there was a wet spot. She told the agency that when the BF got home she was going to go to the hospital. But when texting with me she said she was going to wait to see if the pain got worse so she doesn't waste her time if it is false labor. So the last time I talked to her she said she was in the bath and the pain had gone down. Her last appointment the doctor told her baby could come in the next 2 weeks. I think they miscalculated her due date and her due date should be tomorrow. But who knows. Do you think that we should plan for baby to arrive this week? Do you think it is false labor? Thoughts advice cause I'm a little anxious here. lol.

12/29 UPDATE: txt'd with Rebecca this morning. She hasn't had anymore leaking since yesterday. She said today she feels better but her body aches. She said she was going to try to get into to see the doctor today instead of waiting for her NST tomorrow. She thinks she was contracting from stress. So as of now I pray she gets in to see the doctor today and we either get the "you're fine" or they say "it's time" either way as long as baby is still healthy and strong. Smile

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**lurker** I think since there was a wet spot her water could have broken and she should get herself to get checked ASAP and stay OUT of the bathtub!! It really isn't always that obvious. I know it's tough but I would strOngly encourage her to get checked. And prePare for baby to be here very soon possibly.

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I agree....sounds like broken water to me. She should get checked out.

turtnjay's picture
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I agree with pp. it's hard because you're not there and she's saying 2 different things. Keep in touch with her and the agency, maybe even her doctor. If there was a wet spot, that seems like more than discharge but IDK, she could have just described it wrong, you know? Confusing and stressful, I'm sure.

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I think she should get checked too. But I can't force her to go get checked. I'm going to call the agency and see what they think.

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If her water broke there will be more leaking, even if it is just a little. Hopefully she will realize it if she is leaking to go in to L&D.

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It could be her water and even if her due date is late Jan it could still break early. It could even be a slow leak. I hope she gets it checked. Kup!

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I spoke with the agency and they said they strongly suggested to her to go get checked. According to Rebecca the nurse told her to only go to the hospital if she is bleeding and she has contractions that are 4-5 min apart. So I don't know what to think. I want to check on her but I don't want to be "annoying". Having no legal rights at this point and feel like I'm walking a fine line is driving me crazy right now.

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I don't think it would be annoying if you were to say "just checking in to see how you're feeling after this afternoon". Maybe she can let you know that things stopped or whatever. Lots of ladies wet themselves without even knowing they had to go so it could easily have been that if nothing else happened.

I routinely have contractions and they are uncomfortable and hurt but since they are in bottom of my tummy, I know they are not real. Since you guys mainly speak by text, she may be leaving out little details like that making you think one thing while she is going by her instinct and other knowledge that makes her feel another way.

Either way, I can understand the frustration on your side.

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I agree with the others--she should have it checked, no matter what. But as for your other question: I'd say, get things ready. Or at least have the most important things ready; the stuff you can't do without. I was caught completely on the hop; I didn't even have my hospital bag finished because I thought I had...two weeks.

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*Lurker*

With DD2 I was leaking fluid for about a day or so before it really occurred to me what was happening. I thought it was because DH and I had had sex the day my leaking started. I just kept leaking and then contracted Halloween night, but I was convinced I was fine. The contractions stopped, but the next day I kept leaking more and more as to where I had to keep changing my underwear. I called my OB to come and get checked out and they said they worried about an infection so they went ahead and admitted me (my water was 1/2 gone they said). I never had any bleeding though and they induced me to avoid possibilities of infection, which was actually when my contractions really started.

Anyway, what I'm saying is I think you should prepare for baby to be here soon and as the birth mom how she's doing and such. I agree with what a PP said and that she could've accidentally wet herself...I have a friend who did that a few times with her pregnancies.

Hope everything goes good and how exciting that your LO may be here soon!

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I know it's hard & you feel not in control. I am sure everything will be fine. I hope she goes and gets checked soon. Be prepared you lil miracle will be here soon Wink (hugs)

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I am glad there isn't anymore leaking, I hope she can get in today to the Dr. As long as baby is healthy right! Kup

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I think it would be a good idea to prepare as if she could go into labor and deliver any day now. Don't worry about every detail but make sure you have the necessaties ready like car seat installed, place for baby to sleep prepared, some clothes, sheets, and blankets washed, bottles sterlized, diapering station with supplies, etc. We thought we would have at least another week if not longer to prepare before our little one made his appearance but he decided to come when he was ready whether we were or not. We weren't totally prepared - we had pretty much everything we needed but it wasn't organized in a way that made it easy to locate stuff as it was in boxes and piles spread across several rooms. It made for a couple disorganized first days home but it all worked out in the end Smile

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Hopefully she can get in to see doc.

It must be very stressful for you watching from the sidelines. Although it may be something, seems more like a false alarm. Try to relax and get things ready for the baby girl. If she comes earlier, great, you're prepared. If not, you're first steps are done and then it's just more waiting. Wink

I hope you get another update soon!