speaking before their brain kicks in! So, dh and I are way excited to be having another boy. We have two, we know boys are wonderful! Yes, it would have also been nice to have a girl-give dd the sister that she wanted, use my girl stuff again. BUT ITS A HEALTHY BABY!! I have had SEVERAL people hear that we are having another boy and have their reaction be "oh, I'm sorry" or "oh, bummer" What the heck, people! After several m/c's, I'm just happy the baby is healthy and growing! Even if we were not planning on more kids (which we always were) I'd be happy with 3 boys and 1 girl.
I went to a baby shower for one of my very best friends who is moving next week (due in November) so we had it early (it was just a "sprinkle", as she has 3 other kids). At that party were a bunch of mutual friends, but not ones I really do anything with or see more than just in passing at church or other gatherings. One of them (who has 2 boys and then a girl) was the one to say "oh, I'm sorry" complete with a reassuring tap on my shoulder. I said "um, why? We're really happy to have a boy". She seemed shocked and said "oh, well...as long as you're happy, that's great" I would think she would "get it" since she lost a little girl right before her dd at like 17 weeks. I then told her that we always have a chance if we want to try for another girl, since we are not done. She seemed shocked that I am pregnant with #4 and talking about #5 (which was ALWAYS our plan--at least 5 with the last 2 being 18m-2y apart).
It just makes me frustrated. And I'm wondering if it is a gender thing. If I had 2 girls and 1 boy, would it be the same if I were pg with another girl? I actually asked a few of my friends at church today--one who had 2 girls and a boy and then a baby girl last year. She said no one really apologized to her, the most they said was "oh, your poor boy to be the only one" not like "poor YOU to have another girl". I talked to another friend who has the exact same as me--boy, girl, boy (almost the same ages too!) and is pg due in Dec with a boy. I asked about reactions she had and she said she has had people tell her sorry too, but she said she understood because she had told those people they were hoping for a girl and to be done, but now she's thinking about a 5th to have another girl.
Anyways, sorry for the long rant. I just am getting sick of people opening their mouths without using their brains.