Scared to find out gender

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turtnjay's picture
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Scared to find out gender

I'm not really scared, per se. But I am kind of hesitant.

As of right now I keep flip flopping between thinking boy or girl. Just when I start to think it's a boy, something will make me start thinking it's a girl. And when I start thinking about girl names, something says why are you even doing that because it's a boy.

With DS#4 I just KNEW he was a boy. About 14 weeks or so, I just KNEW. And by the time the u/s came along I was afraid because I had already bonded with my SON. I had daydreams of crying (sad tears) hearing it's a girl. But on u/s day, we were told boy, with no doubt and I was so excited.

Right now, I can honestly say I don't care what gender I have but I feel like flip flopping and not knowing is giving me a bit of time to play with either gender. And I can honestly say there may be some sadness no matter what they say.

If it's a boy, I will be elated. Yes, 5 boys but my little men are magical and adding another would be awesome. Watching Rourke tromp around and thinking of him having a little buddy following him just lights my heart up. If it's a girl, I will be elated mostly because I am a clothes w*ore and love pink and frilly and I know she will love Rourke and all her big brothers and follow them around, too. And it's a new experience but I am a bit nervous to raise a girl.

So, yeah, anyone else kind of afraid or hesitant to find out the gender because of it's finality? I think this is also one reason I couldn't wait until birth. I know I would start bonding with baby as a gender and without confirmation I cannot even think about the disappointment that would come if it weren't that gender.

Or am I alone in this kooky feeling!?

lesleynka's picture
Joined: 04/26/11
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I am scared. I want another girl. I just think that life would be so much easier, affordable, predictable, etc w/ all one gender. I don't really want to have to re-learn things or buy all new things, etc just because I had a boy.

Also, I really want Ed to have a girl. He lost his girl when she was 4, I want him to experience a daughters love.

nmpiche's picture
Joined: 08/29/07
Posts: 508

I want another girl too and I am pretty sure it's a boy. I will be happy with a healthy baby, but I did want DD to have a sister since I do and I love having a sister. Also, I am so nervous about having a boy because I will not know what to do! I am sure I will figure it out.

AmberBella's picture
Joined: 02/15/07
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Yes, I flip flop all the time. Boy would be cheaper, and familiar, and how cute would the brothers be. Girl would be my Mom's only granddaughter and only possibility for a granddaughter. I always thought I wanted a girl until I had a boy and discovered how amazing a son is! He's just my boy.

I love girly clothes...but I'm so non-fuss that I know my daughter will have messy hair and not be kept nearly as neatly as I see other LA mothers keeping their daughters. I can't even manage to do my own hair!

SO, I pretty much think that whatever it is will be great! But I definitely want to know asap so I can prepare.

PAmom2boys's picture
Joined: 04/29/09
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I'm scared too. I'm scared of the disappointment and subsequent depression which may follow. But this is why I've decided to wait until birth again this time. I think actually having this beautiful baby in my arms the gender won't matter as much and therefore won't be as down about it. At least that's my hope.

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"AmberBella" wrote:

Yes, I flip flop all the time. Boy would be cheaper, and familiar, and how cute would the brothers be. Girl would be my Mom's only granddaughter and only possibility for a granddaughter. I always thought I wanted a girl until I had a boy and discovered how amazing a son is! He's just my boy.

I love girly clothes...

SO, I pretty much think that whatever it is will be great! But I definitely want to know asap so I can prepare.

This is all exactly what I am thinking. It would be MILs first and probably only granddaughter. It would be cheaper if it was a boy because we would need way less.

I'm worried that no matter what s/he turns out to be I may be sad that I won't have a chance to have the other gender. Ha. Kind of silly if you think about it. I'd be happy with either in the long run but am nervous about finding out.

horseybabe's picture
Joined: 08/01/09
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I'm glad this topic was brought up because I have been feeling and thinking some of these same things. My DH and I have always wanted a girl. With DS we both just KNEW he was a boy. Whether it was because we just knew or we figured we weren't lucky enough to get the girl we wanted right away I don't know. lol This time around we are both thinking and feeling girl but part of me wonders if it is just because I want a girl so bad! We will for sure find out the sex of the baby. DH can't keep anything a secret. Plus I want to buy little girl clothes!!!!!!!!! Lets face it, they just can't make little boy clothes as cute as girl Smile

turtnjay's picture
Joined: 02/24/09
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I've discovered girls are a business. If you go to the mall it's insane the amount of goods they have for girls. But they've made us women a business, too. That kind of frightens me.

I don't know that I'm hoping for either. Like Jenn and Amber this would be the first grand-daughter on both sides (out of 6-7 grandsons on each side) so that seems like a daunting task.

Anyway, thanks for letting me know I'm not alone in these feelings.

merickson's picture
Joined: 06/21/11
Posts: 180

I feel weird about it to. My dad and husband are the only men in the whole family so everyone is really hoping its a boy, but I just really love my daughter and want another girl. Plus she is really excited to have a 'sister' I cant even get her to understand it might be a boy.

RoniBoo's picture
Joined: 06/07/11
Posts: 903

Hi everyone Smile

I love this topic and reading what everyone has to say Smile I am now thinking I will find out the gender.. hmmm still unsure.. At least my husband is on the same page as me to wait and find out.. but then again he keeps telling me its a boy.. I just hope that he is not let down if a lil cutie pie GIRL pops out lol He just wants a big brother for a lil girl.. all I can say is wow I guess we wil be having more then one lile one lol.. I hope so but it took me over 15 years to get this lil buddle of JOY..

I would love either but a girl will be alot of fun dressing up and as they say girls stay close with their moms always.. boys tend to run off with their wives.. or so I was told lol

Smile I am getting excited more and more each day about what is to come

verdouxkai's picture
Joined: 03/05/07
Posts: 826

Back in the day I always wanted a GIRL. But, as I watched my friends have their LO's, so many of them had little boys and they were so cute and seemed so much lower maintenance than the little girls. Since it's taken me so long to finally get preggers, I an honestly say that I think I'll be happy either way. DH is wanting a boy now I think, when before he wanted a girl...but I know a girl would have him wrapped around her finger in 2 seconds. Wink

I can't wait to find out - DEFINITELY finding out as soon as we can! Wink

JuneorJulyBaby?'s picture
Joined: 10/20/08
Posts: 2479

I have mixed emotions...part of me wants a girl because then I would have one of each. Part of me wants a boy because then Nicholas will have a brother and I have a feeling boys will be easier in the long run. I know what you mean about bonding though, I am anxious to know.

turtnjay's picture
Joined: 02/24/09
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Roni~ That's too funny! Having 4 boys (and 3 of them being teenagers) I don't think they will ever leave! And I don't think I see them moving far from us, either.

In my family, we have 2 girls (me and my sister) and we both live far from my mom. Sad So, I guess it's the opposite for us. Wink