Todays apr, I am not happy

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thinktink19's picture
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Todays apr, I am not happy

So i have my 14 week checkup today and I am not happy with it at all. Dr came in, got the hb for a few seconds and then pretty much badgered me about my weight the rest of the time. I gained 5 pounds in the last month which doesnt shock me, I did the same thing with my son and then I plateaued for a few months. Anyways, since im fat she wants me to go see a nutritionist even though I really dont want to and I have to have an early glucose test which is bs because if she would look at my pregnancy with my son she would see I was fat then too and me and him were perfectly healthy. Then to top it all off, I am supposed to gain a MAX of 5 pounds the remainder of the pregnancy. How is that supposed to work whenever they baby is going to be bigger than that probably? Am I supposed to just ignore whenever I get hungry and just not eat? I dont eat bad nor do I eat alot. I eat breakfast, lunch and dinner and they usually arent big portions. When I snack I eat bananas or oranges. Granted I have an ice cream cone here and there after dinner but I dont think that would make too much a difference. I am just really erked right now by it. I dont know if im overreacting to it or what but this is my first time with her and I dont like her so far. The only plus side of the day is I have my gender and growth u/s on Monday August 1st.

If you made it through my rant, thank you for listening.

merickson's picture
Joined: 06/21/11
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Aww I'm very sorry. That sounds terrible and probably not at all what you were expecting. Have you considered getting a different doctor? I would if I was you! 5 pounds is ridiculous for the rest of the pregnancy no matter what your starting weight is!

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WOW 5 lbs for the remaining H6M (or so months).. I thought they wanted you to gain about 4 to 5 lbs a month after the first trimester.. guess not.. well here is a BIG :bigarmhug: because the mean Ol' doc..

It sounds like you are eating right though.. go figure..

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Sounds like your doctor is really unrealistic! What happens if you don't go to the nutritionalist? I think I would skip that if it was me.

Your post reminds me though - I was wondering how much everyone has gained so far. I'm going to start a new thread so yours isn't hijacked.

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Lisa,

That's horrible! I am so sorry that your doctor treated you so rudely. I hope you decide to start a search for a new ob that is a little more realistic & understanding.

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It sounds like the OB was harsh. Even for obese patients it is recommended that you gain 15lbs so if you have gained 5 you should still have another 10 to go, not 5. Everyone handles pregnancy different and I feel like the OB was concerned but could have put it in words better. Are you going to refuse the GD test? Sorry the OB had to be so mean Sad

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Well, your doc could have used much better tact with her message. I'm sorry you had to deal with that.

FWIW: I would love for my doc to recommend a nutritionist so my ins would cover it. I think there is a lot of info you could get from it about health and portions but that's just me. I am petrified of more weight.

Also the GD test wouldn't hurt and would get doc off your back and let give a big " in your face" to her. Smile But do what your comfortable with, not her.

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I was really concerned my new dr would be a fatist, but thankfully they aren't. I'm really overweight and was told 15-20 lbs. I think I would switch OBs in your case... you need to feel comfortable.

thinktink19's picture
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I will take the gd test just to get it out of the way but i will only take it once. If she keeps harping on my weight then I will find a new OB. Yes i am overnight, i am by far morbidly obese like she seems to make me feel. She isnt the smallest of them either. She seems like a pusher and wont like me because when it comes down to it im doing what I want. I had a csection w my son and she is pushing vbac with this one and im still a little uneasy about it. I still have to do my research and thinking. My body did nothing with my son and I had cervidal and pitocin so idk..

Yeah I just jumped topics lol, im still miffed w her.

thinktink19's picture
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"turtnjay" wrote:

FWIW: I would love for my doc to recommend a nutritionist so my ins would cover it. I think there is a lot of info you could get from it about health and portions but that's just me. I am petrified of more weight.

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I have met with a nutritionist before when I was younger and honestly IMO they just make u feel like a cow. Unless your eating salad all day and little baby portions and drink nothing but water, your going to be fat in their eyes. They put me on some kind of diet, i cant remember, and literally the only things that went into what they wanted me to eat were fruits, veggies, and crackers. It was a little unrealistic.

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Joined: 04/26/11
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I agree w/ Jamie, you need to feel comfortable!

Is this the same ob that you had w/ your son? Can you imagine this woman delivering your baby for you? I wouldn't want someone rude & forceful delivering mine & ruining MY special day.

thinktink19's picture
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No its not, i had to switch due to insurance issues. If she keeps it up I will call my last OB and beg them to take me back! lol. I really liked him but I couldnt get it and needed to see a Dr

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Lisa,
I can completely relate. I am overwieght and gained 30lbs with my son 5 years ago. At that time I did the early gluclose test and I was monitored closely. This time I was sent for the early gluclose test and was told to try and minimize my weight gain to about 15lbs. I think health care providers automatically assume that over weight means "unhealthy" and that is not always the case. There are nice ways to relay information as well and seems your health care provider is being to hard on you.
I wish you luck and hope your health care provider lightens up a bit!

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