When will you spill the beans?

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When will you spill the beans?

to parents?

To other family?

To friends, coworkers, boss, etc?

I think we've decided to wait 1-2 weeks to tell my MIL and FIL--just to be sure that it is not another chemical pregnancy. But during my m/c's, my MIL (who I love dearly *ducking shoes thrown at me for having one I love*) was so supportive and helpful and really made the whole ordeal much more emotionally bearable. My mom, not so much. So I think we'll tell my mil and fil by next week or the week after.

The rest of family will wait until at least 10/12 weeks and a good u/s and heartbeat on the doppler. Friends as well. When I m/c in feb, only family and a few friends knew, so family and those few friends are expecting the announcement to come soon, I'm sure. I have one friend who asked me 2 weeks ago if I was pg again yet Smile

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We did a big thing on Christmas eve for each side of the family to announce Elijah's pregnancy. I am not sure if we will this time, but we will for sure wait until after the first doc appointment with is on the 18th.

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We're waiting...

I'll be telling my mom after my first us on June 16.

I'll probably be set up for the NT at the end of June so we'll tell the rest of the family once I'm done with that and in the 13th week so thinking July 4th might be fun. We don't live near any family, though, so we have to tell over the phone or computer so it's kind of different.

I'm kind of liking that I have a secret right now so I'm not having problems keeping it to myself.

Oh yeah, we'll tell our older children before we tell the family. I don't want them spilling the beans to my teenagers. Not gonna bode well. They love Rourke but I'm sure they'll groan.

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I'm not sure. Last time we went out and told everyone at like 8 weeks - and then had to turn around tell them about the m/c a couple of days later. Sooooo....probably we will hold off for a while longer this time.

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If I do get pregnant this cycle, we are going to be mean and see how long it takes family to notice my belly expanding, well we want to try that anyway. We might have to cave and tell them sooner if we need MIL to watch the boys while DH and I go to the appointments. I plan on telling DH with a slide show of the family and at the end have a pic of + test titled #3. Hmmm..... Maybe we could use that for family as well.... As for friends and what not, we'll probably just see how things go. DH's co-workers can always tell with out him saying anything. He never said anything with my last 2 and with in a week of us finding out his entire work place knew and he swears up and down he never said anything.

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Well, we've told my sister and my MIL and I couldn't help it and told two close friends (they would know anyway when they saw I wasn't drinking wine lol), but everyone else I want to wait at least until after my first appointment.

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Right now we're not telling anyone. I want to wait until after DD's first birthday. We have a really high stress job at times (pastoring), and last time I had to tell people because we had a "Jerry Springer" like situation in the church and I had to be like, "I can't handle this right now. I'm pregnant, and my blood pressure is already high!" lol

I really don't want to tell my parents at all. I'm an adult, married, take good care of my kids, but they've shown great disappointment the other two times we told them we were expecting.

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Yeah im a blabber mouth and quite a few people know lol. My parents know, bff, and close family know. In laws dont know and probably wont know til they realise im huge or they hear it from the grape vine.

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Not sure yet--because of the last 4 ending in m/c (which only very few on both sides of our family know about all 4), part of me would like to hold off telling until we're through the 1st trimester, another part of me would like someone to share it w/ but situations right now are not really conducive to that. I'm on the smaller side and always carry all out front so my muscles are really stretched--now I show very quickly and don't know how long I'll be able to cover my growing bump. Biggrin This part is hard for me--so many feelings going on and I feel there aren't any family members right now who really understand, who I feel I could share this with. Thanks for letting me vent here.

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Now that we have seen the heartbeat I am starting to tell some more people. My close friends at work knows...my boss knows, our immediate families knew from when we found out.

I'm trying to tell my boss' boss but she is being a b*tch and won't meet with me. Oh well she will just find out later because it is a problem for her. My back-up has switched groups so they are going to need to train/hire someone else.

I'll probably "come out" on facebook after my NT scan on June 6th!! I'll be 11 weeks then. Eeeeek that is close!

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I love my MIL too!!! Almost more than my own mom. Sad, but true.

*When* I finally get my BFP this month, I think we decided to just tell our parents (my in-laws are going to be stoked, my parents not so much) and my two BFFS. That's probably it. But I can't keep a secret to save my life soooo who knows. After trying for 2 years, I don't know if I will be able to hold it in any longer!

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We agreed to wait til after first trimester as long as we can hide it. However my nanny is a hawk eye last time she knew I was PG but didn't say anything lol apparently my eyes change ? DH couldn't control himself and did tell his brother and his wife and I couldn't help it so I told one of my cousins but she is a good secret keeper lol. We might be out of the running this month but still waiting for AF to confirm that and I will prob keep staying here with you ladies until we get of bfp Smile

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"Cinn" wrote:

We agreed to wait til after first trimester as long as we can hide it. However my nanny is a hawk eye last time she knew I was PG but didn't say anything lol apparently my eyes change ? DH couldn't control himself and did tell his brother and his wife and I couldn't help it so I told one of my cousins but she is a good secret keeper lol. We might be out of the running this month but still waiting for AF to confirm that and I will prob keep staying here with you ladies until we get of bfp Smile

Haha! My son's nurse said to me yesterday, "I had the weirdest dream about you last night and I woke up thinking you were pregnant." I said, "that's funny because I am." She freaked out.

Other than her, I have only told one of my sisters and my BFF (who lives out of state). The local friends, our parents, and the rest of the family don't know yet. We'll tell them after our NT scan. My friends might be suspicious that I'm not drinking, but I barely drink anymore since my son was born, so it won't be that obvious.

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I'll be telling my Mom very soon cause I'd want to tell her even if it was a chemical pregnancy...but everyone else has to wait until at least the first Dr.s visit. Probably 8 weeks for family and the full first trimester for the general public.

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"cityzen" wrote:

Haha! My son's nurse said to me yesterday, "I had the weirdest dream about you last night and I woke up thinking you were pregnant." I said, "that's funny because I am." She freaked out.

Other than her, I have only told one of my sisters and my BFF (who lives out of state). The local friends, our parents, and the rest of the family don't know yet. We'll tell them after our NT scan. My friends might be suspicious that I'm not drinking, but I barely drink anymore since my son was born, so it won't be that obvious.

Ha ha Love it! Well DH brother lives in the United States and us here in Canada so I think it was a nice thing to do as it often seems he is last to know etc. I would love to tell my mom right off and that might change but both my sister and I had issues carrying so I'm just not able to disappoint her

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"cityzen" wrote:

Haha! My son's nurse said to me yesterday, "I had the weirdest dream about you last night and I woke up thinking you were pregnant." I said, "that's funny because I am." She freaked out. .

Last time around when I was about 8 weeks along one of my Kinder students hugged me before class...then patted my belly and said. "Are you pregnant?"

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I couldn't believe how perceptive the little ones are. That was how I broke the news at my school.