Tiffany - I'd be pregzilla about the scheduling too! It's annoying when you have to go over someone's head to make sure their job is done. Sure, things get overlooked sometimes but with twins I'd think rescheduling you would be high on the priority list. I hope you're able to get that sorted without any real issues. With how huge this baby already feels, I can't imagine having double of everything!
Taylor - That's good to know about the sleeping thing. ITA that the one-on-one time will be amazing, especially as this LO will sleep so much more frequently. If she just took an hour nap I'd be happy as she's getting to be a total crab around 6 pm until she goes to bed at 8. We tried letting her go to be earlier one night and it was a disaster. I hope DS does well with the transition to being a big brother. I worry about that stuff too and am hoping that keeping DD really involved will help. I think any kid is going to have a tough time at first but that they will love the pride in being an older sibling in the long run (or so we hope).
Anyone doing anything fun this weekend? We don't have much planned but I'm happy DH has both days off this weekend.
Since everyone is talking about siblings, I figured I'd throw a question out there. I don't have any kids (yet), but my brother lives with me. He's 20. Since he found out I'm pregnant he's been a total butt. Like, total. He even went as far to tell me that he feels like my life revolves around DH and when the baby gets here I'm gonna forget about him.
I've had custody of him since he was 12...he's obviously an adult now, but he's very selfish and very immature. Nothing is wrong with him - that's just how he is. I want to think about ME for once and MY family. NOT my brother. I've taken care of him for 8 YEARS while his mother and father just looked on. We have different dads, so really he's my half brother. But he thinks about himself ALL the time, how do I express that I want my life to be MY LIFE without making him feel bad?
Jessica, I'd say it's time for your brother to move out then. He's going to make your life HELL when your LO gets here. They cry. Alot. Sometimes for no reason. And it sounds like he's the type of person to blame you for ruining his life with your baby's crying and needs. Because God forbid babies need things and attention, just like DHs. Time to move out. I don't really see another solution for you. It's YOUR house.
My friend lent me her camera to take photos of baby stuff to sell. The resale shop owner is just irritating me. Every time she tells me to be there, there's a damn sign on her business door saying Be Back in 30 minutes. I waited twice and she never showed back up. So I'm just going to divide it up and try to sell it in lots. If that doesn't work, I'll try the resale again.
But now I can take a belly pic! I've only taken one this entire pregnancy
Jessica - That's a tough situation as he's probably extremely attached to you and feels threatened by the other people (DH and baby) in your life. Plus, I think 20 is still an age where most are pretty selfish as they don't have a reason not to be. Is he doing anything for himself like working in a field he likes or going to college? Maybe if he has something specific to focus on it will help him get over his insecurities. I agree it might be easier if he wasn't living with you but if he's that self absorbed I can see that being difficult if he pulls the "now you're making me move because of your new family and you don't care." Maybe not but that's just what comes to mind when I think of someone who would expect you to just think of them all the time. I hope you can figure something out!
Taylor - What a pain about the resale lady. I'd look at other shop options too. I have a TON of stuff to consign from Emma's stuff and while there are a ton of places to choose from, the one I am thinking of using is a little bit more of a drive but their selection seems the best so it may be worth it. I can't wait to see some belly shots from you. I bet you look amazing!
I am no longer irritated as I was able to delegate the scheduling to DH who handled it well, in a Minnesota-nice kind of way. It just took someone with more patience than me (and more time). Really, I love that he is a SAHD (with no kids at home) to get this crap done. That might sound crazy, but there are days he keeps me sane enough to do what I do while pregnant with twins. And that is getting harder these days.
We went to a "Big Sibling" class at the hospital this weekend. It was great to meet some other parents. And also, I am bigger than the lady there who was 35 weeks. Makes me feel like a trooper.
DH took DS to a football game and I am having a ladies night out with the girls from the neighborhood while DH attends a costume fundraiser with his mom and dad. Divide and conquer. Tomorrow we are going to Ikea to buy all the baby room stuff. It is cheaper than what I can find used on Craigslist. Plus we have a very small room for them and need two cribs and lots of storage.
Jessica- I don't have any advice for you on your brother, but suffice it to say I love mine and I would do anything for him. He is only 2 years apart from me though and at 30 he is a pretty mature guy. Most of the time. I hope your brother can find some meaning and happiness in his life and being an uncle may actually be a good transition for him. I agree that your life will not revolve around him anymore once the baby is here. That is a simple fact.
Last edited by neoncandle; 10-27-2012 at 07:07 PM.
Jessica tell him to get over himself or move the hell out ! Nobody has time to take care of a newborn and adult !!! If he doesnt like it then oh freakin well!! He should understand that you have a lot going on and its not fair you have to deal with this maybe dh should speak to him
Jessica, sorry to hear that your brother is being a b*tt. I agree that your brother probably needs to move out, but when it's family, no matter how difficult they can make our lives, it's hard to close the door on that person. I think both you and DH need to sit him down and explain to him that this baby is what your world SHOULD revolve around right now. You're starting a new path in your life with your husband and he needs to be respectful of that. Leave the ball in his cour, so to speak.
I had the same dream three different times last night. I dreamt that Reagan was born 6 weeks early. I am hoping it was nothing more than a dream...but it still worried me a bit. I think it was partly because I had been thinking about how I've been running nonstop lately and not really resting, and that was on my mind before I fell asleep, but still....Hopefully it was just a dream!
Anyone else saying "No way Jose" to Halloween?
We aren't doing it. DD gets freaked out by costumes anyways and DS doesn't really know what it's about. Every day as Sandy moves closer to landfall, our predicted Halloween temperature drops further and further! Now it's supposed to be 32 degrees with 22 mph. I am NOT going out in that. Brandon is used to cold weather but Ali and I still have Texas blood. Anything under 50 is absolutely freezing and needs gloves, hats, and scarves.
We don't have a mall to go to instead either Probably just go over to my MIL's and hand out candy to the brave souls who do go.
DH made a fabulous homemade costume for our son. It is a city bus costume made of boxes and duct tape and LED lights that you can press to turn on. He put a lot of work into it and it shows. He will wear a warm jacket and mittens under it. I have a witches hat and plan to hand out candy. I am sad not to be able to go door-to-door with him some, but at this point in my pregnancy there is just no way. We have a ton of kids in the neighborhood and I am really looking forward to seeing them.
I am exhausted after shopping. I let DH pick out the crib and stuff for the baby room... for the most part. I don't really agree with what he picked, but I really get to pick a lot of stuff around here and I am not the one who is going to be home with the babies for the most part... so, I took the high road. I didn't even voice my disagreement, because then he would have immediately changed what he picked.
We will be doing Halloween. It is supposed to be low 40's here, so we'll just bundle the kids up before heading out. It's usually pretty cold here for Hallowee, and several times (even when I was younger) there was snow on the ground for trick-or-treating. The kids have been looking forward to it, and it was one of Addy's rewards for good behavior, so we can't back out. She earned it and it would go against everything we're working towards with her if we decided not to. Depending on how cold it is, we may just go around the block, but we'll atleast go out for a bit.
Sorry that you don't like the items that your hubby picked out for the boys' room. Hopefully over time it'll grow on you