How to handle family member wanting to "help" at delivery
When I first found out that I was pregnant, I invited my 2 sisters to come and watch our two children at our homebirth. One of my sisters was there for Lindy's birth, and my other is a mom now herself and I have no doubt that they'll both be just fine watching them while I labor. Well, my aunt told me to let her know what I'd like her to do when the time comes. If I thought it would come to this, I would have told her to make me a nice pot of soup and have it ready after delivery. But since I didn't say anything really (I did tell her my sisters will be here) she eventually invited herself to watch the kids.
The problem with this is that she's a REALLY anxious person. I've gotten 3-4 phone calls in the past week with her asking ridiculous questions like, "What do I feed them, can they drink tap water?" to "Do I need to dress in layers?" Umm...really? I don't care what you feed them, use common sense and sure, dress in layers if that makes you feel better! I can't figure out a way to UN-invite her without hurting her feelings. We have a really small house and as it stands now it'll be me, DH, 2 sisters, 2 kids, MW, 2-3 apprentices and photographer friend. That's a lot of people in a 1 story, 1500sf house! I don't need 3 people watching my kids. I also don't need the negative or anxious energy.
If anyone has any suggestions on what I can say to her that will spare her feelings (she's very sensitive) please let me know. I'm kind of hoping I'll go into labor in the middle of the night so I can just not call her and then tell her later that I just didn't want to wake her up since we had the situation covered. As it stands though, I live so close to my grandma that she could drive by any moment and see tons of cars in the yard when it happens, and then know something is going on and wonder why she wasn't called.