So today after a long fought battle between my mother and i, I had to swallow my pride raise the white flag and beg for her help. in the middle i ended up crying (partially the hormones partially not so much) and telling how sorry i was for our long feud. see my husband and i are $500 in the hole and we are about to lose our apartment and i dont know what to do. our wedding cost a lot and my father who promised to help pay still hasn't held up his end of our bargain. this is our first place together and we are completely grown adults now, but i dont know what to think or do or say. no-one will hire a pregnant woman and so we are stuck waiting to see if anymore of our family can help. the worst part of all of this is that this will be our last month being so deep in trouble because he will start getting an extra $2100 a month on top of $1050 by the end of next month for his married with dependents BAH. am i the only woman in here who has eer faced this problem in the beginning of marriage?
((HUGS)) I didn't have this specific issue, but I've always had a hard time accepting help from people, especially my family. When I was on bed rest, my family gifted me some money and while it was great to have that buffer I had a really difficult time accepting it. Housing stuff can be so stressful.
My advice is to just do what you can and try not to let it consume you. I think it's good that you let your mom know what's going on. Even if she wasn't able/willing to help out at least she can be there for support. I hope things turn around soon!
You may qualify for some kind of state assistance to help you get off to a better start. It can be hard to ask for help, but if you really need it don't feel guilty! If you have family willing to help it sounds like you should be able to come up with some kind of reasonable re-payment plan since your DH will have an increase in income soon. Have you talked to your landlord to let him/her know the situation?
my mom offered $50........and told me she would have given me all i needed if i was living a life she agreed with.....yet once again i tried to let my mother in and she shot me down and kicked me while i was already beaten down. as if i needed help feeling bad and then she told me i was too young and too stupid and too naive to have a child and be married. and because of it, because of my " terrible choices ", she refuses to help me and is basically threatening to sue me for the $50 if we dont pay it back when she wants it back. i tried to bring her back into my life for my baby's sake. and she said we were on good terms now. i dont understand how now she kicks me back down. i think i made the right decision by removing her from my life.......as hard and sad it is for me to say.
Maybe you need a break from each other. I hope that someday things will normalize and you will have the life you dream of.
Sorry things are so rough right now!!
It's actually illegal for a company to deny you employment because of your pregnancy and you're so early, honestly, I wouldn't mention you're pregnant. That way once they find out, there's no way for them to look over you for reasons "other" than pregnancy when hiring you. Cause there are a lot of employers that'll pretend that pregnancy had NOTHING to do with not hiring you.... Jerks.
I wouldn't consider yourself out on the job front yet! You probably won't start showing for another couple months.
If it were me, and I knew that money was coming, I'd take out a loan to cover your expenses for this month. Since you know you'll be comfortable next month. My husband and I have done that once before when things were really tight. Credit cards are for emergencies, and if you can't cover your rent but know you'll be fine after this month and can pay it back, I think I'd consider that a valid emergency.
Something to think about. It's a last resort solution, but it's there. Hope things are better soon. Please KUP!
You mentioned your spouse is in the military, are you in a different state than your mom? It might actually help your relationship to only have phone communication for a while.