I'm just wondering if anyone else ever gets frustrated at other moms you know whether they're your friends, or in moms groups you're a part of, at your church, etc? I don't have any friends that I hang out with on a regular basis, I can't seem to find people that put as much into a friendship as I do, so I've sort of given up trying. I do have a lot of "friends" on facebook though and sometimes it just frustrates me how it seems like every other person on there is such a "better" mom than I am. I try to be as optimistic as possible and I do recognize that I am very blessed in my life, but there are also some things that downright SUCK and when I try to get it off my chest, it seems like everyone else just projects how perfect they are and nothing ever goes wrong for them. Plus, their kids are all smarter and they do so many more extra-curricular activities than my kids. I'm fine with what we do, and what we don't do, but sometimes I feel like it's rubbed in my face and I get so aggravated by it all. We're not all the same, God made us to be different and I understand that and it's fine. But when every time I turn around all these women are bragging about how wonderful their husbands, jobs, kids, finances, mini-vans, etc are...I'm ready to scream!
Please, someone tell me you know what I'm talking about and I'm not alone here.
You are most definately not alone...I feel that way a lot. I also feel like when I talk about my children that I have mom friends who always relate the conversation back to their child. It's very frustrating...but I don't know what to do to make it better.
It took me a long time to find some mom friends when I had Luke and I am so worried about our move. We are going to need friends. Couple friends. Mom friends. Etc.
Oh I hear you loud and clear! We have a lot of mommy acquaintances but not many we see on a regular basis. Some are fine but others seem to pick apart everything that our kids do differently. I wish it was easier to find people to just enjoy some conversation with while our kids played and not worry about who's developing at what rate blah blah blah.
Thankfully I do have a pretty stellar support system with the girls from DD's BB that are realistic about things. That is a huge help.
I feel that way sometimes too.
Honestly, though, I feel like the BEST parents are able to see their faults and face them. We can never be perfect as parents, but we can do the best we can. To do your best, you have to recognize your shortcomings. Otherwise, where's the room for improvement..?
I actually had someone on a social networking site tell me that because I took a parenting class, it made me a bad parent... No, really, I'm not joking. I think their logic was if I needed to take one in the first place, I wasn't fit to be a parent? Yeah... Not really. Just meant I wanted to understand my daughter better and how she saw the world in her one year old mind, and what the most effective ways to respond to her would be at this age... Nothing wrong with seeing that you can improve and learning...
Ah yes.. and then there are those people you "unfriend" in real life and on facebook. We all have those.