Super frustrated!! OT Vent

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Holly_Anne618's picture
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Super frustrated!! OT Vent

As you ladies know, we still haven't spilled the beans. My cousin is dealing with an issue involving her 1 week old baby girl. She was born with a chromosome disorder as well as congenital heart failure, and they are not expecting her to make it. To me, this is not the time to share news that we are expecting. I planned on holding off for a few more weeks to give her some time.

Anyway, here's where I get frustrated....my MIL found out we were expecting. While baby-sitting, she was snooping in some books and found my 6 week u/s picture. We, to this day, have not told her that we are pregnant, and the u/s picture doesn't look anything like a baby. If you remember, I was super stressed because I thought my dates were off. Well, at church today, one of of DH's relative's comes up to me and says, "Congrats! I hear you're having another baby!" I said thanks, but then I asked her where she heard it from as we haven't told a single sole except my friend who lives 3 hours away. She said her mom told her. I asked how her mom found out, and she said DH's mom told her. First of all, I'm angry because she went snooping and found our u/s pic. Secondly, we haven't said anything to her or anyone. What if something had happened to the baby and I was no longer pregnant, or what if the pic wasn't even of a baby? Here she is running around telling everyone I'm expecting, and she hasn't even heard it from us. I'm so frustrated, and I probably shouldn't be....but this is our news to be sharing, and she's ruining it for us! I wanted to do it at the right time, and my cousin is more important right now. Even our children don't know yet....Sometimes I just want to pummel my MIL! Aggressive

VixB's picture
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Ohhh that sucks.... I'm sorry ....
and I'm sorry about your cousin... that must be sooo hard....
Hope you can talk to your MIL so she can stop spreading the news HUGS.

patricia2383's picture
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I would just talk to your MIL and ask her if she said anything and tell her to please stop till you are ready for people to know.

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Oh Holly how frustrating. I agree that I'd say something and ask her to stop telling others, especially with all that your cousin is going through. I am sure she was probably just excited, but that doesn't mean she should run her mouth with such a big announcement. ((HUGS))

Holly_Anne618's picture
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I'm going to have DH talk to her. I'm sure I'll say something and end up hurting her feelings. She does not think before she speaks, EVER!! It's why we always, BIL and SIL included, make her the last to know about everything. This is also why we had not told her yet. Hopefully he can get through to her to stop spreading the news until we're ready Smile

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Oh Holly! I'm sorry! I think it's good for your DH to talk to his mom--you shouldn't have to be the one to do it. How frustrating that she went through your things and then decided it was her place to tell. I completely agree that it is your news to share--not anyone else's. Hopefully your DH can get through to her.
And I hope things work out with your cousins's baby.
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I agree that DH taking to her is a fabulous idea and spares you the possibility of saying more then you want.

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I had to call my MIL on the carpet over this. She was so embarrassed she could barely talk to me; kind of wish I had just let her be. Her reason for spoiling the surprise was her excitement, not to gossip. And she thought it would not get back to me. Though, the good thing is we established some boundaries (i hope). Regardless with twins I am gonna need her help. In the past, I have let DH handle these issues. Sorry it happened to you.