CHAT THREAD.... just so i can post random stuff

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CHAT THREAD.... just so i can post random stuff

today a coworker told me "i can see you with like 6 kids, congratulations!" when she found out i'm expecting again. I just about burst into tears. i have always seen myself with a gaggle of kids, and its so gratifying to know that she sees the same thing.... and she sure didnt say "unruly little monsters!" which is what i'm afraid everyone envisions when they think "4 kids" (and i'm only on #3 so i don't know why i'm even thinking about it... maybe because my goal is 4 LOL) and then she asked if i had to buy a bigger house now! i told her NO..... we have 4 bedrooms. i just have to kick adults out Smile

how has everyone else's day been?

i've managed to control the urge to vomit with starburst since friday! (ok, i threw up sat and sun at home, but i save starburst for work, can't be good for me)

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Crap-tastic... Will update when on my computer...

So I've been crazy busy with reorganizing my entire house (while contemplating buying my inlaws house when they decide to retire to Texas in a couple years (its the house hubby grew up in)), baking a quincera (sp?) cake for my best friend's god daughter, trying to get stuff together for a donation fundraiser, manage the house, take care of my kids (who are in an unruly boy phase -2.5 and 4.5), not lose my lunch (gotta love morning sickness), deal with the projects my mother thinks need to happen at my house (that are much further down my list of crap that needs to get done), and get stuff together for my hubby (who is a great dad but a little clueless) to take my oldest to a birthday party. The cake, donation (which includes arranging for moving furniture), birthday party and my moms birthday are all he same day! Needless to say he house looks like a tornado hit it but I know where everything is... Just waiting for the huge shuffle.

So, he teenagers who were supposed to help move a huge entertainment center down to the main floor and out to the collection truck (fund raiser for. Their lacrosse team) bailed... So the night before I manage to arrange to borrow my fil's truck. My mil (whom I like but get the feeling I'm not her favorite idea for her son -we've been married 8 years this sept) comes with to drive the truck home. I can see instantly when she walks in that she's horrified to see the house (I had done 3 loads of laundry but hadn't folded yet (and my hubby took the baskets out of he laundry but not all the way upstairs), and boxes where stuff was being collected for donations, keep, storage...

So.... We get everything taken care of, cake was great, furniture got moved...

So today my hubby went y his folks to help put the cover back on the pick up and he talked to his folks about buying he house (which we mentioned a few months ago and they seemed intrigued by the idea). We're trying to figure out how much landscaping we want to do. So they. Say they'd rather sell the house to make as much only as they can (which I get)... So here goes that idea (which I was really looking forward to as heir house is set up perfectly for us)... Bummer... Then hubby tells me " oh and my mom said shed be willing to come over and help get he house settled" (we've lived here 8 years).

Apparently I'm having a hormonal day cause my first reaction was, "so, she doesn't want me messing up her house so shed rather sell to strangers, instead of let it become a pigsty" (said mostly in my head as I know I'm being irrational). But I'm still hurt and insulted (since she knows what's going on with the crazy month).

Ah well...

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On a cheerier note... Some cakes I've made

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Nice cakes! I love that Strawberry Shortcake one especially!

My hormones are going nuts at this point. Yesterday I was apparently not going to take crap from anyone! At the playground I saw a group of people smoking and instead of just giving a dirty look and hustling the kids away like I normally do, I spoke up and asked them to move.

We then hit up a drivethru for lunch. When we got to the window, there were two or three cars already pulled up ahead of us waiting (like, off to the side waiting for something that was taking a long time). The girl said, "We're just waiting on hot fries." I said, "ok." She said, "Go ahead and pull up over there by that white car." I said, "No that's ok. I'll wait here." She was way confused. "Um, just pull up over there." "Nope. I'll stay here." And magically, our food was ready about 5 seconds after that. Hmm..

I mean seriously.. If you have to make all the cars pull up and wait, you are not managing your time or resources properly!

(I love chat threads! I cracked up at the title, because I do the same thing- I need chat threads so all my random thoughts fit in somewhere without starting a million threads! :biglaugh:)

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Jenni - I think starburst are an awesome idea. I went through a phase in highschool and ate them all the time. (Ever microwave one?? It's fun because it melts just a bit after a few seconds)

Mamaterp - sorry your MIL seems to be a little.....judgemental? Nice cakes though! My mother has OCD cleaning issues (literally, she can't stop cleaning when leaving the house and sometimes takes her 3+ hours to get moving, causing her to be late for things all the time) so I never invite her over as she just criticizes the whole time. If she came near my house today she would freak. I have clothes and papers all over the floor that DH moved from the car to the living room but hasn't cleaned up yet.

As for me, I'm a little ticked at DH right now. We are new (joined about 2-3 months ago) members of the SCA (Society for Creative Anachronism). It's a Medieval recreation society with hundreds of thousands of members all over the world and our local group, though small, is very nice. Last night I couldn't make it to the meeting as I'm on my 4PM-12AM shift this week. It was a "business" meeting where they are planning out events for the rest of the year. Well, apparently in January each year, our local group holds a "new year" type feast for the Barony (we are in a Canton, there are several Canton's in a Barony, and several Baronies in a Kingdom), which the King and Queen of the Kingdom attend. Well, they were like "Oh, we should get Rachael involved heavily in this as we know she really wants to learn more about feastocracy and medieval cooking"! Well, instead of DH just saying ok for now or a "I'll talk to her and get back to you", he spilled the beans about the baby and explained that timing for my due date probably wouldn't work for me running a feast. I think we could have waited at least a few weeks before saying anything!! I mean, I haven't even had my first appointment yet for anything, and my first U/S is only Thursday! I told him that he has to "untell" people if anything goes wrong since he can't keep his mouth shut!!

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On an unrelated note, I'm working from home tonight until midnight. My work email is....screwed. It's taking at least 30 seconds for anything to be clickable. I work in IT supporting the servers that host the email, but the actual email infrastructure is managed by another team. I engaged them to investigate but I haven't heard back yet. It's making work impossible for me as 90% of it is done via email!!

I want to tear my hair out I'm so frustrated!

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That stinks! I hate when frustrating things are completely out of my control.

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How frustrating! Any response yet?

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..... BTW, as i read your stuff, Mamaterp i totally heard the same things in my head... the things your MIL was NOT saying... so you're not the only one....

Rachael, my sister works in IT and just her telling me stories about it makes me want to tear my hair out!

and now i want cake.

Letter to Baby,

dear baby,
i may never forgive you for rejecting the delicious chicken corn chowder we had for dinner. it was not as good coming up. and i realy wanted it.

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Corn chowder sounds so good! But yeah, not so good going the other way. Urp.

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OMG I just discovered Ginger Ale today. I mean, I didn't think it would be any different than a regular pop/soda, but it tastes sooooo good.

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I love ginger ale!! Yummy and helps with tummy troubles

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i have yet to consider liking ginger ale. i never liked vernors when i had it before. as my grandma quoted my uncle when he was little "it tastes like my foots asleep"

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Do you have Canada Dry Ginger Ale where you are?

Canada Dry : Home

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Canada_Dry

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My DH is leaving tomorrow morning to go to a camping/festival thing 4 hours away. He is soooo clueless on camping/packing himself. I brought out all the camping stuff and he picked through it and didn't take anything. I was like, how are you going to eat/cook/etc all weekend if you don't have dishes, pots, pans, or somewhere to wash them after?? He totally doesn't get it. He's probably just going to eat chili out of a can cold.

He hasn't even packed yet, and he has to pack up everything, finish his laundry, pack the car, and all this before he leaves at 7:30 AM... and he's still awake, playing on his phone. And he spent 3 hours playing video games tonight instead of preparing.

He hasn't even gone to the grocery store yet for food! No food planning done whatsoever either!

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Ug. I'm having a horrible day.

That post I posted a while back about DH's family members staying with us reared it's head again yesterday. They had said no they weren't coming up here and then all of the sudden "We'lll be there next week", including his brother whom I don't want to come.

I told DH that his brother in no way can stay with us due to the many times I've seen him abuse animals. I don't trust him around my dog and I don't want him to be around my dog when I'm not there. DH wasn't happy about this, but agreed. However, I do understand where DH is coming from, how does he explain to his family that his dad can come (which I'm not as thrilled about, but at least he's quiet and clean), but not his brother? Or does he tell them both that neither can come now? Does he tell the truth or come up with a lie to get them off our back?

I guess I don't get it as my family is not "family oriented". They would never ask me to do anything and I never rely on them for anything either. It's just how it is. I can't imagine what it's like for DH as his family is closer and it's expected that if they asked for help, he has to give it.

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Maybe he can recommend and shop around for a local motel that does extended stays. Just explain that with the baby coming you guys will be doing work on the house and getting the nursery ready and want them to be able to relax so having their own space would be better. But maybe invite them for family dinners?

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my family is family oriented. they take care of each other. NOT MOOCH OFF EACH OTHER. My sister and parents are always willing to help us out. dad gave us a used snowblower, my sisters babysit. but we don't mooch off each other.

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Well, he's coming. After much crying on both my side and DH's side (yes he cried). Family is very important to him. But I made him agree that he will manage his brother under ALL circumstances and there are rules to follow. His brother is to go no where near my dog. If my dog is sleeping on the couch, he is not go to bother him on the couch, etc etc. They pushed it back again too, so it won't be until at least the end of July.

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if you're lucky they will push it back to next year, and DH will be smart enough to not let them around the baby.

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Mind if I vent for a second?

My sister is getting married next weekend, and myself (and my 2 other sisters) are bridesmaids.

We have NO IDEA what is planned. No rehearsal yet, no seating plan, nothing. My sister has no money so this is done on barebones budget and her future MIL is paying for a bunch of things. The hall they got free (somehow) but they have to decorate themselves. My sister, being she has no money, has not planned any kind of decorations at all. All they have are wooden folding tables!

The problem is my sister never answers her phone and never responds to texts. She is not communicating with us at all! We don't even know when we are supposed to be there or what we are supposed to be doing in this wedding!

I have Thurs/Fri off next week before the wedding and I was planning on relaxing, cleaning, and catching up on sleep. Now I suspect I will be running across the city (1hr drive each way) to where the bride lives both days and doing the last minute planning for her... and what sucks is if I want to use the car, I have to drive DH 45 min to work in the opposite direction first, then pic him up after work. That's at least 3.5 hrs of driving!

My older sister is the only one in my family who knows I'm preggo, the bride and my other sister doesn't know. I might have to tell them so they don't expect me to do too much!

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NOPE. don't do it for her. our wedding was rather bare bones, we didn't have any attendants, so just us did the rehearsal, our reception was in my parents backyard, and most of the decorating involved white table clothes and twists of crepe paper. and i was happy with that. thats what i planned! heck, i had to scrap 2 cars to get money for the food! no huge menu, no caterers. but i never asked anyone else to fix it all for me either. i hope she doesnt expect you to do it last minute! i had some faux flower arrangements for the bouquets because i can't find lilacs in july.

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I think as the bridesmaids we are required to do some kind of help, right? I just wish she would tell us what is going on. We feel so in the dark.

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:lurk:

It's my understanding that as a bridesmaid, all you are asked to do is stand next to the bride at the ceremony, sit near the bride at the reception. As a Maid of Honor, It's that plus a toast, and keep and the groom's ring until the ceremony, and throw the bacherlorette party and/or bridal shower. There are more "duties" if the bride requests (or groom).At least that's MY understanding.:bigarmhug:

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My sis didn't pick a "maid of honour" so it's just us 3 sisters as bridesmaids. We don't even know if her fiance has any groomsmen. We don't know what we are supposed to do in the church (none of us are Christian, my sister converted to Catholic to marry her fiance). We don't even know the plan for walking down the isle or anything and it's next weekend. LOL You would think we should at least meet at the church once ahead of time to plan things out? I mean, there is a ceremony with music and a mass and all kinds of other things, we need to know what to do!!

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We had a rehearsal the evening before, and that's where the bridal party got a lot of info about where to stand, how to process in, etc.

That's frustrating that your sister isn't doing so well on the communication front! I can understand not wanting to be bogged down with all the details of decorating or whatever, but that's what delegation is for! It takes actually telling someone- hey, please be in charge of decorating, our colors are blush and bashful ;), I like starfish, let me know what you come up with!

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Not to interrupt wedding planning but ... My four year old has a new pet... He won a goldfish at the carnival we went to tonight (used his own money and skill - so proud)... Problem is he loves this thing "nemo" and I am notorious for killing fish.... Help!!

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I'm no help- I'm a fish killer too!

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"Mamaterp" wrote:

Not to interrupt wedding planning but ... My four year old has a new pet... He won a goldfish at the carnival we went to tonight (used his own money and skill - so proud)... Problem is he loves this thing "nemo" and I am notorious for killing fish.... Help!!

:lurk:

I'm not good at keep fishies alive, either.. so I googled.... Wink

6 Tips on How to Keep a Goldfish Alive - wikiHow

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So far the fish still lives... Thanks ladies

I think the fish is on his way out... 24 hours... A new record for fish killing! But now the question is... Replace it or learn about death... He's 4, and loves this thing... Talks to it and hugs the tan every time he passes it. Goes out of his way to pass it....

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thats cute. i vote learn about death because you can't go buy a new fish EVERY DAY. the next one will die too! i got DH a fish for his birthday once thinking we'd have a pet for a month. took 18 months to die.

i didnt throw up yesterday. day before, i only threw up once! before that it was 3 times.... and i'm nauseus regularly, but havent really felt like i needed to puke in quite a while. not sure if i am just grateful to feel better or worried that something is wrong. still very nauseus... don't think i should be too worried....

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I've never had fish, it depresses me to think about when they would die so I won't attempt it. Sorry! But my vote would also to be the "learn about death thing". Maybe get a real tank after and a new fish and see if that works?

I hope Jenni that it's just feeling better towards the end of the first trimester!

I threw up all day yesterday...and other things (the other end). I could not leave the washroom for at least 4 hours, thank goodness there is a plush bathmat there! DH had a 1/2 day at work and just laughed at me. He has no problem throwing up, but I get panic attacks when I do. At once point I thought I was better so I got up and went to the kitchen. I started feeling sick again and had a massive panic attack, I was leaning over the counter and I couldn't breath. So far yesterday was the worst so far. I think it was the Bolthouse Farms green smoothie I drank around lunch. My body did NOT want healthy food it seems. Other than yesterday I've only thrown up twice so far...

Well...at least I'm cleaned out top to bottom, nice empty stomach and intestines! I just wish I wasn't working all weekend. I'm stuck doing tasks all day today and I don't know when I will be able to sneak out for lunch. I feel unwell still today...

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healthy food is a no go here too. i can eat meat usuallly, anything salty. cookies and ice cream. candy. salad? veggies? fruit? NOPE.