As I've posted before, DH's brother, his fiance, and their 2 yr old are staying with us until they find a place to live in Ontario (as are DH's parents so it's a full house here).
The nephew turns 2 in a month and he's at the phase where he's super inquisitive and wants to touch everything. And yes, kids that age make messes.
I hate that everyone except DH and I are constantly telling him NO to everything. Instead of paying attention to him and sitting down with him and explaining to him why he can't do something, they just slap his hand and force him not to do whatever they didn't want him to do.
And most of the things he does aren't bad!! Kids touch things, they make messes! Deal with it. The funny thing is if I say no, he doesn't freak out and have a tantrum. He gets it/he gets me. But if BIL or parents say anything, he freaks out.
I can tell he wants to learn to do things, learn about things. But they don't let him help at all with anything. They don't read to him, they don't sit down with him to do anything creative. They just plop him in front of the TV whenever he's awake.
For instance, I was cleaning this morning and he got a hold of the dustpan and brush and I was showing him how to sweep. Then his mom comes in and takes it away from him and he has a tantrum!
Sorry...it's just frustrating. I know I shouldn't complain about parenting styles but it just makes me sad because he's bright and wants to do so much! I mean, future SIL has never been to a big city ever, and never taken a bus before and she absolutely refuses to, which means she won't take him to places like a library or park or anything unless BIL is home to drive them. We live in the GTA (greater Toronto area) and there are so many early childhood resources around us that she could take him to for socialization, etc.