Just another rant a bit, but also maybe advice?
As you know we have house guests (DH's family) that REALLY need to move out. They had found a place they really liked for Nov 1 but weren't able to get the documents on time to apply and it was taken. They didn't really look for anywhere else though. They found another place over the weekend in the same building but it's not for rental until January 1. I immediately told DH (in private) that we cannot wait until then, not an option. It needs to be asap that they find a place.
So I looked online and came up with a list of about 20 places that looked good that were available either immediately or Dec 1. (Part of the problem is DH's family isn't familiar with looking for a rental online, which is where most are posted these days, and they aren't familiar with the city we live in but I've been here 10+ years). I sent it to DH who forwarded it to his mom. Most of the places were 3 bedroom but I put a few 2 bedroom on there just in case they were worth looking at (and the 2 yr old can stay with his parents if need be for a while).
Well, this was yesterday. I then went for a walk to the store alone to get some things. When I came back, everyone was gone but DH and he was in tears (my DH is VERY sensitive). Turns out his father said some pretty nasty things about me and made DH feel really bad. Basically, he told DH in a very passive aggressive way that it was obvious that I did not want them there and it was ok, they would go live in a motel or be homeless until they found a place.
Can you believe his father said that to him?? They have basically made DH choose between them or me!! They do not understand at all that they have overstayed their welcome and that they need to get out so DH and I can have some privacy alone as a couple for a few months before baby gets here.
It, however, did give me a chance to get some info out of DH and I do now see how much stress them being there is causing him and he also agrees that they need to leave. DH had 2 migraines this past week as well as a dizzy spell on Sunday and I think it's all stress related to his family. He agrees. He feels stuck though, he doesn't want to offend them either but he wants them out too.
How does DH explain to them nicely that they need to move into their own place as soon as possible but making them understand that we aren't kicking them out? I mean, if I wasn't pregnant we could wait until Jan 1. But WE NEED ALONE TIME before baby gets here. WE NEED our house back. WE NEED to prepare!! WE NEED people to stop yelling and screaming and touching our things!