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    Quote Originally Posted by raingirl28 View Post
    Ug.... they are applying for an apartment they like that's for January 1. If they get it then...I don't know what I will do. DH doesn't get it. He thought I would be happy they found a place they like! But he doesn't understand the timing at all. He doesn't understand the urgency of baby coming at all!!

    I'm crushed. I'm so depressed I can't stop crying. This whole pregnancy has been ruined for me it feels like because we haven't had any privacy or alone time in 6 months! I'm full term January 2!! I CANNOT have them here that long. I do not want them there during Christmas!! I'm finding this whole situation very psychologically traumatic. I'm never going to be able to look back at my memories of this pregnancy with joy....only sadness, depression, and anger.

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    DH just called me that he's in the ER. He has his third migraine in 7 days and he said it felt different than normal. I think the stress is affecting him more than he wants to admit. I hope he's ok and it's nothing worse than a migraine.


    Hugs! Maybe you need to sit down with the inlaws and dh and make it clear.

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    I think it is time to go hormonal on your inlaws. You being stressed and upset is not good for baby. You have put up with a lot of crap and don't need it to continue. Be the bad guy because if they don't get the apartment for January 1st then what? They keep staying with you! Men don't get pregnancy and the stress until baby actually arrives. Sorry you are having to deal with this. *hugs*

    eta: maybe have your midwife tell DH that stress is not good for either of you.
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    Tell them to move out now into a motel, and into the new place on Jan 1st. Most motels will give you a deal on weekly rental. And I love the idea of having your midwife talk to DH. I'd also go another step and make her the "bad guy" with your in-laws, too. Tell them that she says you need space, and quiet, and peace, and since you're not getting it with them there, she says they need to go. It's for everyone's health & well-being, yours, baby's, and DH's.
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    Apparently now they don't have the money to move out immediately, which is why they are going for Jan 1. Right now they don't even know if they can make a last months deposit to apply to anywhere let alone the one they found that they liked.

    So...nothing we can do. We are screwed....officially. Home birth is likely cancelled (I am NOT doing it while they are in the house). We don't have the cash to lend so we are stuck.

    Either that or tell them to move back to NB....
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    Honestly I'd tell them they have 2weeks to get out...

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    Rachael, I'm sorry you have all this stress going on! Not what you need during pregnancy!

    Is DH feeling any better? What ended up happening with the ER visit?

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    Turns out DH just had a really atypical, really bad migraine. He got some Toradol and Zofran via IV and a CT scan. Luckily the CT scan was clean! But it was his 3rd in 7 days which has never happened before. He got a script for some new medication to help him better the next time. All he had before was pain meds but this new one is (maxalt?) is supposed to stop all symptoms asap not just pain, so we shall see.

    I think it was triggered by all the stress at home. He doesn't want to admit it though, I don't think. I would hate to be in his position though. I mean, it's his family and he's close to them. how can you kick out your family and not have them hate you?
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    Its a tough situation. I think they have way overstayed any welcome but if I were you, I would find it really hard to kick the out because of the guilt trips.

    Has moving here been an improvement for them? Are they paying any rent to you?
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    I use maxalt for my migraines. It works and I can still function. So hopefully it will work for your DH.

    Sorry for all the stress this is causing both of you. If they have been out there since July with no full-time jobs I think it is time to go back to NB. Hard to tell them that. Have they not been saving any money while living with you?
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    How the **** have they been living rent-free for five or six months while working temp jobs and have no deposit money??? That's absolutely horrible. They can hate you all they want but it's their own damned fault. Two weeks, and stick to it, and keep with your own very reasonable plans for a home birth for your own baby. Do they go to church? Call the church and tell them to be helpful. Are the men Masons or Odd Fellows? Call your local lodge and ask them to be helpful. Get in touch with your local social services office and see if you can get them some help getting out, but DO NOT LET THEM STAY ANY LONGER. Don't you make me come up there and kick some more sense into you!
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