QOTD: Disagreements

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Joined: 01/21/07
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QOTD: Disagreements

Think back to a recent disagreement you had with your DH/SO. What sparked it? How did you resolve it?

Joined: 11/23/07
Posts: 870

why he didnt do the dishes. its not resolved. we've only washed what we need to eat for the last 2 weeks. the kitchen is 88 degrees and smells like multiple things molding and i am not happy with him right now. he just lost his job a month ago and i swear he does even less around the house now. because he's "too busy with the kids" funny how i work until 11 pm, get up with the kids at 8 while he lays in bed til 10, and i clean until noon, when he decides to go into town and return an application or pick one up and run errands, then i clean some more, and then he says he's going to clean while i'm gone and i come home to more mess. i'm about to go on vacation until he cleans the f-ing house.

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Joined: 01/21/07
Posts: 1486

Yikes! Hope you're able to come to a good solution soon!

A few weeks ago we had a disagreement about finances (typical, right?).

I had seen some carseats (the kind we plan to buy) on sale for about 50% off, and called him first to make sure he was ok with me putting it on the CC (about $320 total). He told me to just hold off till we'd done more research on them, so I didn't buy them. The seats soon sold out. A week or two later, he bought a crapload of fireworks ("around $400", he said).

What bothered me the most was that he didn't bother to run it by me first, and it was a major purchase. Was I thrilled about getting the fireworks, no, but I probably would have said ok had he asked, and I had respected his veto on the carseat purchase earlier.

I told him why it bothered me, and he kind of nodded and said he understood.

Later, he apologized and said he'd gotten carried away when he was in the fireworks store, and he felt bad because he couldn't return any of it.

So we talked and we're good now. Moving forward, we've agreed that discussing major purchases is a priority.

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Joined: 09/03/07
Posts: 1347

Gosh DH and I fight all the time. DH is very impatient and doesn't know how to communicate. He seems to think I can read his mind then gets mad at anything out of the blue. He also suffers from depression so a lot of our fights are over his lack of help around the house (he doesn't do anything, I do all the cleaning, cooking, shopping, laundry, etc). DH really needs to learn to do things, but he has a habit of blaming his lack of help on "I'm too depressed, too stressed, I need to relax I've been at work all day, etc". We've been to therapy and he agreed he needs to help more, but I'm also OCD and was told I need to lower my expectations. We were good a while but now DH is back to old habits again, including smoking. He quit when I found I was pregnant because he agreed he would, but he started again 2 weeks ago due to stress from an exam he had to take. He really needs to learn coping mechanisms for stress.

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