Chat to the Crowns, Part 14!

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Chat to the Crowns, Part 14!

Better late than never, right? Lol

Here is a link to the old thread.

http://www.pregnancy.org/bulletinboards/showthread.php?685037-Chat-to-the-Crowns-Part-13!/page108

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I hope all is well with everyone. I never get around to checking this thread these days, but there is an end in sight, because I am officially ONE MONTH AND THREE DAYS AWAY FROM GRADUATION!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Just had to share that. Lol

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Jackie - that's awesome!!! Congratulations!!!

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Congrats Jackie...

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Morning.. another crazy day for me... Ended up taking Maya to the ER yesterday morning for her cough/breathing problems. She is ok now... but I still don't like the sounds of her cough. We go for a follow up appt tomorrow. DH is home with her today.

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Hope everything is OK with Maya.

I thought yesterday was going to be a good day for E, but when DH picked him up, we got a whole other story. E got sent to sit wiht the director for a few hours because he couldn't behave in class. I wish someone had warned me...I think it's the terrible threes, not the terrible twos.

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Congrats Jackie! That is so exciting.

Mari - Do they have any idea what is wrong with Maya?

Kim - Be patient, you will get through this. Do any punishments or restrictions help with E?

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I think they don't tell us about the terrible threes, because we may not want to have kids.

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They think it's still the bronchiolitis but it doesn't seem to be getting any better. I understand that the cough last for awhile but my thought is that the cough shouldn't get any worse. They did rule out RSV. so I guess that is good.

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Kim - Be patient, you will get through this. Do any punishments or restrictions help with E?

Punishments and restrictions help at that moment, but they don't seem to carry through to the next day. For example, if we take away E's Wii for having a bad day on Monday, that doesn't guarantee that he'll be good at school on Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, or Friday.

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I hope they figure out what is wrong with Maya and she gets better soon.

Same thing here Kim. A punishment today doesn't seem to effect tomorrow. Although I have made him go to bed without dinner a couple times and that seemed to leave a lasting impression.

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Got another divorce offer from my ex. Apparently my orginal papers of split everything 50/50 wasn't fair in the eyes of his lawyer. But it is fair now that I get a 10k loan, and he gets a 5k loan. Then I get my car and car loan but he gets two paid off cars. He also wants weekly visitation until he deploys bc its in the best interest of the children. My arse! He can't even call weekly and when he does Russ becomes a very VERY angry little boy. He hasnt talked to his dad in about 3 weeks and now he is finally starting to act like a normal 3 yr old with positive thoughts. Before now he always focused on the bad in EVERYTHING. I'm just fuming. Gotta call my lawyer again today.

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I would be fuming as well. I hope you can work something out with him or just get him to sign the papers.

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That's a terrible offer! I'd be PO'd! Hope you can get things figured out.

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I am trying really hard to let it go and have faith it will all work out but its really hard. I'll be so glad when this is all over AGAIN.

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OMG Amber! I just looked at your signature line and realized Austin's birthday is soon. I can't believe he's already almost 2!

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I know! I can't believe it either. We are having his bday party this weekend since we will have all the kids. Nothing too big just going to the zoo then having presents and cupcakes with grandma.

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Amber thats a great way to spend the day with the kids.

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We were going to plan a bigger party when it was going to be the same weekend as the wedding but figured a small scale was fine. Heck if we invite all the cousins here its chaos.

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I hear you on the Chaos.

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LOL its so chaotic every othr weekend. I really didnt want to add to that. Smile Last night DF was telling me he is so ready to move out to his moms already. We are supposed to take over her house and property as soon as she finds something else and we can afford the higher utilities. I asked him why suddenly. Walking around the property last night with the kids in the nice weather. I just laughed and told him I've been ready for weeks, I am so relaxed when I'm out with the horses. I'm just adjusting to where we are now...on the outskirts of town with 2 acres. It'll be a big adjustment with 30+ acres and really in the country.

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I would love to live on 30 acres! There's always retirement for that dream...

Friday, my parents are driving to St Louis to camp for the night, before they leave for Alabama on Sunday. DH talked about going out for dinner, but I was thinking about making dinner to have a nice quiet dinner with E and my parents before they're gone for 1+ weeks. What's a good, inexpensive dinner idea for 4 adults and a 3 year old that sometimes eats like an adult?

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Chicken enchiladas, tacos (taco meat, kidney beans, white rice) - I feed the 7 of us for $5 or less and thats including a veggie, lasanga, thats all i can think of right now.

I always wanted that huge property, horses etc. Kinda sad that I had to become poor and loose just about everything in order to get my dream.

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What about Spaghetti and Meat Balls or a Meat Sauce with Garlic Bread and a Salad.

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"larsnamber" wrote:

Chicken enchiladas, tacos (taco meat, kidney beans, white rice) - I feed the 7 of us for $5 or less and thats including a veggie, lasanga, thats all i can think of right now.

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What about Spaghetti and Meat Balls or a Meat Sauce with Garlic Bread and a Salad.

Both great ideas!

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I'm at my wits end...

E had a terrible day yesterday. He got sent out of his room twice...once he had to go sit with the director. So, I called today to ask about his behavior. I was bombarded with all of the bad things Ethan does. We've gotten notes on his daily sheets about how he is uncooperative and disruptive, but I had no idea how bad it was. He's been spitting, hitting, not listening, not following directions, running away from his teacher and hiding...the list goes on and on. DH and I are not 100% on the same page. He believes if E can re-gain his good behavior in the afternoons, then things are all good. He also doesn't have 100% respect for E's teacher. I think that if E was bad in the morning, then he can't re-gain his good behavior status, and I feel that I have to believe what the teacher says is true, because I'm not there to say otherwise. This is going to sound terrible...but if I had known how bad a 3 year olds behavior can be, I'm not sure I would have decided to have a baby Sad

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Hey Ladies!!!!....I just read back over the day....Amber, I also cant believe our little ones are about to turn 2!!!....Charlie still has a few months, but its come round so fast!!!....Im so glad he has grown up, I can now say I enjoy him SOOOOO MUCH!!!....thats something I couldnt say when he was born, so Im really happy about that...Hes such a mummies boy, Andy cant even tickle me without Charlie getting sooo upset that he has tears streaming down his face...He going to be so prtective of me...

Kim, E sounds like hes doing normal 2/3yr old stuff....where they push the boundries, but it sound like he may have bee able to get away with it, to still be carrying it on......We are having problems with Liam at home, but he is an angel at kindy....He hits, pushes, talks back at home, but we are being SUPER strict on him (he sits on the naughty seat alot at the moment) and I think we are slowing cracking down on his bad behaviour....BUT it takes ALOT of consistancy on parents and caregivers behalves, to really make a difference....
E is in full time care pretty much isnt he, so they need to be the ones cracking down on it...But it is hard for them to do so now days....Have you thought about changing his daycare? or moving him into preschool (I think thats what you call it over there isnt it?) A new place with structure could be good for him...Also he would be the little fish in the big sea, if you know what I mean....He may be too comfortable where he is now and starting to rule the roost....Maybe sending him somewhere new, letting the teachers know what issues you have been dealing with so they can adjust them from the beginning....I dont know, just a thought..... Smile

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Kim - Everett is a nightmare at home but good at school. None of the issues I tell them about occur at school. I wonder if E would respond to a behavior chart. Instead of losing fun things make him earn them. No Wii until he gets 2 days with good reports from school, or some other reward system. Kids are tricky business. Hang in there, I remember with my nephew that 4 was the magic age that he could be reasoned with and things were easier. There are days I look at Dalton and say I really don't want him to ever be Everett's age because I don't want to do this again.

We are doing our taxes and we moved money last year from a brokerage account to a bank account and the tax guy wants information we can't find on the paperwork we have it's it's making DH CRAZY!

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E is in full time care, but he has moved to the pre-school part of the center. I talked to them last night, and they thought moving him might actually make the situation worse, so I guess we'll keep him there for now. They want to have a meeting with the two directors, E's teacher, DH and I. The problem with that is the timing. I work too far from home to meet during the day, DH goes to work early, and the directors are never at the center in the morning.

The biggest problem DH and I are having is that E doesn't act like this at home. He listens to us...but he also knows there are serious consequences at home. No, we don't abuse him...:lol: but the consequences are serious enough that he doesn't test them.

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Did I scare everyone away??? Sad

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Sorry I was running errands. Took the boys to story time only to find out it was canceled for today and tomorrow. Grr. So we read for a little bit but Austin couldn't behave. Hit Target, the feed store and then grocery store for a few quick items. Now I've been fighting with kids over quiet time.

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Those are the things that make me sad about not being a stay at home mome...reading days at the library.

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Being a SAHM def has its trying moments but overall it has been really rewarding.

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The good thing about being a SAHM would be that you don't have someone else telling you what type of kid you have when he doesn't act that way at home. I'm so stressed about how to get E to act like he does at home at school.

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Honestly Kim, your situation is the total opposite to most working mums and dads....Everyone in your situation have an angel child in anyone elses care, and are terrible for mum and dad when they get home...
I dont want to be blaming the child care hes been in....BUT.....they have been the ones caring for him and molding him and his behaviour since he was young....SOOOOO they kinda are responsable for his behaviour in their care....
I still think it sounds like he needs to go somewhere else and get him starting fresh with new carers....Sometimes kids grow out of their inviroment....Just like with the child care I provide, alot of kids will stay with one home educator for 2 years and then they grow out of the enviroment they are in and move onto a new educator that can provide the child with the stimulation/activities/experiences that suit that child...
Just my thoughts on it....

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Good morning ladies!

I am sooo tired! We are supposed to have a playdate with Zander (from last fall) but his mom hasn't called for a time yet, she had to do preschool pictures today too.

We are still trying to figure out the taxes stuff. I think we are going to have to file an extension just because we can't figure it out. DH is mad at our financial planner for not being able to help us, and mad at himself for not knowing what the tax man is looking for. I just think this stuff is annoying.

I could not be a SAHM. I really like my thursdays off, but I'm ready to go to work on Friday after that day off. I used to think I could get things done like laundry, house cleaning, but it seems like I can't accomplish anything on that day and I just end up exhausted.

My boys are playing together with the batcave. I think it's getting to be a good time finally where they can do stuff together.

Kim - I would discuss the consequences they have at school for E. Maybe they aren't consistant enough or maybe they aren't speaking his language. Not all kids respond to time out, some need spankings, some can get a disappointed look and they crumble.

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Amy - I hope you get everything figured out with your taxes. What a PITA. I know what you mean about not getting anything done. I had big plans to have this house unpacked and organized within 2 weeks. Now I'm closer to two months and its still not done. DH does give me credit though, I have the boys all day and the house is super tiny so I've had to sort through each box and take it out to his moms for storage now the stuff left behind I'm trying to find homes for without closets and without finished kitchen cabinets. I'm probably gonna end up exhausted but my goal is to get it all done before the weekend. We have Austin's bday party on Saturday and I'm tired of looking at this mess of a house.

Kim - I hope you can figure something out when you meet with everyone. Russ was having serious behavior issues when he was the oldest one in the 2 yr old class. Once they finally moved him to a different class he started to do better. Maybe E needs a change even if its just a classroom.

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The last two nights i have had the most jacked up dreams.

Two nights ago I dreamed I woke up DH for DTD. He got angry and since it was 4am decided he would just get up. Then I got up and realized I was bleeding really heavy (like I did when i had to go to the ER after having Russ). I told DH and he was annoyed bc I always call wolf. We go to the hospital and noone is really concerned but the janitors keep coming around to wipe up drops of blood on the floor. DH is tired of waiting and asks me if he can just leave, so I tell him yes. He leaves me and then suddenly reappears bc apparently I need emergency surgery (even though i never saw a dr) and they called him back. My old OB walks in shortly after that to do the surgery.

Last night I dreamed that one of my SIL's was trying to make our wedding hers, DH was nonchalant about everything. I went to the dress store and the sales lady said they messed up the alterations. I go back to DH to find him wearing a very sparkly tank top (like a piece of a bridesmaid dress). There is a really nice bed and all he cares about is wanting to sleep in it. Finally when we leave I demand that we have to talk now. He kinda rolls his eyes. Then my old sales manager at my job is there and I'm telling him about DH. He suggests I talk to FIL (who passed a few years ago) or BIL. Then he disappears and DH is back. We are being chased by gangsters and I'm doing some major Nascar driving.

I told DH about it this morning and all he said was that I need to stop dreaming about him bc I keep making him into my x. Only thing I can think of is we got that dumb offer from x 3 nights ago.

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Amber I hope your crazy dreams go away soon

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"zobi" wrote:

Honestly Kim, your situation is the total opposite to most working mums and dads....Everyone in your situation have an angel child in anyone elses care, and are terrible for mum and dad when they get home...
I dont want to be blaming the child care hes been in....BUT.....they have been the ones caring for him and molding him and his behaviour since he was young....SOOOOO they kinda are responsable for his behaviour in their care....
I still think it sounds like he needs to go somewhere else and get him starting fresh with new carers....Sometimes kids grow out of their inviroment....Just like with the child care I provide, alot of kids will stay with one home educator for 2 years and then they grow out of the enviroment they are in and move onto a new educator that can provide the child with the stimulation/activities/experiences that suit that child...
Just my thoughts on it....

I have started investigating other care givers. We're supposed to meet with the teachers, and directors next week, and we'll see where it goes from there.

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Kim, Good luck with your meeting.

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Thanks. I'm nervous about it. I'm afraid that they're going to put most of the blame on DH and I because E is an only child.

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Kim - I am sure E is not the first or only "only child" in their facility. Everett has a baby brother and definately has his fair share of discipline issues. I have to say that E has the advantage at home because there are 2 of you and only one of him, but I can't imagine they will "blame" you. If they do, then it's not the right place for him to be.

The boys had an AWESOME playdate, we went to a park we've never been to then walked to dairy queen. The kids had a great time, even Dalton! This is going to be a fun summer!

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Up until 7 months ago Joshua was an only child... I don't think that has anything to do with it.

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Amy glad you had a great play date.

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I don't think being an only child has anything to do with it either. Russ def had his share of issues, and still does. I agree with Amy if they try blaming you instead of coming up with a plan of action to help E then its not the place for him.

Amy glad you had a good play date.

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WOW they have just combined the whole of 2010!!!!.....sadly our July board slumped after xmas....just goes to show how awesome our Aug board is, to still be going strong...LOVE YOU LADIES!!!

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I know! I don't even go to the january 11 board, but we have a page on facebook that is just easier.

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It is crazy glad our group is more active

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Me too. I don't know what I'd do without you guys.

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I definitely need you guys! I think I've said it before, but I'm closer to my computer friends than my in real life friends.

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