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desperate!!!

ladies, i am desperate for ideas here!

eric, who was pee-pee trained over two months ago, is still afraid of pooping on the potty! yes, afraid...tried bribes, m&ms, etc...he sees twinkie brother go- but nothing. they usually copy and learn from each other..but not this.

doc did not have good ideas at their 3-year appt except for taking his favorite toys away if he poops in the pants. well, i have twin boys and they play with the same toys, etc. then i would be taking away from patrick, too...

ANY ideas on how to train a kid not to be afraid of the potty?

preschool starts next week and they have to be trained...well...he is pee-pee trained!

thanks...

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Joined: 11/21/07
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I really wish I could help. Lexi still refuses to go poop in the toilet...heck at daycare she refuses to go potty in the toilet. I don't know what I'm going to do! I wish I could help you but I'm honestly NO help!

I know one of Lexi's friends is doing a sticker chart. He gets 2 stickers if he poops in the toilet and loses one if he poops his pants. He has to earn 4 stickers to get a prize. You could try that.

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Megan, thanks...but it seems like prizes do not motivate him since it's more about being scared vs not motivated or wanting to--you know what i mean?

In this area (perhaps in others, too), I do wish that they were in daycare right now because there, they would work with the boys. In this traditional preschool setting, they requirem them trained and they will not even wipe their toushes. I am serious. They do not provide toilet rings because of sanitary reasons, nothing. At least they will help with pulling pants up/down, unzipping, etc.

My boys just turned three a week ago and I feel like they are treated like they just turned 4- big difference. THis school cam very highly recommended, so it's me and the boys that will have to adjust, though! Smile

Oh man...............

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OK, this may be a crazy question, but how often is he pooping? EJ doesn't poop anywhere else but home. He didn't ever poop at daycare except when he was constipated and pooped. So. . .this could be a non-issue. As for wiping behinds. .I would rather EJ didn't wipe, just seems cleaner if he lets me do it.

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he poops once a day these days...today he held it all day, i think because i was kind of pressuring him and putting him on the toilet every so often to poop...i think that with him, it's going to be one of those things that he will just suddenly get and that is ok..i am just worried about issue with preschool because they do have to be trained...i can handle cleaning poopie pants for a bit longer at home....:)

Joined: 12/25/07
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When you say "scared" can you tell if it's tied to a constipation issue or something? When he poops in his pants, does he still squat (like go behind furniture or in a corner)? We never had the issue and Savannah is kind of like Everett in that she rarely, if ever, had a bowel movement at school, even when she was in diapers. The older kids get, a lot of the issues are around control and not really fear, but if you know he had a specific issue, like constipation, maybe you can ease the fear by ensuring that his stool is softer. Sometimes songs help coax kids, like "Savannah's a big girl she's sitting on her bottom" which we changed to "Savannah's a big girl she sitting on the potty!" She loved it and at school it worked really well b/c the kids really want to hear their name called when the others are being called.

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pamela, i am not sure if he is scared because of the constipation per se...i just know that constipation is part of the whole deal. however, he is on miralax and prune juice now and even when they are normal bowel movements, he will go in his pants...for instance, the other day after lunch, patrick told me that he needed to go do both things..so i made a big deal about with eric, told him what patrick is doing, etc..while i'm tending to patrick, eric disappears (to the playroom), comes back less than a minute later to announce that he went poopoo.......

he does not hide per se, but he knows that it's not right what he is doing (he will often look at me with a guilty eye when i catch him in the middle of things)...but there is something about the potty that makes him not want to do it there...

the mystery of my life!

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Everett didn't ever have trouble pooping on the potty, but he did have troubles pooping in general. He did a few bouts of 8-10 days of no poo b/c he'd had constipation once and it hurt so then he held it forever. We had to do miralax for several weeks until he started going regularly and he still gets candy for pooping just to keep him regular. Bribery didn't work in the midst of the poop issues though.

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