Everett has been a nightmare for about a month now. He does stuff just to get the negative attention. Yesterday I told him "if you want attention from mommy you don't have to get in trouble, we could snuggle, or read a book or color, you don't have to be bad all the time" and he asked me to do somethign with him and he even let me put him to bed (DH's job).
Today, he took no nap and is absolutely exhausted, but his behavior is horrible. He had a monster meltdown and ended up being put in time out by DH and me multiple times, but he wouldn't stay. I read on another BB about a ped recommended getting behind the child and doing a bear hug until they calmed down from their temper tantrums so I did that and he flipped out for about 5 minutes (the whole time I'm saying when you calm down I will let go of you). Then it was finally over and he ate his dinner and has been relatively good.
We have tried spankings, time outs, rewards and nothing is really making a difference in his behavior. I printed out a behavior chart that is about temper tantrums. I thought I could tell him when he gets 5 stickers on the chart for a day with no temper tantrums we could go to mc donalds for a happy meal toy. I told MIL that we may have to withhold mc donalds to get his behavior to improve and she was heartbroken because they go there every wednesday. (I know her thing is not the same as our thing, but should the rule be concrete?)
I'm really at my wits end with him. I don't even like the idea of taking him anywhere in the car because he is so challenging. I've taken him to daycare kicking and screaming the whole day in twice now and brought him home from daycare kicking and screaming once.
I understand he's two, his life has been turned upside down in the last 3 months, and he may or may not feel bad b/c his ears are bad. . . .but despite that I expect better behavior.
Tell me I'm not alone and any hints for handling the situation. I am pretty strict with him since the beginning, it's not like he's a spoiled rotten kid who is just now finding out about rules.