all right, nothing major and there are bigger things happening in this world but....
my mil is driving me nuts by always giving me input into how to do things with the boys. not directly, sometimes in a rundabout way (which is worse)...as if eric and patrick were her kids. they are mine! and i think that it bothers me the most is because she is not an involved grandparent whatsoever. she lives 6 hours aways but only sees the boys 2-3 times a year for 2-3 days. when she is here, or we are there, she does not talk to them, or if she does, she talks to them at a 12-months old level, does not read to them, does not do anything basically. my parents, who live in europe, are a LOT more involved, despite the distance.
she has issues with the fact that we are raising the boys bilingually and that there is a strong emphasis right now on hungarian. why? because i am stay-at-home and they are with me all day long. i talk A LOT, like most of you, ladies, and yes, their hungarian is amazing, in terms of their speech...their english, is a lot less strong, maybe at a typical american 26-28 month old boy (2-3 word sentences). she does not realize the fact that the boys understand EVERYTHING in english and they are doing great, provided that they are learning two languages at the same time. she hates this and does not see the value of it. and she does not realize that once they start preschool this september, their english is going to skyroket.
she hates the fact that i tend to dress the boys the same. i know that many people have different thoughts on dressing twins and i can see both sides of the story. however, at this point in time, i choose to dress them the same, or very very similarly. i like that and it's easier for me. their shoes are different and yes, sometimes the color of the shirt is different...or not! she thinks that this interferes with their identities and individualism. i disagree, i know these boys very well! she is not a twin, only is a grandparent to another set of twins but they are boy/girl and so there is no way to dress them the same! my boys are very very different in personality. very. and they could not care less about clothes at this point. i dress them, they don't choose..or i will let the first little guy choose which color shirt he wants when he is being dressed first.
and i probably will not dress them the same forever, not at all. just right now, when they are little, i like it. kindergarden and up? probably not.
today, she told me that i should get two different backpacks for preschool..and it all started to piss me off.
again, it bothers me because she is not involved with anything, does not spend time with them and when she does, she does not teach them anything. just the other day i had to ask her to tell them that "playdoh" is playdoh in english as the boys did not know that word in english yet so they kept saying it to her in hungarian (survivial skill). well, duh!!!! if you are worried about their english, then teach them and talk to them! (ps: i do not speak a word to them in english because we are doing one-parent-one-language very strictly since birth).
i am done venting! not the biggest problem in the world, really, but still it peeves me...
thanks, girls, i am done..for now!