potty training- all advise appreciated!

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potty training- all advise appreciated!

ok, girls, please do not judge: i have not started to potty train the boys yet..yes, we have tried being in underwear, yes, they do know how to use the little potty and the regular toilet, yes, i make them sit before bath, etc..but they are not trained at all.

but they have to be by september 1st when preschool starts!

i am planning on going "cold turkey" and dedicate a few days of just being home, if needed...

ANY ADVISE THAT YOU CAN GIVE ME, ESPECIALLY IF YOU HAVE POTTY TRAINED A BOY BEFORE? my twins do not have older siblings, they just see hubby and i do our thing, if you will.

Thanks!!!!!!!!!!

Esther

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Ha - I'm pretty much in the exact same situation as you. She can do it, we do underwear sometimes, but we are still at the point where she totally does not mind going in her underwear, and she also has to be trained for preschool in September. With Braden I just went cold turkey and it took a day and a half. Jenna is just not catching on like he did.

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No one will ever judge you on here Smile

Every kids different, and you got 2 to deal with at the same time...In my experience boys do take longer than girls, I potty train twins (1 boy, 1 girl) when I was 18 and a nanny...

Its just a case of commitment on your behalf as much as on their behalf....

Toilet them at the same time (have a potty ready too) cos with two they tend to want to go at the same time!!!...
Start by taking them every 30mins...and gradually stretch that time out...seeing you are on a time limit, it going to be a case of just sticking with it, no matter how bad its looking...Just when you think all is lost and they are never going to cotton on...they will get it...
Lucky for you it is coming into summer so drying washing wont be as bad...
Find some underwear that they like (let them pick it out) preferably with a picture on it, as they dont like to get the little bear or car etc wet...and you can use that in conversation when putting them on etc...

As things progress, I added rewards...With my daughter I did a star chart and that worked great...With Liam I took the easy road and used treats :rolleyes: but they were on VERY little treats, but he thought it was GREAT...as in I would break a tiny piece of chocolate off and give it to him...
I started rewards when he asked to go toilet and actually went...he was rewarded...that changed to if you can go all day without wetting, he was rewarded at the end of the day...And then we bought it back in to get the pooping sorted....

He was my 2 step forward and 1 step back child...

Good luck jeep us posted on how you are getting on...:)

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bribery and rewards work.

EJ started sitting on the froggy potty in the living room with a little table set up with toys on it so he would sit long enough for action.

He still poops for candy. (sucker, tootsie roll, whatever)

We are a little farther along than you that he doesn't have accidents, but he won't potty in the bathroom. We need to get him out of the living room, but I wasn't eager to do that with a new baby, so now it's time to work in that direction.

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My two biggest pieces of advice (now that we are actually wearing panties every day!!!)

1) Once they are in underwear ALWAYS put them in underwear- Lexi has no problem peeing or pooping in a pull-up so I only use it when I MUST (ie during her dance recital and at bedtime)

2) (this was the thing that really worked for me) get underwear with their favorite character, ours was Dora, and say "Dora will be sad if you potty on her" For some reason Lexi really took this to heart and freaked out when she went potty on Dora...she's been using the toilet ever since.

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"AmyJo86268" wrote:

bribery and rewards work.

EJ started sitting on the froggy potty in the living room with a little table set up with toys on it so he would sit long enough for action.

He still poops for candy. (sucker, tootsie roll, whatever)

We are a little farther along than you that he doesn't have accidents, but he won't potty in the bathroom. We need to get him out of the living room, but I wasn't eager to do that with a new baby, so now it's time to work in that direction.

no judging!! Everyone is different!

rewards and bribery. that was our key!!! He wanted to move up to the preschool room at school, so we told him he needed to start pottying more. He stands to pee like DH, he thinks he is a big boy. peeing was pretty easy for him to catch on too. Pooping was an issue for a few days. So we started a prize bag with candy, small toys (mainly Target dollar isle ones!), etc. He loves it!! He also has cool potty seats (Football and baseball ones).

We also use lots of praise, "you're such a big boy, etc." He thinks he is such a big boy now, he goes into the bathroom pulls up the stool and pees him self, moves it to the sink ans washes his hand by himself. He tells us "I don;t need help, I am not a baby!"

Good luck, you will be fine by preschool!

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"MrsRiggert" wrote:

My two biggest pieces of advice (now that we are actually wearing panties every day!!!)

2) (this was the thing that really worked for me) get underwear with their favorite character, ours was Dora, and say "Dora will be sad if you potty on her" For some reason Lexi really took this to heart and freaked out when she went potty on Dora...she's been using the toilet ever since.

this help us too, he pooped in his favorite Percy the train underwear a couple times and I told him Percy was not happy he got popped on LOL

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I agree with the "once in underwear, stay in underwear" advice. You will probably have a messy few days but if you let them use Pull UPs, they might use or rely on them until they are 5. Get the image of the "mommy I need to go potty" kid from the commercials out of your head. Those kids are much older and are ACTING!!! You have to know their patterns, take them on a strict schedule and they will get it. I also got her off the potty chair fairly quickly because, honestly, it was grossing me out, it was worse than diapers. Savannah has been trained for some time and I still cut off liquids around 7pm. She's rarely had an overnight or napping accident and she's been trained almost a year and a half.

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Did the bribes thing with Journi, rewards, panties, etc. Everything went great and was potty trained for three weeks and then she suddenly decided she didn't want it. Finding her currency was near impossible. Finally, I refused to allow her to wear pants and panties anymore, telling her that she couldn't wear them until she was being a big girl with the potty. She stopped immediately, having only one accident on the floor. Apparently, she hates going potty on the floor and it never occurred to her that it leaks in her panties. Kept her like this for three days to ensure she had it down pat before allowing her to wear her panties again. It worked. Finally! Good luck on the training... how is it going, btw?

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So? why would someone judge you because you aren't potty training...I think three is the perfect age to start potty training as most kiddos in my opinion just don't get it before then it seems...I have some experience on this as I have potty trained 2 boys before...Adam is potty trained during the day as long as he is just wearing his shorts and no diaper....if he puts a diaper on at night he will wet himself...He can go nap-time with out a diaper tho...I am working on the night training...it seems to take longer for that...I think I am mostly over the potty training hill...
I just let him run around with no diaper on naked...keep a close eye on him...remind him often to use the potty(get a potty chair in the area the boys use very often...put a towel or some matts under it as they will miss.) Get your rub scrubber/resolve and towel ready because they will have accidents...once they get more established pottying they can be clothed and you can take the smaller potty away for them to use the big potty...I use the low stress longer approach..good luck!:bigarmhug:

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Im in a similar posistion aswell. In the fact that pre-k will only take him in the 3 yr old class if he is potty trained. Carl however plain out refuses the potty. He will scream and throw a fit. Ive tried bibes and the cartoon underwear, it doesnt work. He just is totally against it. So your doing better than me. lol