Ok guys I don't know what to do! The cut off for Kindergarten is July 31st so in a few years I can test her in and have her start Kindergarten at 5 years old OR I can hold her and she'll start Kindergarten at 6. Personally I'd like to go ahead and send her at 5 but her daycare provider is an adimate believer in holding kids back.
This leaves me with 2 options for pre-school...
A) if she's going to go to kindergarten at age 5 I would like her to start pre-school this fall when she's 3 and next fall when she's 4
B) if she's going to kindergarten at age 6 then she won't start pre-school til next fall when she's 4 and then go again when she's 5.
I would like to send her this fall just to see if she's going to be ready. I mean, honestly, I think getting her into preschool will be the only way for me to decide if she'll be ready when she's 5. However the pre-school teacher is a little "iffy" on having a child who just turned 3 in the classroom.
I would like to believe Lexi is mature for her age and will be fine starting school at age 5 and starting preschool at age 3. I just don't know what to do! Am I hurting her by not olding her back or will she end up being bored when she gets older/in school??? HELP!
I would send her if YOU think she is ready!!! Only you as a parent can make the right decision. You know best. Sounds like she is ready to me. We are pretty sure Stephen will be starting K when he is 5 as well. He has been the youngest kid in all his daycare rooms. When he gets bored, he acts up and is fine when is is moved up to the next room. He picks up tons from the older kids. He would be so bored if we held him back til 6. What does DH think? You are a good Mom to be thinking about it already
Megan in your area is there church run preschools? I know in my area we have a few. it might be an option for Lexi.
2 years of pre-school is pretty standard around here; are there any 3 year old classes on your area or are they all literally the year before kindergarten (4)?? Savannah is being transitioned to the 3 year old class now. It's hard to know what a child will be capable of or ready for in a couple of years and the readiness has more to do with their maturity and not skills.
The girl that did Zayne's pictures today just finished her first year of college. She was the youngest in her class (Aug 17th birthday) and started when she was 5. So I decided to pick her brain and see if she thought school was harder for her since she started earlier/was youngest in her class. She told me academically it wasn't hard but she had a tough time with sports because she was younger. She said if I"m concerned about/want Lexi to participate in sports then it might be good to hold her. I don't want her to be held back just for sports.
If Lexi were a boy, I would probably say that the cut-off date most definitely works to your advantage. That's purely based on physical development, since bigger/older boys can tend to be more socially dominant. As a girl, that is not nearly as big of a deal, though.
I went through a similar consideration with Braden. He is one of the oldest in his class (cutoff date is August 31, and his bday is September 27). He is also very academically advanced for his age. In the end I decided not to push for early enrollment, because I was worried about social maturity, and about him potentially being one of the smallest boys for his age.
That being said, I do not feel that he has been being "held back" in any way. The teachers have been pretty good about differentiation. He reads the hardest books and gets the advanced math homework. While I am pretty sure he could easily be doing work that is also a grade level above where he is at, I don't see it as necessary. We all end up knowing the same stuff in the end, so it doesn't really matter when, as long as the teachers do their part to continue to challenge him.
With Jenna, I am quite worried that she may not be ready for school, since she will be one of the youngest in her class. She just seems so much more babyish to me than I remember Braden seeming at her age. My plan with her is that I am sending her to 3-year-old preschool this year, and we will just see how that goes.
So, that's my $.02 based on my experiences. Good luck with your decision.
Bob and Jackie
Proud parents of Braden since 9/27/03 and Jenna since 7/28/08
I did not read everybody's responce, BUT. . .I have a July birthday and I went to school at 5 years old after 2 years of preschool. Academically (despite my inability to spell) I did well and was ready. I graduated top 10 of my class and went on to do well in college. Socially. . . I probably should've waited a year. I just didn't quite mature at the same time as my other classmates. Maybe I was a later bloomer, or maybe I just behind enough because of my age. Probably both.
EJ being a boy, will definately not go until he's 6 years old.
The daycare I have him in goes to pre-school at age 3 and I plan keeping him there at least until he's 5. Then I may look at a bigger pre-school or maybe not.
I totally agree that if Lexi were a boy I wouldn't be asking this question, I would definately wait a year to send her. I'm thinking I may just send her to 3 year old pre-school and see how she does. The teacher is worried about her having 3 years of pre-school if she doesn't start kindergarten at age 5. I guess I can just send her and if it doesn't work out pull her out and then we'll know that she needs to wait until she's 6. AHHH...why does this have to be so hard??