Depression in pregnancy

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Depression in pregnancy

I haven't been posting much about this because I didn't want to share really, but I thought if it helps anyone else, it might be worth it.

I had the same problem during DD's pregnancy - depression. It only happens in 3rd trimester for me, but it can be completely disabling. I have lots of theories about it, but not worth sharing unless someone else is suffering. Mostly, I want to share in case anyone else is dealing with it. It is normal and it can go away. PPD is well-known and much more common, but it is awful to feel depressed during pregnancy as well. For me, I feel both physically and mentally exhausted. I have sobbing sprees that come out of no where (can be really embarrassing). It is hard to explain and feels very distressing. I'm sure at times it is hard for DD and DH. I know every pregnant woman has mood swings, this is just more severe.

Anyway, don't feel like you need to respond. I'm having a really good day today, actually. I'm sharing in case anyone else is feeling really down and may be going through the same thing. If so, feel free to PM me.

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I have been diagnosed with PP anxiety and panic attacks after delivery. But durring the last month I have been feeling signs that it is going to hit me before delivery this time. It is not so much depression as I am happy most of the time but out of the blue my hart will race and I get chest pains or cramps and all I want to do is lay in bed until it passes. But this week TV shows, post on FB, anything can make me cry. My other sign is I am the atachment parent type and when I get anxiety out of the blue I just want to yell at the kids for dumb things and I can't deal with them. Part of how they knew it was anxiety and not PPD was when they gave me xanix all my symptoms lifted in less then 20 min.

My PPA was so bad after my first son that they kept me in the hospital for 5 days becasue my atacks. (my Mother had passed away 16 days before I had him) but they would not give me meds becasue they wanted me to morn her. But because of it I only BF my poor son and cried and stayed in bed and did not feel like I was bonding with him. I was to sad and to scared to get close to him, it was a good 2 weeks of fog and then I snapped out of it and was like OMG no one is going to pick him up, I'm not baby sitting he is MINE!! I think part of it was the unexpected c-section too and not seeing him come out of me was tramadic for me. I was so bad that they where afrade I was a risk to him and DH took FMLA to stay home with us for the first 6 weeks.

After Tessa it was the same but I figured I did this once I can do it without meds agean and DH planed to take a 3 week vacation after her birth. But I still had issues until she was about 9 months old. No big attacks but I figured that was becasue my moms passing was not part of it that time.

After Heath it was the same for the first few weeks and then he had all his health issues at 3 weeks (we almost lost him) and DH was not helpful he was dealing with his own bi-polar and depression stuff. At my 6 week PP visit the midwife was like you have to take a xanix just try it and and see if it helps. OMG it was like night and day, I can't belive I suffred like that with the other 2 when I could have had something to help all that time. WE think we are wonder women but we don't have to be.

I have a Rx of xanix now but I have not taken one in almost 13 months. I have felt the need the last few weeks but I have been venting to Bill and going to bed instead.

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I know how you feel! I have been quite depressed this pregnancy as well. Last time I had ppd, but it didn't hit me until after the birth. I have been reading a lot about ppd, hoping to avoid it this time. Most of the books I've read have mentioned that antenatal depression (depression during pregnancy) is a huge risk factor in developing ppd.:( Did you have it last time?
I don't really like sharing either, things are better than when we were born but there is definitely still a bit of stigma around depression during and after pregnancy. However, it helps to talk, especially to others who may be going through the same thing.
I'm glad you aren't feeling too bad right now, feel free to pm me too if you want to talk.

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*hugs* girls!

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Rebecca, I didn't have any PPD last time. They worried about it of course, but I was much better. I'm hoping for the same thing this time.

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I have struggled with depression for many years. When it comes I go on medicine and when I am better I slowly go off of it as long as I am able.

I went off of my depression medicine when I got prego with DD. I thought I was ready to handle it. The first trimester went OK. The second I could start to feel myself sinking into depression again and by the 3rd I was definitely there. I finally had to be put back on medicine while prego with DD (although a different type since I was prego). The prego safe medicines don't work as well for me so it was still a struggle but better than no meds at all. After DD was born it was even worse. I made an appt to get back on my normal medicine and it didn't take long before I was back to my normal self. I think I was on my medicine for 3 months before going off of it again. I have been medicine free ever since.

However, the last couple of weeks I can feel myself slipping back into depression. It is not bad enough yet to ask for medicine but I know it is there and I am doing my best to control it. I imagine I will be asking for medicine after the twins are born if I don't have to before.

Depression is debilitating, takes your life away and the life of people around you. It is no joking matter. It is very serious. It is not something you can help. It is a medical condition that needs treatment. I hate the stigma attached to it and I do my best to help others in similar situations. It took me many years to the help I needed because I was scared of asking for help and scared as being looked at differently. I encourage anyone who thinks they may be struggling with depression to get help. It is the hardest but most rewarding thing you can do for yourself and your family.

On a personal note - my DH is struggling with depression right now. He knows he has a problem but will not get help. He keeps thinking he can handle it himself but it is not working. I don't know what to do for him but I keep encouraging him to get help. It is that first step - that asking for help - that is the hardest thing to do. I keep promising him you will be so glad you did get help but I just can't seem to convince him to make that step. I have told him I have been there, I know what it is like - but still nothing. I wish there was some way to show depressed people what the future holds if you just get help. It is a night and day difference, I know I've been there.

If anyone wants to talk more about depression or ask personal questions, feel free to PM me anytime. I am very open about what I have been through and the constant battle I have with depression.

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thanks for sharing ladies....

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With my first I had major depression the entire first trimester and the first couple weeks of the second. Unfortunately, I had no idea until it was to the point where I was pretty depressed. There were a million times that we'd have something planned and I'd have zero interest in doing it but would go for my hubs. We had one time where we had a party to go to and we were driving to get the present and I said I don't even feel like going. And my hubby was upset (neither of us knowing I was depressed) saying that I never want to do anything anymore. I finally called my doctor about it and they prescribed something...I don't remember which one. I ended up no needing them as it went away about a week into my 2nd tri. I had only called a few days before then. I think I'm close to being depressed without being pregnant...I'm way too easily swayed by my hormones. When I was 18 and first started the pill, they put me on orthotrycyclene and after about 2 weeks my hubby (boyfriend at the time) and mom noticed something was up but didn't say anything. After starting my second pack, I finally realized something was wrong and later found out my husband wasn't far from breaking up with me. Any kind of change in my hormones really effects my mood. I can't tell if I had any depression this pregnancy or not. I know I wasn't a really jolly person the first trimester and maybe 1/4 into my second...but I don't know if that was because I didn't feel well.

I read about 10% of women have depression throughout their pregnancy, but I think the article said it wasn't accurate because we don't always report it to our doctors. And, really, they don't ask. I would think that could be a question they ask at our appointments. We don't always know if we're depressed...especially if we haven't experienced it in the past.