I tell you what - I have just about had my fill of how DH is acting (sorry if this is long).
When he found out we were prego with twins, he changed. We lived in the same house but weren't really functioning as a couple. He would do his thing and I would do mine. He completely withdrew and I spent the whole pregnancy alone. I did the whole thing by myself, without any support or help from him. I went to every appointment by myself. I worked up until the day they were born (I worked until 2pm and they were born at 6pm the same day). I kept up with the children even prego beyond belief and I never once complained or said anything about it. I knew he was going through some sort of depression but he would not talk to me or get help like I suggested. In the operating room the day they were born I told him - don't say anything, just take some pictures.
Once they were born, he changed again. When he saw them he smiled and held them. It was like he was a completely different person. I couldn't believe it. He even spent the night in the hospital with me and the twins. It was like a 180 degree turn in seconds.
Since the twins have been born, he is acting like when we first got married. He is happy go lucky, all over me all the time BUT he will not help with the twins at all. :mad: He took two weeks off of work after they were born but I was the one who had to get up with them. Even when I had such a horrible delivery and was very sick after they were born he would not help. I had to get my mom and sister to help one night because I just couldn't do it another night. I could barely take care of myself and I was trying to take care of twins all night by myself. I understand me getting up with them at night now while I am off of work and he is back to work but I am just frustrated (unfortunately to the point I cant sleep). Friday was my birthday - which he forgot until like 2pm he remembered - I asked if he would let me sleep all night once for my birthday. Heck no, he had to work the next day and wouldn't even consider it. I asked if he would at least do one feeding so I could get a longer stretch of sleep - no again. Tomorrow he has the day off, you think he is helping with the twins tonight - nope. You think he is staying home with me to help with the kids tomorrow - nope.
Maximum I get two hours of sleep at a time. The boys are on a 3 hour feeding schedule. The start to feed every 3 hours. However, it takes about an hour to feed them, so that leaves me with 2 hours of sleep before I have to get up and feed them again.
Plus on top of all this, while i am on my maternity leave from work - not only am I watching and taking care of the twins plus a toddler, I am also taking care of his two older children. Their mom is uncapable of watching them (she has no job and nothing to do all day) so I am the one stuck doing it. Not that I don't mind watching my step children, but it pisses me off that I am recovering from a csec, trying to take care of twins and a toddler - yet I am the only one who can take care of thier children. The 10 year old is not easy either. She is at the age where she is getting an attitude and talking back all the time. Not fun.
I don't know how I am going to manage all this when I get back to work.
If you made it this far, thanks for listening. I just couldn't hold it in anymore. I needed to vent. Maybe now I can get some sleep after I feed the twins. Thanks.