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okay - i feel like i'm loosing my mind. I have never been so unorganized in my life and i just don't know where to start to fix it.

I just can not seem to get organized - i forget things, i am always rushing in the mornings...... i feel so displaced at work and just like i can't focus.... ugh, i am not liking this. My house is a disaster....the holidays are coming and i just feel like i'm just going through the motions...i just feel content at home....i just don't know how to get organized.... these last 2.5mnths have just been one big blur. If i could stay home and work pt somewhere i totally would....but bills have to be paid....:(

Anyone else feeling this way?

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Me! I'm happy to hear I'm not alone...

I've completely lost the ability to focus on anything it seems. I just feel like I'm constantly a step behind where I should be at any given moment. It really SUCKS!

Last week, one day I completely forgot to pump at work. My boobs kept hurting, but I guess I just didn't think about it until I went to leave and saw my bag with the pump in it! I felt like such an idiot!

I have this paranoia that I am going to accidentally lock the baby and my keys in the car. I used to be bad about locking the keys in the car, but now I'm afraid about what if I do it before I get him out!! I have one of those key things by my wheel, but I'm still afraid it's going to fall off or something. I've actually just stopped locking my car as sad as it sounds...

*sigh* I hope it gets better!!

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Oh yes! It is getting better, but I can't begin to tell you all the things that I have let slide recently.

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I missed Heath's dr visits last week.... It gets worse with each kid I swear I love my smart phone for calander and an alarm that I set to go off 2 hours before I have to do anything.

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:bigarmhug: It gets better!! I promise! As long as you have a baby, you are allowed to be disorganized, forgetful, and have an extremely messy house. If you don't start to feel better in a couple of weeks though, have yourself screened for PPD. That totally overwhelmed feeling was how it started for me. I don't know how you ladies manage to work though, I sure can't get myself out of the house on time to go anywhere.

Kiri- In the year after I had DD1, I locked my keys in my car 6 times. I never did it before, in 11 years of driving. Luckily I never locked her in there too. I also locked myself out of the house 3 or 4 times. Mommy brain strikes again!!

Really though, it gets easier and easier. By the time they are 6 months, you will feel much more in control. Hang in there!!

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Definitely mommy brain! Hang in there!!

I was also going to see if you had heard of flylady.com -- I do so much better when I use her schedule for cleaning,etc... As well as follow her mantra of "15 minutes" -- I'm always amazed how much I can get done in that time and then I reward myself with playing with the baby, reading, etc. for another 15. Anyways, if you haven't heard of her, it might be worth your time. I've always considered myself organized, etc but it's just so much harder with a newborn that this has made a big difference for me.

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ME! I feel like that everyday! I cannottttttttt seem to keep the house clean for longer than an HOUR! This baby has so much stuff already. I'm alwayssssss rushing in the mornings. I can almost NEVER relax. I always feel like I have things to do, or to clean, or bills to pay. It's never-ending with a new baby :eek: I can't imagine those of you with a toddler or 2 also... Believe me, this is how we ALL feel.

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FLYLADY is this Mama's bestfriend

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I am feel that way too. When people ask how I am doing - I just say I am in survival mode right now. I get up at 4am to get to work by 7am. I live on 5 hours a sleep a night (not continuous either, I have to get up atleast once and feed the boys), my house is a mess, my laundry is piling up. I just keep chugging along telling myself someday this will get better. A friend of mine posted this on fb today

You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have.

I too have locked DD in the car. I don't remember how old she was, probably around 1. I don't remember locking the car. I was walking from my drivers seat to her car door seat when I heard the click of the lock. It was not a good feeling, my heart sunk and I was as close to panic mode as it gets. Luckily we were in the garage at home and it was nice temp. I stood outside her window talking to her while my husband called for a lock smith. Trying to stay calm so she would not get upset. Needless to say I am parinoid about locking and closing doors now.

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Yes! I feel less out of control with this baby than with my first, but I still feel like I am losing my mind sometimes. What I found that has helped me a lot ever since my DD was born was to write things down, down to the most mundane things like picking up a prescription and cleaning the toilets. It works for me and makes me way less stressed. That being said, sometimes things don't get done & what do you do...you have a newborn, it's just what happens. It does get easier once life gets more structure as they get older.

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thanks ladies....i'm glad i'm not alone...:bigarmhug:

I started to wake up 30 mins earlier in the mornings and for the last 2 days that seems to help....get me to work on time, but i'm sooooo tired. I'm starting to make a list of things i want to get done at work and it helps to mark them off my list, feels like i'm getting things done.... guess i'll do that for home too, make a list of chores and then one by one mark it off.

"You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have" -- LOVE THIS! Thanks for sharing it.

i'm checking out flylady right now....thanks for posting!

i can't even imagine the feeling when you realize the door just locked and baby is in the car...ahhh

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Julie I am even to crazy to check e-mail each day. I use fly lady on FB and it post to my wall before I go to bed at night what to expect to need to do for chores the next day.