All along my x with the other pregos never got to into them. I mean he would feel my tummy a few time and do things for me when I asked but he never felt bonded or seemed to excited, was noraml for men to have a hard time since they don't feel the kicks and stuff. After the baby came I nursed and co-slept and he never seemed to care much, if the baby cried he just gave him back. Someplace around when they are 3 is when he starts to notice them and do things with them, but I always thought it was more the kids wanting something to do with him then the other way around. Since the divorce he has only seen them once for a few hours on Thanksgiving so this is no big shock.
Anyway it makes it so night and day for what Bill is like. He can't walk passed me or talk on the phone or even sit in the car or church without talking to, kissing or asking me how our little man was. He keeps telling me how excited he is to hold the baby. I mean right down to car seats.
I have never had a bucket seat in the past because I loved slings and would move a sleeping baby from the seat to my breast. Bill wants to get a bucket so he when he is with us he can carry it. I will never use it that way I have a pet peve about people leaving them on top or things thinking they will fall and who wants a baby on a mall floor so you can pay for something? I need the seats in the stroller an shopping carts for my other kids so having to put the bucket in that space seems like a waste to me when a sling is so easy and the baby can nurse on demand. But yet because he is so excited about it I am thinking about getting one away and he can carry it when he wants. But on our limited budget I just can't justfy the cost knowing we will have to get a RF seat anyway before the end of the year (I keep my kids that way until a min of 2) and I already own the slings so it is not like buying one to save us the cost of a sling KWIM?
I have been having lots of nerve pain in my back and legs and BH. Bill keeps telling me don't worry when the baby comes he will hold it for me since I held it for the first 9 months. It is so sweet but I miss being prego and love to sling my babies the first few weeks. But let me tell you I am happy that he carts Heath all over the place now so I don't have to
He was the SAHD when he has his others so it used to doing all the baby care while his wife works.
But the best thing is he notices infants all over the place and has major baby fever. In church if someone walked by with a newborn-6 month old he is always looking at them andsmiling and pointing them out to me. I have never seen a Dad so baby crazy. LOL this would explain why the man is having his 6th Such a switch from my X that I am getting used to the fact that this Daddy is going to want to share the baby with me.