I posted about this months and months ago, but now it is time to really decide.
So... who are you going to have in the room with you?
I want my husband of course. I would really like my momma there as well. She adopted my brother and I (couldn't have kids... due to endometriosis... so weird that we have the same thing and aren't blood related.... it is a big deal for my family that doctors were able to help me get pregnant despite the severity of my endometriosis) and she has never been part of the birthing process. I also need someone to take pictures the instant he is born and my husband will be busy!
My husband wants his mom there too because it seems unfair to have my mom and not his mom. I would honestly feel more comfortable having my dad in there than his mom! His mom is AMAZING. She is wonderful and understanding and caring... but she's not MY mom.. and I just don't want to be worried about anything or what anyone thinks while I am in labor.
I also definitely don't want ANYONE looking down there... want everyone up above. His mom got to see her other grandchild be born (literally see it all) and so it makes it even more awkward.
My only concern is that I am hearing you should instantly try to breast feed after birth and would hate that my dad and his mom wouldn't be able to see him for however long that takes after birth. How is that process anyway??? They put him on you.. and then do they take him away for weight and measuring and then give him back to breast feed.. or let dad hold first ... or....?????
Anyway... any advice and any opinion is very welcome!