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augustgirly's picture
Joined: 12/27/05
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Been MIA

Hey everyone, sorry I have been mia the past couple of months...My father passed away 1 month ago and it was completely devestating. My mom took him to the E.R. because he was having some pains and other wierd symptoms and 2 days later we found out he had stage 4 liver cancer that had spread...They gave him 3-6 months to live, and 7 days later he passed away. It was very very hard, still is but I wanted to update you all and ask some questions. I went in for my 37 week appt. today, I've been feeling alot of pressure the past few days too, and they checked me and I am dialated to a 2 and 50% effaced...She said I was very soft, could feel baby's head and predicted I wouldn't make it past 38 weeks. I am not sure if I believe her lol Just because she knows my last birth went really fast, but that doesn't mean this one will too, right? Plus she is kinda kooky... I am just really NOT ready yet, emotionally. I hope she is wrong, but wanted to ask....Has anyone gotten checked yet, and does this sound like a promising early birth!? My first daughter was 6 days late, my second daughter was born 1 day past her due date so I do not have a history of early babies

-Katie

MommyQCT's picture
Joined: 06/12/08
Posts: 387

Oh my.... I am so sorry to hear about your fathers unexpected passing. How devastating....

I hope the birth of your baby girl can ease some of the pain for you and your mother....

I have always heard that you can be a few cms dialated for a while and not go into labor, also that you can go from nothing to labor over night so its hard to tell....

Joined: 05/31/08
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First of all, I am SO SORRY about your dad. What a shock and a hard thing to have to go through at any time, and even harder while pregnant. My thoughts are with you and your family.
I'm a little over 37 weeks and at my last appt a week ago I was 1 cm dilated and 50% effaced. The midwife seemed to think it didn't mean I would go early, necessarily. It's possible since you have been grieving and stressed that could encourage your body to go into labor sooner. But I know women who have walked around 3 cms dilated literally for weeks. It really means next to nothing, except that sometime in the next few weeks you will have a baby, which you knew anyway Smile I hope your LO hangs on a bit longer until you feel more ready emotionally.

SunDevil28's picture
Joined: 04/30/07
Posts: 496

I don't have any advice about labor, as I am a ways behind some of you ladies so not dilated at all yet, and I never made it to a check with my son born at 37 weeks and didn't dilate until my water broke.

But I just wanted to say I'm really sorry for your loss, and how sudden it was. I hope you are doing as OK as can be expected.

carissar's picture
Joined: 06/22/07
Posts: 212

I have nothing new to add, just that I am so very sorry about the sudden loss of your father. I can't even imagine. I hope your little one stays put until you are ready. ((( HUGS )))

Joined: 01/20/12
Posts: 189

So sorry to hear about the passing of your father. It is hard to be ready emotionally especially after going through something like you have. Just make sure that you have as much ready as you can and when your little one arrives you will be ready even if it doesn't seem like it now.