How would you take my MIL's response to the news?

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Emily Joline's picture
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How would you take my MIL's response to the news?

"Well it's kind of a shock but I guess we will take grand kids how ever we can get them"

Although my husband and I had our wedding in front of our friends and family on Oct 1st we had a private ceremony back in February with just both our parents, the pastor and my daughter. (we did that so we could start the adoption process). So here we are, age 28 and 29 when this baby will be born, married (dating for 3 years and friends for 12+ years), and we already have a five year old and that's her response? And this will be her 7th grandchild! How is this a huge surprise? Am I just being hormonal or was that kind of rude?

nmpiche's picture
Joined: 08/29/07
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My MIL never really says the right thing either. Congratulations and try not to think about what she said too much.

SunDevil28's picture
Joined: 04/30/07
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Yeah that's definitely weird, it's not just you. Still, I guess the good news is she's happy you're pregnant! Smile

ChrissyD2103's picture
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Hmm, not the exact response I would want to hear either. Sorry she wasn't as supportive as she could have been. But don't let anyone rain on your parade!! Smile

MommyQCT's picture
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At first i read the response and did not think it was odd....
but after I read your history - it did seem odd! I don't think she meant to be rude! Maybe just surrpised b/c you were planning on adopting?

Love.Grown's picture
Joined: 11/01/11
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I feel your pain! I have the worst MIL ever, and she always seems to put her big annoying foot in her mouth!! We don't wanna know the gender, and last weekend she actually told me that I was being inconsiderate of her feelings and 'RIGHTS as the Grandma' to know.. lol. Rights? I didn't know anyone besides myself and DF had a say?!

Emily Joline's picture
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"MommyQCT" wrote:

At first i read the response and did not think it was odd....
but after I read your history - it did seem odd! I don't think she meant to be rude! Maybe just surrpised b/c you were planning on adopting?

I'm sorry, I should have clarified. My husband is i the process of adopting my daughter from a previous marriage.

Emily Joline's picture
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"Love.Grown" wrote:

I feel your pain! I have the worst MIL ever, and she always seems to put her big annoying foot in her mouth!! We don't wanna know the gender, and last weekend she actually told me that I was being inconsiderate of her feelings and 'RIGHTS as the Grandma' to know.. lol. Rights? I didn't know anyone besides myself and DF had a say?!

Glad I'm not the only one with an open mouth, insert foot, mother-in-law! Does it matter if you have a boy or a girl? You already have one of each. I think it's cute that you are waiting to find out and see if the boys team or the girls team is going to win in your family!

Love.Grown's picture
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"Emily Joline" wrote:

Glad I'm not the only one with an open mouth, insert foot, mother-in-law! Does it matter if you have a boy or a girl? You already have one of each. I think it's cute that you are waiting to find out and see if the boys team or the girls team is going to win in your family!

Thanks! Having one of each already does make me that much more excited for that special moment of finally finding out, but it seems like she is determined to drive me to crazy-town over it!! If it's not the over the gender, then it what the name should be and who we should allow to babysit. She is a nut case, I swear... Ughh...

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I know how you all feel. My MIL is a nightmare...but to make things worse (or maybe better, depending on how you look at it), she doesn't speak English! Just Chinese and Vietnamese. So she will be pointing at me and yelling stuff (she never talks, always yells). On a good note I don't understand it so I can somewhat ignore her, but it's horrible to have someone saying stuff about you when you don't know what they're saying. I have to have DH or one of his brothers translate for me, and even then I'm not sure they are 100% forthright with what she's saying. Normally her ranting revolve around the fact I don't do things the Chinese way...and all I want to point out is DH and I do them our way. She makes me nuts.

Cinn's picture
Joined: 02/19/07
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Bah what is it with MIL? Sorry you ladies had such bad or odd responses from yours. Mine also is rude and problematic. I constantly face issues with both my IL and its so nerve wracking and stressful I used to not go visit because of it and the only reason I go out there now is my sis in law and nieces live out there now. By my MIL standards its ok for everyone else to have babies just not me and I'm only with my DH for his money and I'm lazy and don't work enough etc etc etc. Cuz you know I don't feel bad enough about not working as much as I would like and not making more money. Until I got my U/S pics She constantly asked "Are you sure your pregnant?" like WTF? Sorry ranting again lol