officially in the 2ww!!!!

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glwolf's picture
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officially in the 2ww!!!!

Ok so here i am, I feel like I've done everything I could have so now I'm just gonna wait. I wish it didn't take so darn long LOL

My DH is having a tough time with the frequent sex this time. Last night he had a really tough time preforming and I didn't know if he would be able to :eek: so I hope it's emotional with the pressure... I know that can do alot to a guy. :confused: I hope we are pg this month so that doesn't happen again next month... doesn't do alot for my ego LOL

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Joined: 09/14/11
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Yay for being in the 2WW! My DH had trouble like that the first month we were TTC. He said it was just a lot of pressure and if he thought about it too much it freaked him out because he'd start to worry he wouldn't be able to. After we talked about it and got a little more used to the idea of planning DTD that changed though and he felt better about it. He hasn't had any problems since then. I was pretty upset when it happened because I thought it was me. I think it's hard for guys though. I think they crack under the pressure sometimes.

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"Leah261" wrote:

Yay for being in the 2WW! My DH had trouble like that the first month we were TTC. He said it was just a lot of pressure and if he thought about it too much it freaked him out because he'd start to worry he wouldn't be able to. After we talked about it and got a little more used to the idea of planning DTD that changed though and he felt better about it. He hasn't had any problems since then. I was pretty upset when it happened because I thought it was me. I think it's hard for guys though. I think they crack under the pressure sometimes.

it's good to know cuz the first question i asked him was "are you getting sick of me?" LOL he laughed and said no so I'm just gonna drop it and not say anything else cuz it might freak him out more.

the only other thing i can think of is maybe his blood pressure medication might be doing it? he wasn't on it last time we were TTC so who knows...

or maybe he's low in testerone? see there i go trying to find a reason. :rolleyes:

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I tried to analyze it too. My DH and I are weird though I think because we talk about everything no matter how awkward. It's not easy but we force it to happen. It wasn't a fun night the first night it happened. We were both upset but once we talked about it everything was okay and we tried to figure out how to work around it a little so it wasn't so much pressure. I tried to figure out what I could do, but DH mostly told me that he just needed to get over it and it'd be okay and it was. He told me he made himself snap out of it and then he was fine. Haha. I think he learned to look at it as a fun sexy time rather than worrying about what it could mean and caving under the pressure.

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If possible- maybe not tell DH you're "fertile"

Even though Kevin has given the "OK" with TTC... I feel like its awkward if I say I'm fertile so lets get busy... I just "make it happen" haha..and don't really talk about NEEDING to BD or that we should...

Then again, he has never really asked if I'm fertile, and sometimes (when I was testing him) I'd randomly tell him I am just to check... but we werent BD allll the time, just once a week or so, so he wasnt under pressure..

Now that he thinks its HIS idea to TTC... he asked the other night if I was fertile and I said not quite but we could practice...

Tonight will be the first time where I probably try to FORCE it haha... sooo Im debating if I should TELL him I'm fertile to make sure we get the job done, or just try to romance him a little to take the pressure off!!!

If it is "too much" for your DH to BD everyday like that could you guys try every other day? Im sure every other day would be good enough!!!!

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Joined: 10/24/11
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I went and got a cute new bedroom outfit. Worked like a charm! Suprised the heck out of him since Ive never really done that and the next couple days had NO problem. Smile Good luck!!!!