My daughter is going to be 2 next month. If we succeed this month, she will be about 2 3/4 (32 months old) when the new baby is born. I am a nanny and work a day a week usually for a few hours. It's not really part time, just something I do to make a little extra money and get Ashlynn out of the house. She comes with me when I do work and when I take care of the baby she gets very jealous. She will try to take his bottle, sit on my lap next to him, try to get me to change her when I'm changing him, try to take me away from him ... etc. She does not like me taking care of him at all. She loves him and enjoys being around him, just not when i'm changing or feeding or playing with him. Haha. This had made me nervous about having our own baby.
We've started talking to her about taking care of babies and how we have to be nice, gentle, loving ... etc. She has babies that she carries around and we are using them to try to teach her how we treat babies, I'm still a little nervous about how she will react. We've been very open with her that we might have another baby in the house one day. I know she's only two and might have no idea what we are talking about, but I think at least talking about it might help when a baby DOES show up one day. Ashlynn has always had our undivided attention. She is extremely spoiled because she is an only child and the only grandchild in both families.
SO ... I guess what I'm wondering is for those of you who have children how are you explaining , or how will you explain, this whole process to them? If you've been through this how did your children react and what did you do to make it better? Did you set aside special time to spend with just them or did you just work on including them in helping to take care of the new baby?
I was born when my sister was 23 months old and she had a little toddler melt down. She pulled out all her hair and just became a completely different little kiddo. I don't want my DD to have a little toddler melt down ! Haha !