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I have a dilemma...when I first got pg, I decided I wanted to go visit my youngest sister in Los Angeles (I live in Vermont) before the baby is born because I have no idea when my next chance will be, kind of a little kid-and-responsibility-free vacation for me and to spend time with her before I am tied at home for an indefinite period. I finally found a weekend in mid-April (I'd be about 28 weeks) that works for DH for me to leave, and it's kind of settled but I haven't bought a ticket yet. I want to go, but I am feeling like chickening out. I don't know if it's pregnancy hormones, but I just don't want to go that far from DH and DS and my home right now. Flying across the country and back by myself scares me right now. I would do it no problem before! Something about being pregnant makes it seem like a huge, risky deal. I know flying while pregnant is safe, it isn't really that, it's more just this nesting instinct pulling me to stay close to home. She is really excited for me to go and has been complaining that people don't come out and visit her enough and she always has to come here if she wants to see us. So I feel bad bailing, but I just don't know if I can do it! Any thoughts? Anyone else feeling this way (like you don't want to be away from your DH and kids if you have them?) Advice? Experience?

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hmmmm - thats a tough one...

I think you should go - sometimes I don't realize how bad i need mommy time unti l get the same time though... I never like to leave DS and DH. DS and I took a 4 day trip in August w/ my mom in PA (we live in NY) and I was so sad the whole time being away from DH - It just never feels right for my family to be part - even for a night...
Can you make it a shorter trip? Maybe not staying for a full week?

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I would go. I'm actually heading to PA from KS in the end of April for 10 days. I'm taking DS with me though. Trying to get away before the baby and before we have to pay for DS. It would be hard to leave DS and DH but I'd be afraid I would regret going when I was stuck at home and knew there was no way to get there any time soon.

I hope the decision becomes easier for you.

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I understand your instinct to stay home and nest, I am fighting it too. But I do think you should go. Your sister will love it, and so will you once you're there. It's like a babymoon without the hubby!

I'm going to visit DH on a work trip, flying alone with DS at 24 weeks, and I almost didn't do it because I was afraid I couldn't handle the airport and such alone with DS. But I figured we would all have a great time, so I went ahead and booked it.

Hope you feel like going soon, or that the decision becomes clear one way or the other!

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I am going to Texas at the end of March for a work trip (Sunday-Friday). I tried to talk DH into coming along with DD, but we decided it would be best if we saved his vacation time for after the baby comes. I am kind of excited about it. I will have time to myself to read and watch TV in the hotel room. I will bring my computer and Skype with DD and DH. Sounds like you will feel bad if you don't go, but you need to do what is best for you. Good luck deciding.

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I am right there with you. We always go home to OR in April, usually we drive which is simply not an option. I would never make it 26 hrs in a car.....Blech. DH wants to fly, but I just can't bring myself to do it for some reason. I know it is safe and blah blah, but there is some part of me that just isn't comfortable with it. I say do whatever is most comfortable for you. Good luck with your decision! Smile

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GO! I *always* have to fight the instinct of staying home. Next month DD and I are going with my best friend to Colorado.. a long 12 hour drive away from DH. I alwayssssssssss have to force myself to go as the time gets closer. It's always the what-ifs for me, but I also know that sometimes it's good to be away from DH (and/or DD) and that I need the 'me' time. If you fly in Friday evening and leave Monday morning, you're looking at less than 72 hours away from home...