Waiting for AF ...

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Waiting for AF ...

I know there is still a chance I'm pregnant but I'm pretty sure I'm not. I've had two BFN's and AF is due tomorrow and I'm bloated and cramping today. I feel like AF is on the way soon and I'll be moving on to July.

I was really hoping that June would be our month so I would have the summer off with the baby. I am a SAHM but in August I will start going to a new college. Right now I do all my work online, but in August I will be going on campus. So now I have to decide whether I want to put off school or not stay home with the baby as long as I would like.

With DD I was home for eight weeks and then she came to work with me at an in home daycare. I was with her all day everyday. I became a SAHM when she was 11 months old. I'm not sure that I will be able to leave a baby that is only a month old at home with my husband or in a daycare while I'm at school for hours, especially because I want to BF, and having worked in a daycare I'm terrified of putting my kids in them. I've heard so many horror stories and worked for a woman who would leave me alone with up to 12 children under 5 and most of the parents had no idea.

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I know what you mean. I was going to delay TTC a bit longer for a while because I thought I was going back to school for a 1 year certificate program this year and didn't want to have to quit partway through. I ended up not doing that though, so we are still TTC now. DS goes to a great little daycare/preschool 2 days a week, and was in an even better one before we moved that I loved, but my husband and I worked out our work schedules so that he didn't have to start in daycare for 18 months. I am planning to stay home with this baby for a year too, and just do some contract/freelance work at home. I didn't really realize how hard it would be to consider putting a little baby in daycare before DS was born, but there was just no way I could do it. I'm not even going to consider it with the next one. I know a lot of people just have to because of their work situation, and I feel so lucky I didn't have to do that. I just think that is unfair that women are expected to go back to work so soon in our country. In Canada and Europe, they get a year off, which seems about right to me. I worked at a daycare for a while too, and it was pretty chaotic and the woman I worked for would disappear upstairs for hours (maybe we worked at the same place! ;)), I would never have taken my kid there! I was always surprised when parents would come to check it out and then decide to enroll their kid. But there ARE some really great ones out there. Parents just need to do their research and ask around and find a good one. Anyway, if I were you I'd keep TTC and then just cross the school bridge when you get there. School will always be there when you are ready.

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I've worked in daycares for years and I understand your fears. I've seen places I would NEVER put my child but I've also worked in some really great places as well. Will you be in class every day? Does the school have an onsite daycare? If so, you could see your baby between classes and bf. I'd go ahead and ttc and like Maggie said, cross the school bridge when you get to it. Good luck!

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Joined: 10/29/09
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I can totally sympathize. I'm a teacher and though summer should be the perfect time to have a baby, I keep thinking I have to go back to school in the middle to end of August and if we actually were successful this month the baby would only be 6-8 weeks old and I can't imagine leaving him/her. On the other hand, starting the beginning of the school year with a substitute would be terrible for the kids and no fun for me to come back to whenever I plan on coming back. I don't think we will have to use daycare full time and my MIL is retired and will most likely help us at least 2 days a week so we would only need daycare a couple days a week. It is definitely a lot to think about.

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Joined: 09/26/11
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I'm officially here with you ladies. If this is our month we will have a due date around July 10th. Now I just want AF to go away! I'm so happy to be here with you all though ! I'm hoping for lots and lots of BFP's even if we don't get ours yet.

I'm pretty sure I've decided to just go for it and if we get pregnant this month we will figure out the school stuff later. I'll have nine months to figure it out Smile

Unfortunately the school that I'm looking into does not have a daycare on campus but it's a small town so I'm hoping we might find someone who has a home daycare that we can trust to watch the baby if we need to. I'm thinking I'll probably just go in the morning 2 or 3 days a week if I can make that work.

I'm also going to talk to them and see if I could take a class or two online that semester so that if I don't go full time on campus it won't be a total loss. I'm not sure yet if they do that or not though Smile

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Joined: 12/30/07
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I hear ya!
I'm also hoping for summer for school purposes- and because I like summer Smile

It'd be cool to finish in June n have a little time off and then have the baby w/o worrying about school- and then be able to start again in Sept- or take online classes in sept so I wouldnt have to leave..

ORR just take fall qtr off and start "fresh" In Jan, when the baby is 5ish months old!!

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I like summer ... okay love summer too Smile I would also love to have a summer baby because DD's birthday is in November and I don't want their birthday's to be too close together. If we don't get pregnant in the next five months we will break for awhile. I don't want the new baby anytime from Nov-Feb. The last couple winters here have been pretty bad. I don't want DH shoveling snow while I'm in labor. :rolleyes:

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"NutMeg4189" wrote:

I like summer ... okay love summer too Smile I would also love to have a summer baby because DD's birthday is in November and I don't want their birthday's to be too close together. If we don't get pregnant in the next five months we will break for awhile. I don't want the new baby anytime from Nov-Feb. The last couple winters here have been pretty bad. I don't want DH shoveling snow while I'm in labor. :rolleyes:

Thats me!!! I really dont want a Nov-Jan baby.. Feb would be OK for me...

So what I'm thinking of doing is if I don't get pregnant by then (to be due OCT) then Im going to take a break and go back on BCP in hopes it'll mix up my cycle a little bit and hopefully get me on track, then start back TTC in... May? UGH sounds like soooo far away!!

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That seems so far away, but I guess if we don't get pregnant by January we will be waiting until May or June too. That is awful! I was hoping last month to be having a June baby. I can't imagine still trying to get pregnant then. I know it happens but it would suck. :confused: