Thank goodness for pg.org

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Anngie60's picture
Joined: 01/28/07
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Thank goodness for pg.org

I can't believe how mean some people can be!

I was just lurking on FF and came across a thread where a lady was so upset as she had posted on 'the bump' (never heard of this) so I checked it out, omg take a look how can ppl be so horrible!!

No One Understands

We are so lucky to have pg.org where everyone is nice to each other and it's moderated to prevent trolls like these.

Joined: 11/10/12
Posts: 5

Wow. Some people are just mean and nasty behind the security of a computer screen. I'd like to see someone try saying those things to her face. Cuz if it were me.... They wouldnt dare say those things lol!

Joined: 10/12/04
Posts: 961

This is a really, really mean thought but honestly those ladies are so mean, maybe that's why they can't get pregnant. They have hostile uterus issues! Those are the women who, should they ever actually get a child, would beat up another child to get their kid ahead. Bitter angriness like that doesn't go away just because you finally get a baby. It's who you are. That is some serious ugliness.

elleon17's picture
Joined: 01/26/09
Posts: 1981

That's horrible!

Joined: 06/22/10
Posts: 5602

wow, nasty bitter b!tches! I understand the frustration of trying for years and hearing someone say 6 months, but REALLY?!!

nidia's picture
Joined: 06/08/07
Posts: 1812

Wether it's 6 months or 6 years, it means the same to the same person if they yearn to be a mother. Who knows how long it will take that perso that's waited 6 months so far to conceive. Those "ladies" are awful. So glad I am a part of a better community for sure.

Dundees2010's picture
Joined: 05/05/10
Posts: 229

Wow, it's so sad that people can think they can post whatever mean and nasty things they want on forums because they don't see the other people face-to-face. The golden rule applies to the internet, too!

mom2robbie's picture
Joined: 01/20/07
Posts: 2541

I can see both sides, not that I agree but I do understand.

I have dealt with infertility my entire life, from the age of 16 I knew getting pregnant would be difficult so I was prepared for the long journey (well, maybe not all the emotions). I get frustrated when I hear people upset at not getting pregnant after trying 2 months, 6 months, try 5+ years! But I never say anything negative to them as I know how frustrating TTC can be. When I feel the need to vent I do so at the TTC 2+ years board as I know they understand the frustration. My frustration at being infertile does not give me the right to be bitter to others and their ttc journey.

Joined: 06/13/12
Posts: 276

Wow!! That all I can say.

Joined: 11/08/12
Posts: 58

I'm glad this site is supportive.

But having been on wedding boards as well as pregancy boards over the past 5 years I can say that you will find helpful sites and you will find sites where you need to "wear your big girl panties" as they can be very mean. I always lurk before I post to find out what a board is like, and having looked at that board and the types of responses I don't think I would have posted.

Having dealt with infertility and having had a miscarriage I did find it hard when a friend was moaning that she still wasn't pregnant after 3 months of trying, at the time hubby and I were into our 2nd year of trying! But I tried to be as supportive as possible, she is now due on the 26th December while I am only just pregnant.

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Joined: 12/11/03
Posts: 2333

I can understand wearing big girl panties but damn.. what most of those responses say are just down right mean. I'd had b*tch slapped someone by that point!

A struggle with getting pregnant is a struggle getting pregnant. No matter if it is 6 months or 6 years.. It's heart breaking to not be blessed with the bundle of joy you want so badly..

I agree with PCCGirl813 110%! Call it karma.. call it whatever.. but you are who you are and maybe. JUST MAYBE you're not meant to be a mom because of the bitterness you hold in your heart! Lashing out at others because "misery loves company" is in no way going to get you ahead - or pregnant.. Offer your thoughts to the desiring mom on what has helped you get through the months.. years.. of infertility! Give them a glimmer of hope.. find the silver lining.. but don't be a cold-hearted hootch. :annoyed:

I couldn't be happier with PO and all it's members! Some are more brazen then others... some softer spoken.. but it's the difference between all of us that makes up such a wonderful buffet of a community! :grouphug:

angelover02740's picture
Joined: 07/10/07
Posts: 1342

Holy mother of god, I dont think i can seriously be part of a board like that, who the hell are they to say 6 months of trying is not a problem, regardless if its 6 months or 2 years its frustrating and and totally sucks when we want something so bad, uggh people have the nerve and it pissed me off to see everyone cheering her on... she's just a cyber bully and needs to get over herself

Joined: 10/12/04
Posts: 961

I need to add my experience.

I confess I'm bummed that this site isn't as active as it used to be. So I decided to test out another site. Big mistake! One girl posted that she's not excited to be pregnant and, trying to make her feel better, I shared that I really wasn't either. I told her we thought our family was complete and I have rough pregnancies which means this is hoing to be very hard on my kids and this really rocked my world. I said I knew I'd come around before long but right now, I'm struggling with this.

Well, I got some pretty nasty comments and one girl told me I shouldn't even be posting there because " this place is for planned pregnancies only". Wow. One girl told me I should give the baby up for adoption because I child shouldn't grow up in a home where she wasn't wanted from before conception and planned for. Blown away.

So I won't be posting there anymore. I like that people here can be honest about their feelings. I know I will love this child. It doesn't change the fact that I'm staring into the face of seven more months of misery before this child arrives and that im scared to death of how hard this pregnancy will be on me.

Grrr. Lesson learned. Stick with pg.org!!!!!

angelover02740's picture
Joined: 07/10/07
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"PCCGirl813" wrote:

I need to add my experience.

I confess I'm bummed that this site isn't as active as it used to be. So I decided to test out another site. Big mistake! One girl posted that she's not excited to be pregnant and, trying to make her feel better, I shared that I really wasn't either. I told her we thought our family was complete and I have rough pregnancies which means this is hoing to be very hard on my kids and this really rocked my world. I said I knew I'd come around before long but right now, I'm struggling with this.

Well, I got some pretty nasty comments and one girl told me I shouldn't even be posting there because " this place is for planned pregnancies only". Wow. One girl told me I should give the baby up for adoption because I child shouldn't grow up in a home where she wasn't wanted from before conception and planned for. Blown away.

So I won't be posting there anymore. I like that people here can be honest about their feelings. I know I will love this child. It doesn't change the fact that I'm staring into the face of seven more months of misery before this child arrives and that im scared to death of how hard this pregnancy will be on me.

Grrr. Lesson learned. Stick with pg.org!!!!!

I cant believe they said those things to you.. On June board a girl came on saying she didnt want the baby she was carrying and none of us judged her we gave her advice and told her to hang in there that being a mom is the most amazing thing in the world and we were all sure her hormones had a part in her fear, yes its great to plan a pregnancy I did with mine and some times things happen and we get pregnant but that doesnt make you less of a parent because you didnt do the math and DTD when you were suppose to, how does that make you a better mom than someone who didnt plan it.. Im happy you stayed around PO this is an amazing board

nidia's picture
Joined: 06/08/07
Posts: 1812

"PCCGirl813" wrote:

I need to add my experience.

I confess I'm bummed that this site isn't as active as it used to be. So I decided to test out another site. Big mistake! One girl posted that she's not excited to be pregnant and, trying to make her feel better, I shared that I really wasn't either. I told her we thought our family was complete and I have rough pregnancies which means this is hoing to be very hard on my kids and this really rocked my world. I said I knew I'd come around before long but right now, I'm struggling with this.

Well, I got some pretty nasty comments and one girl told me I shouldn't even be posting there because " this place is for planned pregnancies only". Wow. One girl told me I should give the baby up for adoption because I child shouldn't grow up in a home where she wasn't wanted from before conception and planned for. Blown away.

So I won't be posting there anymore. I like that people here can be honest about their feelings. I know I will love this child. It doesn't change the fact that I'm staring into the face of seven more months of misery before this child arrives and that im scared to death of how hard this pregnancy will be on me.

Grrr. Lesson learned. Stick with pg.org!!!!!

Some people can truly be horrible. Noone's feelings should ever be shut out like that.. it's ok to be scared, to be nervous, etc. I know I've been there before. I hope that your pregnancy is better! I know you will be totally in love when the baby is born if not before then Smile

stacymh's picture
Joined: 03/16/10
Posts: 1807

Completely horrible. I lurked on other sites during early pregnancy with DS. They were mean then too. There is no reason to be like that to someone, face to face or screen to screen. I have made so many friends on this site, even though I've never met one of them in person.

Joined: 10/12/04
Posts: 961

On my September 07 board, I met a bunch. One girl lives so close to me, I have even babysat for her kiddo!

FourMaybeMore's picture
Joined: 03/09/12
Posts: 724

So horrible. Unfortunately, many other sites are like that. There can be rude people anywhere, though. I was on a birth board with first DD here and there was a really toxic person in the group. The Bump is a lot of people that were on "The Knot" so they seem to be TTC #1 and some still have crazy bride syndrome or something. JMO. I also really used to a "certain" cloth diapering website but it can be downright scandalous there and I don't ever feel like I get to know anyone genuinely. It all seems petty, so I don't really get invested anymore because things can be so misconstrued online and you end up feeling hurt...

Lizbet22's picture
Joined: 04/01/09
Posts: 2859

Lurking...

Wow!!!
Just WOW!!!

It doesn't matter how long you have been trying...everyone has different breaking points!
Some people can go years and be fine as such mentally and others can go a couple of months and really want support.
I have seen posts over the years of women TTC their first getting narky with those ttc who already have one.
What ever someones situation it doesn't take away from what they are feeling and noone has the right to put anyone down!!

That made me see red!!!!
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PS...hey girls!!
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Jenni Beth's picture
Joined: 03/03/11
Posts: 1407

I, too, am thankful for pregnancy.org. We genuinely do have the best ladies on this board. Even when tempers flare we all still (for the most part!) keep it classy. Wink I would hate to be a bitter old bag like those cyber bullies. I want to say something really mean and nasty about them but I won't because I'm better than that.

Maybe someone should PM that OP and invite her to this board where she can get some support rather than be told to "come back later". Those people who are one uppers really tick me off. "You think your problems are bad...well mine are worse so you have no right to complain." SERIOUSLY. What a horrible board and a horrible group of women. EW!