Thread: Are You Telling?

Now that we have our BFPs we have some decisions to make! Are you telling anyone right now? If so, who? Are you waiting to tell people? If so, how long are you planning to wait?

the only person I have told is the massage therapist at work. don't know if that counts? lol

for DS we didn't tell anyone until 12 weeks. This time we are going to wait until Christmas, I will be around 10 weeks. We are just going to tell DH's parents, but for my parents I'm going to give them some kind of envelope. Not sure what to put inside it yet.

I told my closest friends (4) - my husband told my FIL, and his co-workers. I won't tell my immediate family (who all have big mouths), until 12 weeks.

Hubby, best friend, 3 local friends (so they can babysit for dr appointments), and my birth boards from Tori & Lucas.

Everyone else can wait for Christmas. I'd rather wait longer than that! I hate being fussed over.

This is a raw nerve right now. After I found out I was pg we told no one. Then, we thought I was m/cing (heavy bleeding with clots). I went to the doctor and had a negitive pg test. He felt I was miscarrying but did a blood test anyway. DH did not want to tell MIL, but I felt she should know so he said I could tell her that I had had a m/c. I told her that DH did not want anyone to know and did not even want me to tell her. Within 10 minutes she had put it on FB that she had just lost a grandbaby to miscarriage. (She only has so many options for Grandchildren). Blood test came back with a HCG of 6. Then, I went back to the doctor for a follow-up visit to make sure my levels returned to zero and to discuss how I had gotten pg after my tubes were tied. Low and behold my levels had not dropped to 0 but had doubled. DH texted MIL to tell her what happened. Less than 2 minutes later DH texted her back to NOT put it on FB. She texted back too late, that she had already put it on FB. Only this time she put that it was a daughter in law and to pray for her because this daughter in law has a lot of pregnancy complications. DH is so mad at her he has not spoken to her since. I can not believe that anyone would post about someone else's miscarriage and pregnancy.

If I had not thought I miscarried, I would not have told until at least after an ultrasound. I for sure would not have put it on FB until at least 4-5 months if at all. So, all of our family knows. People here though (we live 750 miles from family) do not know except for a few close friends. There again, only because I thought I had miscarried and was not still pg. The whole situation has been so bizarre, that I understand MIL was excited, but FB???

Even though I found out today we already told a few my closest friends some of family lol and that is it until after Christmas. Facebook friends can find out after Christmas too.

The first time I got pregnant, we told everyone immediately. It was awful when I miscarried at 10 weeks. We had thankfully only told a handful of people when I miscarried the 2nd time but the pain in my family's face was heartwrenching. When I was pregnant with both of my sons, we waited until 10-12 weeks to confirm although they had suspected due to my constant nausea. Honestly, I didn't like keeping the pregnancies a secret for so long. It felt dishonest and it kinda took some of the joy away. I honestly don't know what I'm going to do this time around. We live several states away from family so it will be easier to keep the secret, at least until Christmas, but I'm so freaking happy I want to shout to the world. After two pregnancies that I honestly didn't get to enjoy very much due to overwhelming fear, I would love for this, my last pregnancy, to be all about joy.

So far, I've told my husband and my best friend who lives 2000 miles a way. I would love to tell two of my best girlfriends when i visit for the holidays but they will surely tell their husbands and then all our friends will know. I'm trying to decide if that's what I want right now. DH wants to wait until 12 weeks. I would love to tell family when we have heard a heartbeat, either through ultrasound or doppler. I don't know if that will happen before Christmas or not.

Originally Posted by AlyssaEimers

This is a raw nerve right now. After I found out I was pg we told no one. Then, we thought I was m/cing (heavy bleeding with clots). I went to the doctor and had a negitive pg test. He felt I was miscarrying but did a blood test anyway. DH did not want to tell MIL, but I felt she should know so he said I could tell her that I had had a m/c. I told her that DH did not want anyone to know and did not even want me to tell her. Within 10 minutes she had put it on FB that she had just lost a grandbaby to miscarriage. (She only has so many options for Grandchildren). Blood test came back with a HCG of 6. Then, I went back to the doctor for a follow-up visit to make sure my levels returned to zero and to discuss how I had gotten pg after my tubes were tied. Low and behold my levels had not dropped to 0 but had doubled. DH texted MIL to tell her what happened. Less than 2 minutes later DH texted her back to NOT put it on FB. She texted back too late, that she had already put it on FB. Only this time she put that it was a daughter in law and to pray for her because this daughter in law has a lot of pregnancy complications. DH is so mad at her he has not spoken to her since. I can not believe that anyone would post about someone else's miscarriage and pregnancy.

If I had not thought I miscarried, I would not have told until at least after an ultrasound. I for sure would not have put it on FB until at least 4-5 months if at all. So, all of our family knows. People here though (we live 750 miles from family) do not know except for a few close friends. There again, only because I thought I had miscarried and was not still pg. The whole situation has been so bizarre, that I understand MIL was excited, but FB???

Wow! That is crazy and so difficult. There are some things that facebook is simply not meant for. To me, that is absolutely one of them.

We told my mother, father and brother immediately (it happened that my uncle that I am extremely close to passed away the day I got my BFP. It somehow help to know that although we lost a dear loved one, there was something to be joyous about and god works in mysterious ways.

Since then, we have told my MIL and BFF and my grandmother. My boss at work knows for logistical/sickness reasons.

I told people that in case something happened, I knew I could have there to support me.

We will be telling more people once we have the ultrasound. And after all family and close friends know (probably around 10 weeks or so) I'll let the facebook friends and rest of work know around Christmas time when I reach 12 weeks

My mom, my best friend and 2 cousins know. I wasn't going to tell anyone else til I told my dad. This morning, while visiting dad, he asks me when I'm due!! I was shocked and embarrassed that he found out from someone other than me. But now that he knows, im telling everyone.