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    I see many of us are on our 3rd baby. I'm not going to lie, I'm very worried about how this 3rd one is going to fit in. We had talked a little bit about having a 3rd but we had decided early 2013 that we didn't want anymore and I didn't think I could handle a 3rd. Well, God obviously had other plans.

    I'm worried about how I'll deal with a 3rd. I'm worried about how my 2 boys will handle a 3rd. I'm worried about my youngest Max who is a BIG time momma's boy. I'm worried about a 3rd c-section. So many things. But I'm also excited too.

    Even if this isn't your 3rd, what are you most worried about with this baby?
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    Sigh ... I am do right there thinking and worrying. This is #2 but DS is so clingy to me. He will be 4 when this one arrives but I don't see the mamas boy getting better by then. I am super worried I am scarring him for life and he won't be the same sweet loving boy. I worry his personality will change. I am such a worrier to begin with this life event just consumes me some nights.
    But I have to remind myself that millions of people have multiple kids and for the most part this worry is normal. And likely my DS will surprise me and handle this better than I could have thought. That he will always have a partner in crime growing up. That is my hope. But I won't lie I am still worried and scared.
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    I will also add that I am scared to have two kiddos once DH deploys. That likely will be next year and I work full time. I have family here and my parents help all the time. But being a mommy and daddy for 6
    Month periods is very daunting.
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    Quote Originally Posted by lizzib45 View Post
    I will also add that I am scared to have two kiddos once DH deploys. That likely will be next year and I work full time. I have family here and my parents help all the time. But being a mommy and daddy for 6
    Month periods is very daunting.

    This is one of my fears too. Luckily my DH will only deploy for 3-4 months and not until at least the spring after baby comes because he is still in training but I still worry about have two kids all to my self for so long when I have hard days with just one and his crazy schedule at the the moment.

    This will be our 2nd but my DD just turned two and is very attached to me. She won't go to sleep without me laying next to her and is usually up once a night where I have to go lay with her to get her back to sleep and she wants to sleep with me in the morning at 5am for an hour or two. I'm worried about breaking her of those habits and how she will feel sharing mommy with the baby. I'm sure they are normal fears about a second child.
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    I have no clue how 3 is going to go when baby is born I will habe a 6yr old and a 2yr old. I habe been thinking a lot about stepping down at work I am currently a manager of a subway I always say its not a 45 hr a week job it is a 116 hr a week job. They only have one manager per store and its never ending phone calls and stress. I have already missed out on all the firsts and would like to enjoy sometime with my kids. I am mostly worried about how things will work out if I let that paycheck go. This baby wasn't exactly planned at the time yes we wanted 3 but I was going to wait a little while longer I was suppose to start birth control when I got my pd ooooops
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    Hope you don't mind a lurker piping in here!

    1) - 3rd c-section - as long as you didn't have any issues with the others I wouldn't be concerned - this will be my 4th c-section, and I have had very similar recoveries every time - at this point I am more aware of what to expect, and try to allow myself those few days of hospital time to recoup, and am not in as big a rush to get home

    2) if your other LOs are very attached and need you to sleep - chances are that's because that's the routine they have had...they are surprisely adaptable to the situation and roll with it when they have to. I am the main bed time person in my house, so I understand the apprehension, but when Mommy isn't there, they have to go with the flow of whoever is, and it is a great time to change those habits.

    3) bringing home that new baby, your LOs (my 1st DS was 5 when we finally got to bring home a sibling for him - and he was quite attached) - will be just as excited about this new baby, and they totally get that baby needs mommy too. I actually watched A Baby Storry with my son leading up to his brother's arrival (not intentionally at first) - and it made for a great conversation starter with him about what he was thinking and wondering about having a new baby - and I think it really helped him to be more prepared for his baby brother (he didn't expect him to be coming home ready to play, he understood that it would be awhile before that would happen) - and he was a huge help to me (getting diapers, wipes, etc)
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    Hope you don't mind a lurker piping in here!

    1) - 3rd c-section - as long as you didn't have any issues with the others I wouldn't be concerned - this will be my 4th c-section, and I have had very similar recoveries every time - at this point I am more aware of what to expect, and try to allow myself those few days of hospital time to recoup, and am not in as big a rush to get home

    2) if your other LOs are very attached and need you to sleep - chances are that's because that's the routine they have had...they are surprisely adaptable to the situation and roll with it when they have to. I am the main bed time person in my house, so I understand the apprehension, but when Mommy isn't there, they have to go with the flow of whoever is, and it is a great time to change those habits.

    3) bringing home that new baby, your LOs (my 1st DS was 5 when we finally got to bring home a sibling for him - and he was quite attached) - will be just as excited about this new baby, and they totally get that baby needs mommy too. I actually watched A Baby Storry with my son leading up to his brother's arrival (not intentionally at first) - and it made for a great conversation starter with him about what he was thinking and wondering about having a new baby - and I think it really helped him to be more prepared for his baby brother (he didn't expect him to be coming home ready to play, he understood that it would be awhile before that would happen) - and he was a huge help to me (getting diapers, wipes, etc)
    Audrey
    DH Sebastian
    DS Sawyer 4/1/06
    DD Payton too beautiful for this earth, born silently 7/19/09 at 33 wks
    DS Greyson 6/29/11
    DS Parker 4/14/14


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    I was thinking how weird it'll be last night. I was sleeping in bed next to my daughters and they were all snuggled up with each other... arms wrapped around, legs flung over each other (it was so cute!) and I tried to imagine a little boy between them being all snuggly and it was just odd. It's easier if it's a girl because I've gone from 1 girl to 2 girls, but if this is a boy, it's going to be really new for me, and exciting!

    My girls will do great with the transition, we already talk a lot about how sleeping arrangements will change as I get bigger and as baby arrives.

    It is still hard for me to imagine a 3rd little one. I know it'll be perfect as soon as baby is here and it'll be like "How did we live before you?" type of thing, but for now it's just... odd. LOL!

    My oldest is totally into pregnancy and birth and she really wants to catch this baby (and might, depending on how I feel in labor), or at least she will be involved and watch the whole thing. I swear she's going to be a MW lol.
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    This is #3 for us too and also not unplanned. I'm worried about finances, how I will handle three kids, the age gap and this last one not being close to its siblings, getting PND again, the criticism from the world that w're having another... Really, you name it and I'm worried.

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