Ok so ya'll know my situation- which currently (mini update) DH went is going to counseling, wants to do whatever to fix things, I went with him monday. Still not a definite either way now. but we are on good terms right now and actually arent arguing.
Ok so... Tommys birthday is a month and 3 days away...hehe.... DH wants to have the party at our house. My parents have offered to have it here at their house. Mid July normally is like 100+ out.
There are pro's and con's to both but I feel like I am picking sides almost. Heres the run down for both options:
Parents- They have a big pool, Big house, my grandparents would most likely attend, my dad doesnt get up much ( knee replacement twice gone horribly wrong) so he would be in his own home. The con's they have 3 giant dogs- which would be in the grassed area which is fenced off from the pool area. Its my parents house, and I would feel bad if it got to be a mess. Also feel like I should limit the # of guests. DH would be uncomfortable.
My House- its my house and while when I lived there its kept very clean but I would be OK making a cleanable mess since its my own house. DH would feel more comfortable there. Also it means those friends that dont know our current situation wouldnt know the wiser. We can invite as many people as we want. The con's. No pool. My parents would feel uncomfortable. Grandparents might not attend ( they are 85 so they might not attend either way). My house is on the smaller side.
I feel totally torn and considered doing two parties, but really there is no need. Also this also means I am unsure how to split his 1st birthday with DH and my parents. We are planning on taking him to the LA zoo and to a local petting zoo (two different days) thinking my mom could go with us to one and dh to the other. Ugh. I feel like all these decisions someone is going to be mad or upset and I am in the middle. OK that was long but ladies have any suggestions, thoughts or advice?????