Since late October I’ve had a sitter come to my house, 10 hours a week, so that I can go to the gym, run errands, have a little me time etc. She brings her 3 yr old daughter along. At first this was ideal; a constant social interaction for both my kids, outside their classes and visits to the park. My sitter, (we’ll call her Pam), is A MA ZING! She is kind, compassionate, wholesome, and education geared. I trust her whole- heartedly, which is something I thought I’d never find in a stranger.
So now the bad- her kid. Her awful hellion. At three years old, and grates on my nerves like that awful cheerleader in high school. I love children, so this is a hard concept for me. This kid is beyond bratty. She is not violent, but that is the only negative trait she does NOT possess. She demands things, and refuses to say please or thank you. She is constantly being mean to my two kids. She climbs all over my furniture like a monkey. She raids my closet and bathrooms as if she owns the house. She takes things out of my pantry and fridge, shoves them into her backpack, and attempts to take them home with her. Add being a CONSTANT whiner to that neverending list. UGH.
Pam scolds her with the authority of a mouse. It’s a joke, and consequently, her kid, (Bella), walks all over her. I don’t put up with it in my house. If I’m witness to her demeaning my children or possessions, I speak up. I kindly, at first, corrected her, using firm, but polite wording. Now I’ve gotten to the point where, without actually disciplining her, I’ll be more harsh with her, and speak to her if she were my own child.
So now I’m at in impasse. I can’t tell Pam that her daughter gives me an ulcer, and that she is fit for a cage. I really don’t want to let Pam go, just her daughter. If I do let her go, I’ll need to give her an explanation. DH says to give her a chance to correct the situation before we let her go. How do you do that? Have any of you been in this situation?