Mommy phase?

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Mommy phase?

The last 2 weeks have been AWFUL! I have Sam testing my patience and now I have Drew CONSTANTLY needing me! I swear, it's like 3 months all over again! I feel like I'm holding him 50% of the day. When I put him down or walk into another room, he wails like a banshee. I just watch him throw a fit, but it doesn't seem to sink in that that's not an effective tactic to use with me. He still does it every time. We just went to a pumpkin patch/farm/festival thing, and the second he saw me on the carousel with Sam, he freaked. It has not been an easy month! Are any of your LOs going through a similar phase? I don't remember Sam going through anything like this. She had about 2 weeks of MILD separation anxiety, but that was it. Ugh. Drew is killing me, or at least giving me grey hair.

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I'm sorry you're going through that! Ainsley is pretty bad, but she's nit just possessive with me, she's possessive with everything her big brother has. She hates it when he cuddles with me. She'll come and hit or bite him. I hope this is just a quick phase for you!

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Hugs! Adair's been waaaaay "mommy-mommy" as we say for a couple of months now. She gets over it within 30 seconds of me being out of sight, but if I'm in the room and leave for one second to go, like, I don't know, blow my nose, she freaks out and follows me, crying. It comes and goes, actually, depending on her mood, but...yeah.

It *WILL* pass, though. My niece had some of the worst separation anxiety I've ever seen, and by 20 months she was almost totally over it. Hang in there...

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Alice hates me...genuinely, she's not a fan of me, but she does that for DH. Sammie Lynn, on the other hand, started that around the same age and at 3 is still constantly at my hip so she never outgrew it.

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Totally going through it here too! Like Leigh said though if I'm out of sight then he'll stop crying, but if he knows I'm in the house somewhere then he freaks. Hoping it passes soon!

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"KaellyNicole" wrote:

Alice hates me...genuinely, she's not a fan of me, but she does that for DH. Sammie Lynn, on the other hand, started that around the same age and at 3 is still constantly at my hip so she never outgrew it.

Well...yet, anyway. One would hope that she won't still be following you around in college Smile

This morning for the very first time, Addy pushed me away, crying, and reached for DH when he handed her to me. To be honest we were both THRILLED. I have been sad for him that he hasn't been getting much love so far, and it totally made his day. (I was also thinking "be careful what you wish for..." but we're not there yet Lol

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John has been like this for a long time. If I'm in the room, he has to be held by me or he throws a fit. I just take him everywhere, eat with him on my lap, take him to the bathroom, etc. My others did this too. Now they are happy to be with other people, so eventually it does become easier. I do go to work, but he stays home with DH so the crying stops shortly after the door is shut.

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Ugh. This is still going strong but was getting patchy...the past two days she's been SUPERGLUE BABY again, though. Soooooooooooooooo annoying. I know I should cherish the days she actually wants to be with me, but it would be nice to have five seconds without "Mama? Mama? Up! Up! UP! UPPP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!" (she even says it when she IS up. ??? face--->desk)

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It really depends on the day for Emma... sometimes she is sometimes she isn't.

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We are having some of that - mostly in the morning on the handover to the sitter. However, we also have the other extreme which is that Will thinks my DH is the center of the universe and that I am chopped liver by comparison! When I come home Will looks up from what he is doing briefly, is like 'oh, hi mom' and then back to what he is doing. When DH comes home Will runs as fast as he can to him, gives him monster leg hugs and then gets picked up and cuddles with DH for a few minutes. No such love for mom. Sigh.

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Oh, my DH would be so happy...he feels so rejected and I feel so bad for him! She is STARTING to have brief moments of daddy-specific love, but she's still 98% mama's girl right now. At this point I would LOVE IT if she would do what Will is doing...guess the grass is always greener, huh? Smile