I haven't been posting much - not a lot of time since going back to work. But here goes!
Will has quite a few fun new words including: , ane (plane), wow (with funny emphasis), uh-oh, bahhh (ball), hup (help), up, ock (sock), yuk, hmmmm (like yummy), ningning (Lyn-Lyn - name of his babysitter), and he will mimic you if you sigh. He also says mama and papa or dada and sometimes the dog's name (Scout - cout). But least cute of all is that he has discovered "no"! So I asked DH and Will's babysitter to not encourage the use of the word - to treat it like any other word he has learned which is to encourage correct use. With past words he normally loses interest in them after a couple days and then they just sit in his brain and fester popping out from to time. Well I keep catching all the adults in his life encouraging the bad use of the word "no" (bad meaning encouraging him to use it and to realize it is a special word with special powers that he is going to pull out on my in the grocery store lineup!). I have caught DH, my mom and the sitter all in the following situations: a) Will says "no" and they say "yes" (in a making fun and playful way) - no/yes, no/yes, no/yes, no/yes, no/yes, no/yes, no/yes, no/yes, no/yes, no/yes ...... and so on and b) he says "no" and they mimic and repeate and make a big hoopla about it! I have explained to them all that I would rather then try and distract him with something else or encourage the use of the right word (like if he is full to go back to the word "done" which was working very nicely until recently!). I am not trying to sound like a freak about this but I think we make the "no" stage harder on ourselves if we encourage it - and then we blame the terrible two's when it is us adults all along!
Other than the talking we are in to serious teething - he doesn't have alot of gaps left but is now getting his upper molars (lower molars were about 3 weeks ago). So far they are going ok.
On the sleep front (I am always the one to mention sleeping) DH and I had a royal battle that partially centered around sleep (or lack of STTN - with 1-3 wakeups every night up to 2 weeks ago... oh and did I mention that DH is not home 5 nights a week to help with this and I work full time?) but really it boiled down to being a boiling over a) about sleep deprivation and b) about lack of feeling like a team or partnership in this parenting gig. I thought we had a pretty good relationship before having a kid but this parenting thing has kicked the crap out of our relationship. We have really struggled to find our way together. In part I blame his shift work but I take some responsibility too (his shift work is hard to schedule around so I spent much of my mat leave taking Will on outings with other mom's even if DH was off - but DH didn't mind, he enjoyed the time alone). Addiitonally, somehow DH REALLY did not have realistic expectations about what having a kid entails and how it affects your life so he has had some real adjustment-pains. He is currently on my case to buy a boat - this is the single most important thing on his brain these days despite the fact we have a 16 month old and plan to get started on another in the next few months. Sigh. Oh well. So after our chat things have improved. I agreed to try his way of nighttime responses which I regret to say was quais-Ferberizing which I regret even further to say was a success and Will has pretty much slept through the night after 1 night of 35 minutes of off and on crying with DH going in every ten minutes and a second night of 15 minutes of off and on crying with DH going in after the first ten minutes. Since then sleep has been pretty amazing in our house for everyone. DH was able to tell me about his methods and strategies for putting DS to bed (where I thought he was just dumping him in the crib and running back to the TV) and I was able to tell him about mine (but at 16 months my methods were STILL not working as I still have a kid who did not sleep that great). And even more he has since started helping more in the evenings (even after he gets home from a 12 hour shift). I will have gotten home after 10 hours outside the house (working and commute) and will get dinner on the table and play with Will until DH arrives. Then we eat and then DH has been taking Will for bath time while I tidy up which suits me fine. Then I walk the dog after DS is in bed and the watch tv with DH if time permits. So there is still not much time for us together but I feel like we are on a better track of working together. It isn't much (him helping with bathtime) but it goes a LONG way to make me not feel like I am doing this alone so much. I have also been getting out for coffee with two other mom's / friends about every 2-3 weeks for 2-3 hours which has been nice. I refuse to feel guilty about leaving DH with Will on those nights given I do most of the baby night shifts and have of all weekends by myself (and then we "share" the other weekends but mostly we do stuff together or I do stuff with Will). For this Saturday I have suggested that DH take Will to the local drop in play place at the Rec Centre for "Dad's Only" drop in program so I can sleep in. I have not slept past 7am in 4.5 weeks (due to DH shifts) so I am looking forward to staying in bed until 8am (not aiming very high as I highly doubt I can make my body do it!). But it will be nice to have a morning to myself.
Oh that is probably enough from me. Things are better which is nice. Now I am impatiently waiting (and have been for about 8 months) for DH to agree to #2! He agrees we will regret not having another one but is not yet ready to take the plunge (but I have "empowered him" by going off b/c so we will see when he gets tired of being empowered!)
Keep posting! I do read the posts most nights (but don't always reply because I hate typing on an iphone which is what I often am reading on in bed).